The wife is coming over this weekend to resolve details towards filing paper work to initiate our divorce. I am greatly concerned that I will do or say something that will interupt the process... I'm not sure that either of us is greatly interested in pursuing a divorce, but I'm in a place where I am unwilling to commit...
we've just been through a lot together... and through counceling, I have recognized that I suffer from unresolved childhood traumas (I guess, kind of a challenge for me to recognize and accept)... I am not comfortable that suffecient progress towards healing has been completed by my self or between us as a couple... additionally, my wife is suffering from the results of her own childhood traumas and unfortunately she has decided that she no longer needs to continue her own counceling... I disagree with this choice...
After renewing the lease at my place and discussing with her an interest I have in purchasing a forclosed home closer to my office next spring (my commute between the house and office was about an hour each way)... she has asked that we proceed with the divorce... we just disagree on so much stuff and are no longer willing to compromise with one another...
I know that I would like to proceed with the divorce... that it is probably the healthiest choice...
and yet, I am fearful that when we are together this weekend...
Any comments or advice?Any thoughts or words of advice?
Make up your mind BEFORE she comes. If you are not ready to discuss the divorce and how you will separate you properties, then don't bother having her over. Nothing good can come of that.Any thoughts or words of advice?
I'm very sorry to hear this. I'm not sure what your house has to do with it, honestly, but anyway...
I suggest you meet in a public place so you can't devolve into an argument, tears, unhealthy and unproductive behavior. You are both doing the right thing, although it is painful. Hang in there. Who knows what will happen after you divorce and have time to heal, work on yourselves? This is not a death sentence.
Good luck.
Get an arbitrator. Have him divide things o an objective basis. Both of you then negotiate till you reach agreement. Then hire just one lawyer to represent her but divide things in accord with the arbitrator's formula. This will help you out in the long run.
Well first have a clear understanding of what will be discussed.
Like property, furnishings, car, credit card debt etc...
Decide what you want and be ready to compromise. This will help keep the discussion short.
Then I suggest taking it to a place that is not so comfortable as home. Your ready for divorce. You want divorce. Remember that.
Try not to be argumentative. Don't discuss your opinion on her choice to discontinue counseling. Deal with the issue at hand and the facts. If you can work out most everything the divorce can be speeded up through a uncontested divorce. Saves money and time.
I have no sympathy for you. You say, ';I'm in a place where I am unwilling to commit,'; but you ARE married - you are committed.
So you have to go to counseling for yourself, fine, good for you for taking that step. But where is it written that people have to be 100% healthy and well in order to be married? You took a vow that included ';in sickness and in health';; I assure you, that is intended to include emotional sicknesses.
I've been married for 23 years, and I firmly believe in the sanctity of marriage. I refuse to give you advice on how not to stop the divorce. You certainly ought to stop the divorce!
Saturday, January 23, 2010
I need some words of advice?
my husband wants to go to the marines but i'm not sure if i'm strong enough to deal with that lifestyle. i do want him to get a better job and make something of himself but i'm scared. before he signed all the papers they said he would leave june 15th but i said it was too early so they pushed it back to july 6th and they did that and also accepted his 5 waivers because of his high asvab score. i just need some advice from people who are in the militaryI need some words of advice?
My fiance is a Marine ... I think because I realized that he needed the mental discipline and it was something he really wanted to do I let him go because it was what was best for him ... he is an amazing person partly because of the Marines ... It has changed his life, and my life ...
It is hard ... being apart sucks ... but it doesn't last forever ... if you ever want to talk about it give me a shout ... I am still new, hes only been in a year ... feels like forever ...
Good Luck! You are a lot stronger than you know and smile even when you don't want to - it makes the world much less darkI need some words of advice?
if youre husband has a college degree it would be the best choice for you family, as long as he comes in as an officer this would bring great opportunities and job security. If he doesnt then the best he can do is to pick a job in the marines that will transfer into the civilian world in case he doesnt like the fast pace life, for example when i joined without a degree i choose to be an aviation mechanic and got my license to work on planes and helicopters once i did that i got out and making a decent living. Military is an easy hard life that can be rewarding but yet challenging for families
Well I think that it just depends on you and how strong you are. It's not for everyone. My husband got me pregnant right before he left for a 12 month deployment, and we don't even know if he'll make it back for sure before the birth. It works for us, but it's not for everyone.
You really need to go here http://www.allmilitary.com/spouseandfami鈥?/a> read all that you need. Join the forum and ask about anything that you cant find an answer to. These ladies are in the same situation as you and they can help you out.
It's tough for military wives. Long, long separations. Lots of moving around. Lots of divorces. In my platoon, there were 13 married guys. 9 of them were divorced in two years.
If hes a B***h then he should Not go.
I will give you what advice I can on this, have some experience. I just got a divorce from 8 years of marriage and I would say that for us, the military was definately the problem. I deploy quite a bit and that made things very hard for her. Some people do very well at it, but if you don't it would be better for both of you not to go through with it.
It will make things much harder for him overseas if you are not able to keep things together back home. Not to mention the stress on you trying to keep everything together back home when half of your life leaves for a year. I am pro military, I love it, I will do my 20 and more. I am also all about family. I just think in most cases the two are very hard to mesh together. My wife hung in there for 8 years, that is a lot. I hope this helps, if you decide to do it, go all the way. Try to get very involved so that you don't feel left out, that is the best way to do it from what I have seen.
Good luck!
My fiance is a Marine ... I think because I realized that he needed the mental discipline and it was something he really wanted to do I let him go because it was what was best for him ... he is an amazing person partly because of the Marines ... It has changed his life, and my life ...
It is hard ... being apart sucks ... but it doesn't last forever ... if you ever want to talk about it give me a shout ... I am still new, hes only been in a year ... feels like forever ...
Good Luck! You are a lot stronger than you know and smile even when you don't want to - it makes the world much less darkI need some words of advice?
if youre husband has a college degree it would be the best choice for you family, as long as he comes in as an officer this would bring great opportunities and job security. If he doesnt then the best he can do is to pick a job in the marines that will transfer into the civilian world in case he doesnt like the fast pace life, for example when i joined without a degree i choose to be an aviation mechanic and got my license to work on planes and helicopters once i did that i got out and making a decent living. Military is an easy hard life that can be rewarding but yet challenging for families
Well I think that it just depends on you and how strong you are. It's not for everyone. My husband got me pregnant right before he left for a 12 month deployment, and we don't even know if he'll make it back for sure before the birth. It works for us, but it's not for everyone.
You really need to go here http://www.allmilitary.com/spouseandfami鈥?/a> read all that you need. Join the forum and ask about anything that you cant find an answer to. These ladies are in the same situation as you and they can help you out.
It's tough for military wives. Long, long separations. Lots of moving around. Lots of divorces. In my platoon, there were 13 married guys. 9 of them were divorced in two years.
If hes a B***h then he should Not go.
I will give you what advice I can on this, have some experience. I just got a divorce from 8 years of marriage and I would say that for us, the military was definately the problem. I deploy quite a bit and that made things very hard for her. Some people do very well at it, but if you don't it would be better for both of you not to go through with it.
It will make things much harder for him overseas if you are not able to keep things together back home. Not to mention the stress on you trying to keep everything together back home when half of your life leaves for a year. I am pro military, I love it, I will do my 20 and more. I am also all about family. I just think in most cases the two are very hard to mesh together. My wife hung in there for 8 years, that is a lot. I hope this helps, if you decide to do it, go all the way. Try to get very involved so that you don't feel left out, that is the best way to do it from what I have seen.
Good luck!
I am leaving for the day....any last words of advice?
dont **** any HUGE and sloppy pussys
and call me 650 714 3775I am leaving for the day....any last words of advice?
LEAVE FOR GOOD JKI am leaving for the day....any last words of advice?
Don't pick eboue1 as your best answer. Have a great evening!
Enjoy Have fun , dont do anything i wouldnt do
Not really, have fun :D
Enjoy it. The hours of daylight are getting longer..Spring is coming (at least if you're in the Northern Hemisphere)--we just have to get through winter now.
If you're going to bed';nitee nite';,if you're going to play give it all you,ve got.
Next time come up with a more interesting and relavent question for this catagory.
Always check the backseat BEFORE getting in the car, and try to listen behind you at all times.
and call me 650 714 3775I am leaving for the day....any last words of advice?
LEAVE FOR GOOD JKI am leaving for the day....any last words of advice?
Don't pick eboue1 as your best answer. Have a great evening!
Enjoy Have fun , dont do anything i wouldnt do
Not really, have fun :D
Enjoy it. The hours of daylight are getting longer..Spring is coming (at least if you're in the Northern Hemisphere)--we just have to get through winter now.
If you're going to bed';nitee nite';,if you're going to play give it all you,ve got.
Next time come up with a more interesting and relavent question for this catagory.
Always check the backseat BEFORE getting in the car, and try to listen behind you at all times.
Discipline question.. any words of advice?
This past weekend my daughter and I had fun together.. it was her birthday last week and we went out and did things we don't usually do. We just had a good ol time. Sunday afternoon things went a little bad though. She asked if I would buy her something and I explained that we had already done a lot and I could not. She started being very disrespectful and smarted off using a profane word at me. We left the store and I took her home. At home I gave her an old fashioned spanking for it. It was not the way I wanted to end such a good weekend. A spanking is no fun for her or is it me, but she was very disrespectful and will not be cursed at by my seven year old child.
She is still a little upset about it, she is not pouting like she was yesterday, but she is not back to talking to me like usual. I want to sort of make up with her, but I do not want to apologize for the spanking. She earned that. I'm close with her, she's my angel, but I do not and will not tolerate this kind of disrespect. I'm going to have a talk with her this afternoon, does anyone have any advice on what I could say? She has always hated getting a spanking, but they have been effective. I'm just looking for advice and do not want to be judged.Discipline question.. any words of advice?
Do not apologize for the spanking; it was deserved. Ask her if she knows why you spanked her? If she says yes, then talk to her about ways to avoid having a repeat in the future. Tell her that she's a little girl and that there's no use a little girl hase for profanity. Let her know that she needs to listen to you because you're her mother and you are trying to point her in the right direction in life and you would never do anything unless it was to help her learn something from her experiences. This was a lesson in actions and their consequences. She's 7, so that should give her something to think about; and if she still wants to sulk and be upset, then just let her- she'll get over before you know it. You are the parent and you don't have to ';make up'; with her if you just gave her a spanking she justly deserved.Discipline question.. any words of advice?
Good job, Mom. Stick to your guns. Of course you regret that you had to spank her, but it was correct.
You did the right thing in my opinion. I would sit her down and ask her if she understands why you spanked her. If she says yes, have her explain it to you and correct any misunderstandings. If she says no, explain it to her. Follow this up with reasons as to why you didn't buy her what she wanted and that even though the weekend had been a celebration of her birthday she can't always have everything she wants.
Again, I think you did the right thing. I would have done the same in your situation.
Good luck!
You put your arm around her and tell her';I am sorry I HAD to spank you, but I am not going to be talked to that way by you hon.It is wrong for you to talk that way to anyone and you need to learn there is consequences for bad behavior.I love you but I won't hesitate to spank you again if you need it,because I want you to grow up to be a decent adult.';If you do not learn to obey me, then you won't obey anyone else and that will get you into a lot of trouble later on,ok?';
Then tell her it's all good.
what do you mean by a spanking? is this an american term? if a child has done something wrong then its up to you to reprimand them at the time, you do not wait until you get home to do it, this is because the child has usually forgotten what they have done wrong, can i ask what was your attitude towards her whilst you were walking home? were you angry or did you act normal? if a child acts inappropriate you have to tell them off at that time no matter what, if you wait, they will have forgotten what they did wrong, you asked for advice you got it call nanny 911. if you have to resort to .spanking . your child then you have lost parental controllelizabeth arden
She is still a little upset about it, she is not pouting like she was yesterday, but she is not back to talking to me like usual. I want to sort of make up with her, but I do not want to apologize for the spanking. She earned that. I'm close with her, she's my angel, but I do not and will not tolerate this kind of disrespect. I'm going to have a talk with her this afternoon, does anyone have any advice on what I could say? She has always hated getting a spanking, but they have been effective. I'm just looking for advice and do not want to be judged.Discipline question.. any words of advice?
Do not apologize for the spanking; it was deserved. Ask her if she knows why you spanked her? If she says yes, then talk to her about ways to avoid having a repeat in the future. Tell her that she's a little girl and that there's no use a little girl hase for profanity. Let her know that she needs to listen to you because you're her mother and you are trying to point her in the right direction in life and you would never do anything unless it was to help her learn something from her experiences. This was a lesson in actions and their consequences. She's 7, so that should give her something to think about; and if she still wants to sulk and be upset, then just let her- she'll get over before you know it. You are the parent and you don't have to ';make up'; with her if you just gave her a spanking she justly deserved.Discipline question.. any words of advice?
Good job, Mom. Stick to your guns. Of course you regret that you had to spank her, but it was correct.
You did the right thing in my opinion. I would sit her down and ask her if she understands why you spanked her. If she says yes, have her explain it to you and correct any misunderstandings. If she says no, explain it to her. Follow this up with reasons as to why you didn't buy her what she wanted and that even though the weekend had been a celebration of her birthday she can't always have everything she wants.
Again, I think you did the right thing. I would have done the same in your situation.
Good luck!
You put your arm around her and tell her';I am sorry I HAD to spank you, but I am not going to be talked to that way by you hon.It is wrong for you to talk that way to anyone and you need to learn there is consequences for bad behavior.I love you but I won't hesitate to spank you again if you need it,because I want you to grow up to be a decent adult.';If you do not learn to obey me, then you won't obey anyone else and that will get you into a lot of trouble later on,ok?';
Then tell her it's all good.
what do you mean by a spanking? is this an american term? if a child has done something wrong then its up to you to reprimand them at the time, you do not wait until you get home to do it, this is because the child has usually forgotten what they have done wrong, can i ask what was your attitude towards her whilst you were walking home? were you angry or did you act normal? if a child acts inappropriate you have to tell them off at that time no matter what, if you wait, they will have forgotten what they did wrong, you asked for advice you got it call nanny 911. if you have to resort to .spanking . your child then you have lost parental controll
Could anyone offer words of advice?
Hi, I'm a gay 18yo male and need some words of advice. I haven't even come out yet, and thought a chat room would be the best way to explore this sort of thing. I found this guy that I really liked online--every time we would chat, i would get butterflies in my stomach. (I knew it was real) Everything seemed to be going great. Yesterday, he told me that he only wanted to be friends, and i reluctantly agreed--I wanted more than that. Now, it seems like he is completely avoiding me! I look forward to chatting with him at the end of the day and he's never there. I know he's online though, because i can see when he's signed into another chat with different people. I haven't talked with him in about a week. What do I do? It is so torturous when you really like someone and they seem like they don't like you back. I don't know what to do. I'm feeling extremely depressed.....Can anyone offer any words of advice? I don't want to feel this way anymore!Could anyone offer words of advice?
This may sound like a ridiculous answer coming from a straight girl but I have been in a similar situation where I thought I was madly in love with someone (Not saying yours is just a thought). But, it may be possible that the butterflies are actually just telling you that those feelings are the right feelings to be having. Because he is the only person you have really found it may be an idea to talk to other gay men to see if you feel that way with them or whether it is purely him as opposed to the situation. Email me if you want someone to talk to. I'm a good listener...Could anyone offer words of advice?
That's confusing, on his part. After agreeing to be friends it seems like he's avoiding you. Do you chat directly? YIM? AIM? MSN? or just in chat rooms? You should ask him directly, when you get the chance.
That's your only real way of knowing.
Plus keep in mind he's a guy you met on the internet.
50% of the time they are fake, not how they seem on the internet....so be careful.
Unfortunately, internet relationships without any sort of visual contact or true interaction don't always work out well, especially at a young age like yours. If your area is tolerant of homosexuality, try being out more and try finding a boyfriend near you. Trust me, a long-distance relationship isn't the best choice.
well i hope you didnt expect a real relationship online cuz that wont work. plus coming out in a chatroom isnt really the best way. do it in person. it will be harder but its best. plus if you meet somebody you'll know they're real. ppl online r whoever they SAY they r. not who they REALLY are. hoped i helped!
Forget him, he obviously isn't interested in you, or he would be like you and couldn't wait to talk to you again. Get to know some other guys, I'm sure he isn't the only decent one out there!
You should have just told me you were gay. Honestly, now I don't know how to deal with you anymore. It is best for us to be just friends. Sorry for disappoint you in the chatroom...
I agree fully with the Insigne in gender, number and degree.
I agree fully with the Insigne in gender, number and degree.
Maybe he's not a homo- and likes torturing them :))
I hope I don't offend, but this is my honest reaction.
I think you may be reluctant to form a real relationship, as opposed to an online one. It's easy to be anonymous online, but you can't be anonymous when you are person-to-person.
The fact that you are not out yet shows that you are, perhaps, not ready to acknowlege your sexuality in a face-to-face situation, and are therefore resorting to online relationships instead, perhaps because they are less threatening.
And I can understand how this would be so.
Online relationships can never substitute for genuine human contact, and it is not to be expected that they can.
I strongly feel that you need to form some real-time, person-to-person relationships. They do not necessarily need to be romantic. Just friends. People with whom you can enjoy time together. Because online friendships can never substitute for genuine human interaction.
This may sound like a ridiculous answer coming from a straight girl but I have been in a similar situation where I thought I was madly in love with someone (Not saying yours is just a thought). But, it may be possible that the butterflies are actually just telling you that those feelings are the right feelings to be having. Because he is the only person you have really found it may be an idea to talk to other gay men to see if you feel that way with them or whether it is purely him as opposed to the situation. Email me if you want someone to talk to. I'm a good listener...Could anyone offer words of advice?
That's confusing, on his part. After agreeing to be friends it seems like he's avoiding you. Do you chat directly? YIM? AIM? MSN? or just in chat rooms? You should ask him directly, when you get the chance.
That's your only real way of knowing.
Plus keep in mind he's a guy you met on the internet.
50% of the time they are fake, not how they seem on the internet....so be careful.
Unfortunately, internet relationships without any sort of visual contact or true interaction don't always work out well, especially at a young age like yours. If your area is tolerant of homosexuality, try being out more and try finding a boyfriend near you. Trust me, a long-distance relationship isn't the best choice.
well i hope you didnt expect a real relationship online cuz that wont work. plus coming out in a chatroom isnt really the best way. do it in person. it will be harder but its best. plus if you meet somebody you'll know they're real. ppl online r whoever they SAY they r. not who they REALLY are. hoped i helped!
Forget him, he obviously isn't interested in you, or he would be like you and couldn't wait to talk to you again. Get to know some other guys, I'm sure he isn't the only decent one out there!
You should have just told me you were gay. Honestly, now I don't know how to deal with you anymore. It is best for us to be just friends. Sorry for disappoint you in the chatroom...
I agree fully with the Insigne in gender, number and degree.
I agree fully with the Insigne in gender, number and degree.
Maybe he's not a homo- and likes torturing them :))
I hope I don't offend, but this is my honest reaction.
I think you may be reluctant to form a real relationship, as opposed to an online one. It's easy to be anonymous online, but you can't be anonymous when you are person-to-person.
The fact that you are not out yet shows that you are, perhaps, not ready to acknowlege your sexuality in a face-to-face situation, and are therefore resorting to online relationships instead, perhaps because they are less threatening.
And I can understand how this would be so.
Online relationships can never substitute for genuine human contact, and it is not to be expected that they can.
I strongly feel that you need to form some real-time, person-to-person relationships. They do not necessarily need to be romantic. Just friends. People with whom you can enjoy time together. Because online friendships can never substitute for genuine human interaction.
I want your words of advice........?
On ANYTHING, please.I want your words of advice........?
Never drive a golf cart into a library.I want your words of advice........?
wake up and decide that it's going to be a great day no matter what, always be grateful for what you have (instead of worrying about what you don't), treat others with respect, smile at everyone, don't waste time with guilt or regret learn the lesson to be had and let go of the rest.................oh and on the lighter side, tina turner is the BEST live show ever get tickets this might be your last chance!
Like I say in my 360 profile, ';Believe half of what you see and nothing of what you hear and remember that 1 billion Chinese can't all be wong.
dont wash your whites with your reds..
you end up with pink everything! haha.
well..if you like pink i guess that would be fine
Never splash water in to hot boiling oil, especially if your face is close to it or any other part of your body.
DON'T use a
bunsen burner with an orange flame to boil water
Note: you will burn the beaker.
everything comes to an end.
Never, ever believe anything a guy says when he as a hard-on.
dont talk to strangers
Happiness is a choice. Choose to be happy and you will have a happy life.
Don't light a match and throw it in a vodka puddle.
Don't take candy from strangers in shady looking vans.
If it ain't broke, don't fix it.
take care of the ones who put you here : )
jesslyn
shower daily
A good friend will give you bail money, but a best friend will be sitting next to you saing '; Darn we screwed up big time';
Dont eat yellow snow
Dont kiss boys
Take care of your body. It is the only one you get.
fasten your seatbelt
Respect is not freely given, it is earned.
Don't hide your love.
Don't drink and drive.
Always say yes, it may be fun.
dont be gay; STAY CLEAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
movies are the best darn things in this earth
dnt drink and drive
never be sad
Never drive a golf cart into a library.I want your words of advice........?
wake up and decide that it's going to be a great day no matter what, always be grateful for what you have (instead of worrying about what you don't), treat others with respect, smile at everyone, don't waste time with guilt or regret learn the lesson to be had and let go of the rest.................oh and on the lighter side, tina turner is the BEST live show ever get tickets this might be your last chance!
Like I say in my 360 profile, ';Believe half of what you see and nothing of what you hear and remember that 1 billion Chinese can't all be wong.
dont wash your whites with your reds..
you end up with pink everything! haha.
well..if you like pink i guess that would be fine
Never splash water in to hot boiling oil, especially if your face is close to it or any other part of your body.
DON'T use a
bunsen burner with an orange flame to boil water
Note: you will burn the beaker.
everything comes to an end.
Never, ever believe anything a guy says when he as a hard-on.
dont talk to strangers
Happiness is a choice. Choose to be happy and you will have a happy life.
Don't light a match and throw it in a vodka puddle.
Don't take candy from strangers in shady looking vans.
If it ain't broke, don't fix it.
take care of the ones who put you here : )
jesslyn
shower daily
A good friend will give you bail money, but a best friend will be sitting next to you saing '; Darn we screwed up big time';
Dont eat yellow snow
Dont kiss boys
Take care of your body. It is the only one you get.
fasten your seatbelt
Respect is not freely given, it is earned.
Don't hide your love.
Don't drink and drive.
Always say yes, it may be fun.
dont be gay; STAY CLEAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
movies are the best darn things in this earth
dnt drink and drive
never be sad
WORDS OF ADVICE-please?
Just give me some words of advice about: Life, relationships(GIRLS), AnythingWORDS OF ADVICE-please?
Life is 90 percent what you make it and 10 percent on how you take it.
Dont get married before you are 30 years old.WORDS OF ADVICE-please?
Jack Spratt could eat no fat, his wife could eat no lean
don't drop the soap
uhh wow that's kinda vague of what u want.... u must be desparate!!
The right relationship will come your way when you least expect it. It may take a while but it is worth it, so don't give up hope. Don't try too hard to impress other people - people will and should learn to love and respect you for who you are.
life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what your gonna get.
Beauty fades; dumb is forever.
Always in motion, the future is.
Be mindful of your training, young padiwan.
Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate.... leads to suffering!
Destroy the sith, we must!
Life is 90 percent what you make it and 10 percent on how you take it.
Dont get married before you are 30 years old.WORDS OF ADVICE-please?
Jack Spratt could eat no fat, his wife could eat no lean
don't drop the soap
uhh wow that's kinda vague of what u want.... u must be desparate!!
The right relationship will come your way when you least expect it. It may take a while but it is worth it, so don't give up hope. Don't try too hard to impress other people - people will and should learn to love and respect you for who you are.
life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what your gonna get.
Beauty fades; dumb is forever.
Always in motion, the future is.
Be mindful of your training, young padiwan.
Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate.... leads to suffering!
Destroy the sith, we must!
Big job interview tomorrow! I haven't been this nervous since I got married! Any last words of advice?
Remember that your potential employer wants to find a good person just like you want to find a good job. So they really want you to succeed in the interview!
Go in with confidence and a big smile!
Good luck!Big job interview tomorrow! I haven't been this nervous since I got married! Any last words of advice?
I know job hunting can be very nerve racking but you have to stay calm here are some guide lines:
Learn all you can about the company or organization, prepare papers, including extra copies of your resume, job reference lists, reference letters, pad for taking notes, and any other information that you may wish to have with you.
Arrive 10 to 15 minutes early
Treat everyone you encounter with professionalism and kindness. Anyone may offer his or her opinion of you to the boss. It will count
Don't be shy; be enthusiastic, confident and energetic, but not aggressive, pushy or egotistic.
Don't make negative comments about previous employers or professors (or others).
Listen very carefully to each question you are asked and give thoughtful, to-the-point and honest answers.
Remember that an interview is a two-way conversation
By asking informed questions, such as the following, you not only gain knowledge about the potential employer, but you also make a good impression:
Would there be opportunities for advancement, and, how long before I might be considered for one?
What have been its goals in the last year, and, did it meet them?
What will be the greatest challenge in the job?
What responsibilities have the highest priority?
Can you describe a typical day for someone in this position?
How many people have held this job in the last five years?
Make sure you understand the employer's next step. Know what action you are expected to take next, if any.
Always thank the interviewer for his or her time at the close of the interview and offer a firm handshake and make eye contact.
Always send a thank you letter to the interviewer immediately. If there were several people that interviewed you, send them each a thank you note. It is good to keep the letter short but to also reiterate your interest in the position and your confidence in your qualifications
I wish you all the best!!
Big job interview tomorrow! I haven't been this nervous since I got married! Any last words of advice?
Look professional. Get some sleep. Work out in the morning to relief stress. Get a massage before the big event it will give you a calm demeanor which translates into confidence. Head up. Breathe deeply in through you nose out through your mouth slowly. don't forget to breathe. Give yourself plenty of time. do not be late!!! Project a happy confident personality.
good luck and just go in there and blow them away.
and remember, even if you don't get the job, there will always be another job out there for you! :D
prepare some questions to ask the employer. if you seem interested in the position it shows your confidence! Good Luck
Get there on time
Go in with confidence and a big smile!
Good luck!Big job interview tomorrow! I haven't been this nervous since I got married! Any last words of advice?
I know job hunting can be very nerve racking but you have to stay calm here are some guide lines:
Learn all you can about the company or organization, prepare papers, including extra copies of your resume, job reference lists, reference letters, pad for taking notes, and any other information that you may wish to have with you.
Arrive 10 to 15 minutes early
Treat everyone you encounter with professionalism and kindness. Anyone may offer his or her opinion of you to the boss. It will count
Don't be shy; be enthusiastic, confident and energetic, but not aggressive, pushy or egotistic.
Don't make negative comments about previous employers or professors (or others).
Listen very carefully to each question you are asked and give thoughtful, to-the-point and honest answers.
Remember that an interview is a two-way conversation
By asking informed questions, such as the following, you not only gain knowledge about the potential employer, but you also make a good impression:
Would there be opportunities for advancement, and, how long before I might be considered for one?
What have been its goals in the last year, and, did it meet them?
What will be the greatest challenge in the job?
What responsibilities have the highest priority?
Can you describe a typical day for someone in this position?
How many people have held this job in the last five years?
Make sure you understand the employer's next step. Know what action you are expected to take next, if any.
Always thank the interviewer for his or her time at the close of the interview and offer a firm handshake and make eye contact.
Always send a thank you letter to the interviewer immediately. If there were several people that interviewed you, send them each a thank you note. It is good to keep the letter short but to also reiterate your interest in the position and your confidence in your qualifications
I wish you all the best!!
Big job interview tomorrow! I haven't been this nervous since I got married! Any last words of advice?
Look professional. Get some sleep. Work out in the morning to relief stress. Get a massage before the big event it will give you a calm demeanor which translates into confidence. Head up. Breathe deeply in through you nose out through your mouth slowly. don't forget to breathe. Give yourself plenty of time. do not be late!!! Project a happy confident personality.
good luck and just go in there and blow them away.
and remember, even if you don't get the job, there will always be another job out there for you! :D
prepare some questions to ask the employer. if you seem interested in the position it shows your confidence! Good Luck
Get there on time
Friends any words of advice?
okay had my last period April 6, for 3 days, have been having alot of sex and this afternoon had very slight spotting only when i wiped and left about the size of a wuarted on my panites extremely light, we did have sex last night and the night before and lots before that whats up, and yes we are trying to concieve,,Friends any words of advice?
wow sounds like implantion.... here is website it say if conception was to happen it would today the 20th... so it could have happen yesterday and that was the spotting... but it also say u have to wait til the 4th of may to get a pos on a test.. so i would say sit back enjoy your time with your hunny and try not to stress... if the bleeding has stopped great.. go on.. relax and if it keeps coming i would check it out with a dr... i wish u goodluck and baby dust.. this months is yours....
http://pregnancy.about.com/cs/pregnancyc鈥?/a>Friends any words of advice?
please let me know.. baby dust to u
Implantation bleeding would occur at the time of implantation and may even take a few days to make it to your panties. Having said that and assuming your cycles are @ 28 days:
Your cycle started on April 6, you are probably ovulating @ April 19-24. It takes approx 3-12 days for implantation to occur after ovulation. So, you may not have even ovulated yet...it is too early to be implantation bleeding. The spotting is more than likely being caused by the amount of sex you are having.
If you are ovulating right now, an opk should identify that for you. You should also be looking for cervical fluid that resembles egg whites. I also recommend pre-seed lubricant...it is the only lubricant that has been proven to not affect the mobility of sperm. Have you considered charting your cycles so that you can determine when you ovulate? Babydust and best wishes to you.
From what you described, it sounds like you may have had some implantation bleeding. It also sounds like you have a short cycle, if thats true the timing would be about right. keep having lots of sex and test in 1-2 weeks. Good Luck
It wouldn't be implantation bleeding. It might just be friction from having a lot of sex
It could be from friction from a lot of sex. would be to early for implantation bleeding
wow sounds like implantion.... here is website it say if conception was to happen it would today the 20th... so it could have happen yesterday and that was the spotting... but it also say u have to wait til the 4th of may to get a pos on a test.. so i would say sit back enjoy your time with your hunny and try not to stress... if the bleeding has stopped great.. go on.. relax and if it keeps coming i would check it out with a dr... i wish u goodluck and baby dust.. this months is yours....
http://pregnancy.about.com/cs/pregnancyc鈥?/a>Friends any words of advice?
please let me know.. baby dust to u
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Implantation bleeding would occur at the time of implantation and may even take a few days to make it to your panties. Having said that and assuming your cycles are @ 28 days:
Your cycle started on April 6, you are probably ovulating @ April 19-24. It takes approx 3-12 days for implantation to occur after ovulation. So, you may not have even ovulated yet...it is too early to be implantation bleeding. The spotting is more than likely being caused by the amount of sex you are having.
If you are ovulating right now, an opk should identify that for you. You should also be looking for cervical fluid that resembles egg whites. I also recommend pre-seed lubricant...it is the only lubricant that has been proven to not affect the mobility of sperm. Have you considered charting your cycles so that you can determine when you ovulate? Babydust and best wishes to you.
From what you described, it sounds like you may have had some implantation bleeding. It also sounds like you have a short cycle, if thats true the timing would be about right. keep having lots of sex and test in 1-2 weeks. Good Luck
It wouldn't be implantation bleeding. It might just be friction from having a lot of sex
It could be from friction from a lot of sex. would be to early for implantation bleeding
I need words of advice/comfort.?
But I don't know what I am looking for, I have no idea why I feel this.I need words of advice/comfort.?
I can't never understand women... If you don't know what you looking for then how can I know? You have no idea why you feel what? Do you need advice or confort, that is 2 different things. OK let me try, first advice...find out what you are looking for...your cellphone so you can text your friends...second I am trying to comfort you...don't worry everything is going to be alright, you will find it, whatever it is...I need words of advice/comfort.?
Everyone has his or her own issues to contend with whether it is a personal or a national problem.For instance people maybe worried about lack of money,poor health,need for food or even family dispute others maybe unhappy or worried about someone they love,you maybe anxious about your future
In such times we need to find internal strength and happiness.we need to uplift ourselves from the dark path and look at the bright side of things.We need to turn to god the supring being who will never fail us.He is the powerful,all knowing and all loving, and soon you will be rising triumphantly above the obstacles and hardships of this world.
These feelings are normal. Just ignore them and let it sort out it's self. It will really pass.
well then...you are probably pretty pretty....I dunno...can people who hate most others really give good comfort talk?
Sounds like your lost.
Look for a way, no matter what it is. Religion or career, etc.
When you start following a way you will know your final destination, and you will be able to enjoy the journey.
Feel good about yourself........
If you feel depressed, just motivate your self... Always think that what's happening to you are challenges.... Because there are purposes behind all of that... just keep yourself busy and try to cheer yourself up.... Ask somebody you trust to give you some good advice.... Or do some fun activities... In a few days, you'll probably forget all of that.... Just pray to have courage to face all of that challenges you're facing and be able to face them successfully....elizabeth arden
I can't never understand women... If you don't know what you looking for then how can I know? You have no idea why you feel what? Do you need advice or confort, that is 2 different things. OK let me try, first advice...find out what you are looking for...your cellphone so you can text your friends...second I am trying to comfort you...don't worry everything is going to be alright, you will find it, whatever it is...I need words of advice/comfort.?
Everyone has his or her own issues to contend with whether it is a personal or a national problem.For instance people maybe worried about lack of money,poor health,need for food or even family dispute others maybe unhappy or worried about someone they love,you maybe anxious about your future
In such times we need to find internal strength and happiness.we need to uplift ourselves from the dark path and look at the bright side of things.We need to turn to god the supring being who will never fail us.He is the powerful,all knowing and all loving, and soon you will be rising triumphantly above the obstacles and hardships of this world.
These feelings are normal. Just ignore them and let it sort out it's self. It will really pass.
well then...you are probably pretty pretty....I dunno...can people who hate most others really give good comfort talk?
Sounds like your lost.
Look for a way, no matter what it is. Religion or career, etc.
When you start following a way you will know your final destination, and you will be able to enjoy the journey.
Feel good about yourself........
If you feel depressed, just motivate your self... Always think that what's happening to you are challenges.... Because there are purposes behind all of that... just keep yourself busy and try to cheer yourself up.... Ask somebody you trust to give you some good advice.... Or do some fun activities... In a few days, you'll probably forget all of that.... Just pray to have courage to face all of that challenges you're facing and be able to face them successfully....
In need of some words of advice!?
ex still calling, still texting, begging me to hang out.. she broke it off with me, because she just ';wanted to have fun'; and not worry about a boyfriend.. both 22, young i guess.. i can't tell you how much i loved her.. ever since she left me i've been in a sort of depression.. life lost it's fun.. we'd hang out still and life would be great and then she'd go a couple days without calling and i would crumble all over again.. i never called her, or tired to get in touch with her, all her.. told her it hurts too much to hang out with you and etc.. she doesn't care.. called me the next day.. i still care very much about her, but i'm killing myself.. i don't know what to think at this point.. she's got 3 weeks before she moves back home, and i'll hopefully be able to get on with my own life again.. but she wants me around as usal for the next 3 weeks, what will will i seem like if i just ignore her, or at least try to.. hardest thing i've ever done.. should i care.. need some advice...In need of some words of advice!?
letting someone go that you love is the hardest thing you will ever do, i think you know yourself you are not doing yourself any favours by not taking a stance. you are hanging on for 3 weeks time when the decision is taken out of your hands, i think if you could've stopped this destructive behaviour before now, you would have. You KNOW you should ignore her and move on, but thats easier said than done, good luck to youIn need of some words of advice!?
If it really hurts you that much, then just stay away from her. You're going to make it a lot worse for yourself when she's too far away to do anything...just tell her that you can't take it anymore and that you're not going to hang out with her. Unless, you do want to hang out with her and want to put yourself through that, then it's your decision. But I don't think it's a good idea, you need to start healing as soon as possible, same thing as with an broken bone or a cut hand...you wouldn't walk around with the bone broken, or just let yourself bleed for 3 weeks would you? Heal yourself, don't keep opening it up for more pain.
well if you have to get over her to get back to the life you had then, ignore her and all of her mind games caue that's all she playing with you! aviod her and miss her from a distance cause i know how you feel...my ex bf broke up with without any king of warning. no calls, texts or nothing after that (and he'd always ignore mine) a month later he's texting, calling, and trying to get me to come back into his life. so whenever i would agree to hang with him, he would cancell or somethin would come up. he wouldn't call for a good week or two, then back at it again he would be! confusing i know but i decided to ignor his request all together! let the calls rollover- u can read the text but don't respond....day after day it will be better! trust me you'll be so over her:)
If youreally like her then of coures you will care about her, but if your mind is made up then you should try going out of town for a while. I am not going to tell you what to do but this is just my suggestion. Good luck!
Lambchop a.k.a. Blake Ashton Lamb
Your best bet is to cut all ties. As hard as it may be, she is taking advantage of your feelings, and because you appear to be of zero challenge, she may not care, if she does care, showing no challenge can be a turn off to her. So if you are unable to cut the rope, then when she calls or texts, tell her that you have other plans/date with someone else. This will change the challenge and you will not only get gratification by shocking her, but may win her back, however you must stick to being too busy for her and give her absolutely none of your time this next 3 weeks. If it is meant to be then she'll come around after 3 weeks are over, if not, you will be able to overcome your feeling towards her. Good luck, stay strong!
letting someone go that you love is the hardest thing you will ever do, i think you know yourself you are not doing yourself any favours by not taking a stance. you are hanging on for 3 weeks time when the decision is taken out of your hands, i think if you could've stopped this destructive behaviour before now, you would have. You KNOW you should ignore her and move on, but thats easier said than done, good luck to youIn need of some words of advice!?
If it really hurts you that much, then just stay away from her. You're going to make it a lot worse for yourself when she's too far away to do anything...just tell her that you can't take it anymore and that you're not going to hang out with her. Unless, you do want to hang out with her and want to put yourself through that, then it's your decision. But I don't think it's a good idea, you need to start healing as soon as possible, same thing as with an broken bone or a cut hand...you wouldn't walk around with the bone broken, or just let yourself bleed for 3 weeks would you? Heal yourself, don't keep opening it up for more pain.
well if you have to get over her to get back to the life you had then, ignore her and all of her mind games caue that's all she playing with you! aviod her and miss her from a distance cause i know how you feel...my ex bf broke up with without any king of warning. no calls, texts or nothing after that (and he'd always ignore mine) a month later he's texting, calling, and trying to get me to come back into his life. so whenever i would agree to hang with him, he would cancell or somethin would come up. he wouldn't call for a good week or two, then back at it again he would be! confusing i know but i decided to ignor his request all together! let the calls rollover- u can read the text but don't respond....day after day it will be better! trust me you'll be so over her:)
If youreally like her then of coures you will care about her, but if your mind is made up then you should try going out of town for a while. I am not going to tell you what to do but this is just my suggestion. Good luck!
Lambchop a.k.a. Blake Ashton Lamb
Your best bet is to cut all ties. As hard as it may be, she is taking advantage of your feelings, and because you appear to be of zero challenge, she may not care, if she does care, showing no challenge can be a turn off to her. So if you are unable to cut the rope, then when she calls or texts, tell her that you have other plans/date with someone else. This will change the challenge and you will not only get gratification by shocking her, but may win her back, however you must stick to being too busy for her and give her absolutely none of your time this next 3 weeks. If it is meant to be then she'll come around after 3 weeks are over, if not, you will be able to overcome your feeling towards her. Good luck, stay strong!
Any words of advice or wisdom?
iv'e kinda been seeing this girl for a few weeks when it was called to my attention that another girl was interesed in me. im not officially ';going out'; with either but i wanna know how i can tell one girl that i dont want to go out with her with out hurting her feelings is there any way to do that?Any words of advice or wisdom?
Do you like the girl you been seeing? How do you know yo and the othr gil will work out? Or are you wanting to stop seeing one girl, because the othr look better? If you haven't commited yourself to the first girl there shouldn't be a problem. I wouldn't stop seeing her until you know what will be he results of the second girl. Then if you can easily jump from person to person maybe you don't know much about commitment. And you will do he same thing to the second girl if someone else come along. Think about your motives. Or maybe you just started talking to the first girl out of boredom. Why haven't you approached the second girl before someone brought it to your attention? Think before you leap.Any words of advice or wisdom?
Be careful in ';trading up';. I know a guy that every time he starts dating somebody, he finds another girl he wants to date instead. Maybe prettier, smarter, cooler car, etc. HE has a bad rep and his nickname is ';Trader up';. I don't know any girls who want to date him now. So be careful what you wish for. If you're really not into her, just let her know! If you're just looking for the next best thing...she may do the same to you too!
in my experiance there is no way to tell a girl you are not intrested with out hurting them.
the simple answer is no. But rejection is apart of life and we are rejected twice as often as we are accepted. It is a part of life. Now I'm not saying that you should be a jerk about it. Just be a man and respectfully let her know. Tell her you don't want to hurt her and that you feel bad about doing it and tell her.
a monk once said, ''to choose the one your more interested in'' lol
not really.. just dont lead her on. Tell her as soon as possible, just tell her that you do like her but not really that way. Let her down nicely. Word of advice though it maybe best if u leave the other girl out.. no one wants to think they were beat out by another girl.
Me personaly i would rather think he just didnt like me thank way or didnt c it going any where. than theres another girl.
tell hur dat you see hur as just a friend
Do you like the girl you been seeing? How do you know yo and the othr gil will work out? Or are you wanting to stop seeing one girl, because the othr look better? If you haven't commited yourself to the first girl there shouldn't be a problem. I wouldn't stop seeing her until you know what will be he results of the second girl. Then if you can easily jump from person to person maybe you don't know much about commitment. And you will do he same thing to the second girl if someone else come along. Think about your motives. Or maybe you just started talking to the first girl out of boredom. Why haven't you approached the second girl before someone brought it to your attention? Think before you leap.Any words of advice or wisdom?
Be careful in ';trading up';. I know a guy that every time he starts dating somebody, he finds another girl he wants to date instead. Maybe prettier, smarter, cooler car, etc. HE has a bad rep and his nickname is ';Trader up';. I don't know any girls who want to date him now. So be careful what you wish for. If you're really not into her, just let her know! If you're just looking for the next best thing...she may do the same to you too!
in my experiance there is no way to tell a girl you are not intrested with out hurting them.
the simple answer is no. But rejection is apart of life and we are rejected twice as often as we are accepted. It is a part of life. Now I'm not saying that you should be a jerk about it. Just be a man and respectfully let her know. Tell her you don't want to hurt her and that you feel bad about doing it and tell her.
a monk once said, ''to choose the one your more interested in'' lol
not really.. just dont lead her on. Tell her as soon as possible, just tell her that you do like her but not really that way. Let her down nicely. Word of advice though it maybe best if u leave the other girl out.. no one wants to think they were beat out by another girl.
Me personaly i would rather think he just didnt like me thank way or didnt c it going any where. than theres another girl.
tell hur dat you see hur as just a friend
If you could give your past-self 2 words of advice, what would they be?
Enjoy lifeIf you could give your past-self 2 words of advice, what would they be?
Fart and laugh.If you could give your past-self 2 words of advice, what would they be?
People won't respect you if you don't respect yourself
get over yourself
Be yourself!
Don't marry
Stop it!
in 1994, it would be: Buy Iomega.
keep on
Hang in.
Be Yourself.
l. Never get married.
2. Never have kids.
Chill Out
Swim Away!
Live fully!!!
GIDDY-UP!! Whoa!!!.....lol
easy bud
NO DRUGS
Why did you **** him why?????? was it because of the fancy car?????
be realistic.
if you're realistic, you're open minded, and it wouldnt be hard for you to understand things.
SLOW DOWN
say no (at least once in a while)
No excess.
Never saynever.....
don't f*ck!!!
I'll go further...I can narrow it down to ONE word.
WAIT.
JUMP-BACK !!!
Master's Degree
control youself
Love Yourself! (really)
wear protection
Fart and laugh.If you could give your past-self 2 words of advice, what would they be?
People won't respect you if you don't respect yourself
get over yourself
Be yourself!
Don't marry
Stop it!
in 1994, it would be: Buy Iomega.
keep on
Hang in.
Be Yourself.
l. Never get married.
2. Never have kids.
Chill Out
Swim Away!
Live fully!!!
GIDDY-UP!! Whoa!!!.....lol
easy bud
NO DRUGS
Why did you **** him why?????? was it because of the fancy car?????
be realistic.
if you're realistic, you're open minded, and it wouldnt be hard for you to understand things.
SLOW DOWN
say no (at least once in a while)
No excess.
Never saynever.....
don't f*ck!!!
I'll go further...I can narrow it down to ONE word.
WAIT.
JUMP-BACK !!!
Master's Degree
control youself
Love Yourself! (really)
wear protection
Give me random words of advice?
me and my band are gonna try writing a song about what ever u say.Give me random words of advice?
Always wear clean undies!!! :-)Give me random words of advice?
Do not drink orange juice right after you brush your teeth.
Don't eat yellow snow.
Do not ever spit into the wind.
';black as midnight, black as pitch, blacker than the vilest witch';
don't have ideas ther, but I always thought that ';The Babyheads'; would be a great band name.
keep the ball low
Use only as directed
Don't drink and drive
Turn down your Radio!! (Art Bell says this a lot)
Don't stand to close to a naked man (..so says Tim Allen)
..and always feed your dog whenever he is hungry!!
Good Luck!!
i get around and reappear
i have no fear
i have no tear
i get around and reappear...
maybe it is better to stop right now lol...Ok is it that bad??
granny thought a turd was a walnut, so she ate it.
i never thought it could happen
this one is goin in my log
when my nana went upstairs
she caught me skrewin the dog!
by the way that didn't actually happen
Always wear clean undies!!! :-)Give me random words of advice?
Do not drink orange juice right after you brush your teeth.
Don't eat yellow snow.
Do not ever spit into the wind.
';black as midnight, black as pitch, blacker than the vilest witch';
don't have ideas ther, but I always thought that ';The Babyheads'; would be a great band name.
keep the ball low
Use only as directed
Don't drink and drive
Turn down your Radio!! (Art Bell says this a lot)
Don't stand to close to a naked man (..so says Tim Allen)
..and always feed your dog whenever he is hungry!!
Good Luck!!
i get around and reappear
i have no fear
i have no tear
i get around and reappear...
maybe it is better to stop right now lol...Ok is it that bad??
granny thought a turd was a walnut, so she ate it.
i never thought it could happen
this one is goin in my log
when my nana went upstairs
she caught me skrewin the dog!
by the way that didn't actually happen
Words of advice?
to write on my little brothers b'day card hes turning 13
jokes would be nice tooWords of advice?
happy birthday. you are finally a teenager.
Jokes..umm idno.
dont stress to much over it. cards are cards. nobody really keeps them.
jokes would be nice tooWords of advice?
happy birthday. you are finally a teenager.
Jokes..umm idno.
dont stress to much over it. cards are cards. nobody really keeps them.
Thinking of ';temping'; in Radiology. And words of advice. Yes, do it. No! no jobs?
If you are competent and technically adept, you may find that temp contract agencies can place you in some larger facilities that will enahnce your level of expertise and expand your skill set. I've been in Radiology for 30+ yrs and am a director in a health system. It's a good way to experience a varied environment and get the right ';fit'; for you. Make a list of the requirements you seek in a job and be sure to ask before you commit. It is a great life for some techs and they love it. Good techs are needed everywhere.Thinking of ';temping'; in Radiology. And words of advice. Yes, do it. No! no jobs?
I haven't done it myself, but from what I've heard, you usually get really crappy jobs. If a hospital is willing to shell out that kind of money to pay an agency, it's probably not a very good place to work, or they would be able to hire people. I thought about doing that too, but luckily I found a great job right out of school. Be careful.Thinking of ';temping'; in Radiology. And words of advice. Yes, do it. No! no jobs?
Any career in medicine is agreat choice..with great payelizabeth arden
I haven't done it myself, but from what I've heard, you usually get really crappy jobs. If a hospital is willing to shell out that kind of money to pay an agency, it's probably not a very good place to work, or they would be able to hire people. I thought about doing that too, but luckily I found a great job right out of school. Be careful.Thinking of ';temping'; in Radiology. And words of advice. Yes, do it. No! no jobs?
Any career in medicine is agreat choice..with great pay
Words of advice/comfort? Women only plz?
I have been in a relationship with this guy for 7 years (and unfortunently so attatched).. and all the sudden he stops talking to me and cusses me out and turns his phone off for hours, even until 4 in the morning. He cant even come by my house to say hi and wont let me come over to his like I used to every day..all signs point to he cheating... I feel so stupid and extremely hurt and lonely, and really heartbroken.. and angry, and when I ask if he's cheating he gets mad and tries to break up with me, and me being stupid begs him not to and apoligizes, and I cant stop myself from calling his phone back to back.. Its very sad and I am seriously suffering and in denial. I cant even sleep at night. Have you ever been through this or have any words of advice or comfort to help me move on? I actually even considered calling a suicide hotline, thats how horrible I feel, like I just lost my world.. PLEASE NO IMMATURE/HARSH responses. ThanksWords of advice/comfort? Women only plz?
THAT IS JUST WRONG. YOU'VE TOGETHER FOR 7 YRS AND YOU DON'T EVEN LIVE TOGETHER?????? I THINK HE IS CHEATING. DON'T LET HIM DO THAT TO YOU. MOVE ON. I KNOW YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!Words of advice/comfort? Women only plz?
First of all if he is indeed cheating, he is a SCUMBAG for subjecting a 7 year relationship all for someone else without even having enough respect for you to just end things like a mature and normal person should. Last year I went through a divorce from an almost 7 year relationship where my bastard of an ex-husband was cheating on me again. You need to realize that if he is cheating then you need to let him break up with you and you need to move on and realize that your life is better off without him because you deserve better then this. I know it hurts and it is extremely difficult and lonely, trust me I know, read some of the first questions I asked on here, but your happiness should not be dependent on someone else and you need some counseling if you are considering suicide because of some idiot who doesn't realize or appreciate what he has. Good luck to you but get rid of this as*hole and working on finding happiness and some self-esteem independent of a man or anyone else. Take care and good luck : )
You should never let a guy ruin your life. Your giving him the satisfaction of knowing how bad you want him and how bad your suffering. It's gonna take some time, but MOVE ON! Of course, he's cheating, and you need to be a strong enough woman to say, I'm better than this. Find you a nice man that is going to treat you right. You will never find that nice man if you stay with him. I've been with my husband for 8 years and if he was to ever treat me that way, I would leave. I don't deserve to be treated in any bad way, and neither do you. Good luck.
i know you said no harsh words...but you are just being an idiot.
do you realise that you're letting this jerk treat you like crap? is that how you want to be treated like for the rest of your life?
read your question again and again and look at how pathetic you sound. my advice is that you break- up with him. what are you??too ugly to find another boyfriend who'll treat you with the respect you deserve? if you aren't ugly, then move on! yes, it will hurt for a while but do you want to be hurt by this man for the rest of your life???i think not!
you do not need him! you need a REAL man!
hey well it sounds like we are in the same boat my man has done so and still haven't heard from him. even though its killing me inside i'm acting like it doesn't faze me because if you show him that your hurt and can't do nothing without them then they start thinking oh i'm going to do this she can't live without me anyway. so maybe if you start not showing that you care maybe he will notice oh **** maybe i shouldn't be doing this i can really lose her. so what ever you think is right in your gut then go with that cause nothing is ever right until you start listening to your womens intution. HOPE IT WORKS OUT FOR YA
He sounds mentally and verbally abusive. Victims of abuse blame themselves and beg the abuser for forgiveness. You should seek help. Look in the phone book for a hotline. You will hurt, but the pain will go away.
Well It is kinda hard to no be Harsh. So let me put it this way. You have been with him for 7 years. Well I have been with my man 7 years also. We Have bought a House, Had 2 children, and gotten Married recently. When you give that much of your life to a person and you have nothing to show for it. That is when you need to realize that you have wasted the last 7years. My now husband and I were both going through the motions. We moved in together first to see how things went, then we eventually ended up pregnant. Yes I said We. Then we decided to buy a house, Then we had a second child yes on purpose this time. I had a daughter from a previous marriage I wanted to make sure this time it was really gonna work. We knew we wanted to be married but we did not want society or parents pushing us into making decisions on our on. TRUST ME THEY TRIED. Especially parents. But we recently got married after 7 years, On 7-7-07 to be exact. So To make a long story short if after 7 years you have not moved forward in your relationship with him Sweetheart it is no way You should WASTE another day of your life settling. People Treat you the way you Allow them to. If you make a doormat of yourself then that is how you will be treated. Don't let him do that to you. Unfortunately feeling cannot be turned off like a light switch. The same way you fell into him. You need to fall out. You see he has no concern for you or your feeling or he would not cuss you, Cut you off, and not speak to you for days. HE does not have the Balls to let you know your not what he wants. Instead he uses you like a Dirty dish towel. Now if you feel like that is what you deserve. Then you wait for him. If you know that you are worth more than that. You find a way, to move on. Lie to yourself until it is the truth. Tell yourself whatever you need to shake him off. He is a bad habit that is emotionally scaring you. You deserve better. You allow him to treat you like dirt. Now your at the point that you feel like life is not worth living without him. Girlfriend PLEASE. You have not been living the last 7years if that is what you deal with. If you want to hold on to him because of the time, There is one thing worse than wasting 7 years on someone, Thats wasting 7 years and 1 day, just think of how much time you will waste if 11 years pass and you realize he is still the jerk he was years before that. So you can continue to waste your life which is much more precious than you are giving it credit for. You are worth more than you are giving yourself credit for. Your life is more that just him. He is not who completes you. Somewhere there is man out there that is going to be all you want, need and More. God has more in store for you than being a doormat. Love yourself first, Love yourself enough to look in the mirror and say it. If he don't love me, Then the most important person in the world does, and that is ME(you)..... Love yourself. Then share that love with someone who can love you as much as you do. Don't let him or anyone else determine your worth. YOu determine your worth. YOu are worth so much more. Move on girlfriend. Move on. Love yourself, and Move on.
Good Luck finding your real Love.
Just take it easy and just because your losing this guy of your does not mean that the world just stopped! Talk to him because all those signs are cheating signs....and if he dosent respond then leave him because you dont want to get involved with a person like that, who is going to be unfaithful! Move and stay strong.....
Ask him straight up. ';Are you in love with me? Do you love me as much as I love you?'; Sweetheart, he's not the only guy out there that can be your match/mate. You are thinking drastically because you have been with just him for 7 yrs and afraid of being alone. Dont you have any other supporting friends? If he does want to break up, I know it would be extremely hard on you. Sorry.
Are you going to school? High School? Tech School? Vocational School? College? Focus on your future on what career that you would like to do. You cant just hope for the best that some guy is going to stay with you. I dont know if you already have your education planned. Maybe he is going thru some kind of crisis. Maybe he has not matured yet. But whatever it is.... the 2 of you need to talk. Hopefully, calmly.
Hypethetically speaking............ the 2 of you get married and he still has outbursts like that. You are miserable because he does not want to talk. He shuts you out and seems to be mad all the time. Then it can get worse. ........... That's no way to live. I was with the wrong man for 10 yrs and had 2 kids with him. Dont get me wrong, I LOVE my kids. I believe they will always be with me.
I wish I could be there for you for support. I will try here. I hope I helped. I hope to help more.
Good luck.
you should go hang out with some of your friends go out have a good time and MOVE ON!
trust me it isn't worth it especially if he is cheating...
my friend just went through the same thing, not so long a relationship but he tried to break up with her 6 times and she begged him not to. it is not the best idea. you dont want the guy to think you are desperate. and as hard as it is move on. think of the time you were together as a good part of your life. and dont look back regretting. i know you have probably heard this so many times but there are other fish in the sea and you never know who you will meet. drop this guy and if he really wants you back then he will come back but otherwise you dont need that stress in your life.
good luck
NEVER NEVER NEVER make someone else your ';world';...that's so unwise (I'm trying not to be harsh!).
Dump the guy because that relationship is basically over. Treasure the fond memories, learn any lessons that are there, and move on with your life.
Don't lower yourself to beg someone to stick around, when they are totally disrespecting you. No one is worth that, and with over 3 billion other males on the planet, there are MANY better options for you sugar (not the least of which is being single for a while).
Take care of you, and stop demeaning yourself to someone who apparently doesn't care anymore. That relationship has run its course...accept that and move on.
May the path ahead be sunny soon!
First of all - you need to realize that he probably isn't coming around anytime soon and that you are going to need time to heal and get over the huge hump of losing a relationship. It's just a fact. So take things day by day - and do not call him. Think of all the crap he's done and accept the fact that he doesn't even care enough about you to give you closure - so you may not have closure. Not everyone gets it. Although I know you deserve it, he just won't give it to you. It's wrong and he sucks and he deserves to sit in his miserable existence for the rest of his life, but it's the way it is. Once you can manage to get that out of the way (and it will take time) - you will start to realize how much better you feel after that and then you will see that you deserve someone that won't waste 7 years of your life and will not lie to you and will not treat you like a second class citizen...and when you do that - that is when you will find it. But first, concentrate on you and don't worry so much about him. Obviously what you are doing right now (contacting him trying to get answers) isn't working and is only making you feel worse, so stop that. And should he want another go at it - say no. Please. For yourself and your own sanity. Just stay away from the a$$hole until you feel strong enough to handle him and say no to him.
well definitely dont commit suicide because a guy isnt worth that no matter who it is.As hard as it is you really need to move on.ive been in this same position and you just need to get him out of your life and try to find someone else.It will be hard at first but trust me theres better guys out there and you can find one.
Oh, thats awful... I'm sure that it'll be okay, did you say anything to upset him? Maybe asking him if he was cheating might have upset him. Because if he wasn't it might feel to him as if you were questioning his loyalty to you, but if something is up (a.k.a cheating) then he wasn't right anyway. I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling this way. Hope that this helps somehow. Feel better
dear you just need to understand that you are ruining your life for a jerk who kinda left you for someone else... y??? y are u doing this to yourself? i know it hurts a lot and trust me i can feel your pain but you need to overcome your pain and first of all go n talk to him directly about what exactly he wants? cuz you should know whether he's with you or not? don't be afraid of him or apologize everytime he threatens you about breaking up,its ok cuz i really don't think you should be staying with him anymore after all he's hurt you so much...
don't spoil your health for him and thank God that he saved you from such a loser... at least now you can lead your life peacefully without any tensions and worries... plz dear you need to help yourself none of us can help you the way you can...!!! gud luck and smile:)
I know that is how you feel, but you haven't lost your world. Things change constantly in our lives and relationships. This is a bad spell for you, maybe permanent, maybe not. My point is don't let yourself be miserable, nobody can predict the future. Quit calling him, and keep yourself busy. Give him time to figure out that possibly your the one who has a change of heart about this relationship. Maybe he will decide he doesn't like it when he is not in the drivers seat. Hopefully, if that doesn't happen you will be a little farther down the road to getting over it and feeling better about it. Best of luck you.
Break it off with him. If he's cussing you out, he's not good for you. Besides, you both seem very unhappy in your relationship.
You were right in trying to seek professional help. We could all use a little therapy sometimes. It could help ease a lot of your troubles. I don't think you should deal with this all by yourself.
Good luck and I hope everything works out for you.
This is all part of life. To love and to have your heart broken. It happens to the best of us. I don't know why the guy just all of a sudden has began to ignore you or if that is his immature way of breaking up because he either doesn't feel the same about you anymore or maybe he was cheating. I wish I could say that tomorrow will be a better day, but it doesn't work that way. Love hurts. When you fall in love you are giving them all your trust, emotions, etc and when your heart gets broken it takes time to heal. But Time is the healer to all things. Just take one day at a time. Let him calm down a few days and I mean no driving by his house, calling him at all, etc. Lets things cool down and go from there. Good luck.
as hard as it is move on!
i know how you are feeling dear be glad that you dont have a child with him try to find a new hobby to keep you occupied its not going to be easy but you have to try for your sake rest assured the minute you start getting over him he'll come back to you and apologise for now try and avoid calling him take it one day at a time and one step at a time the'll be a time when you will feel so lonely that you'll be tempted to pick up the phone and call but don't do it rather call a friend or your mom goodluck dear.they say heartaches lasts as long as you allow them to and don't keep the pain learn from your past relationships and that guy is not worth it its painful to waist years on someone who is not worth it if he is woth it now he won't be worth ten years from now.
THAT IS JUST WRONG. YOU'VE TOGETHER FOR 7 YRS AND YOU DON'T EVEN LIVE TOGETHER?????? I THINK HE IS CHEATING. DON'T LET HIM DO THAT TO YOU. MOVE ON. I KNOW YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!Words of advice/comfort? Women only plz?
First of all if he is indeed cheating, he is a SCUMBAG for subjecting a 7 year relationship all for someone else without even having enough respect for you to just end things like a mature and normal person should. Last year I went through a divorce from an almost 7 year relationship where my bastard of an ex-husband was cheating on me again. You need to realize that if he is cheating then you need to let him break up with you and you need to move on and realize that your life is better off without him because you deserve better then this. I know it hurts and it is extremely difficult and lonely, trust me I know, read some of the first questions I asked on here, but your happiness should not be dependent on someone else and you need some counseling if you are considering suicide because of some idiot who doesn't realize or appreciate what he has. Good luck to you but get rid of this as*hole and working on finding happiness and some self-esteem independent of a man or anyone else. Take care and good luck : )
You should never let a guy ruin your life. Your giving him the satisfaction of knowing how bad you want him and how bad your suffering. It's gonna take some time, but MOVE ON! Of course, he's cheating, and you need to be a strong enough woman to say, I'm better than this. Find you a nice man that is going to treat you right. You will never find that nice man if you stay with him. I've been with my husband for 8 years and if he was to ever treat me that way, I would leave. I don't deserve to be treated in any bad way, and neither do you. Good luck.
i know you said no harsh words...but you are just being an idiot.
do you realise that you're letting this jerk treat you like crap? is that how you want to be treated like for the rest of your life?
read your question again and again and look at how pathetic you sound. my advice is that you break- up with him. what are you??too ugly to find another boyfriend who'll treat you with the respect you deserve? if you aren't ugly, then move on! yes, it will hurt for a while but do you want to be hurt by this man for the rest of your life???i think not!
you do not need him! you need a REAL man!
hey well it sounds like we are in the same boat my man has done so and still haven't heard from him. even though its killing me inside i'm acting like it doesn't faze me because if you show him that your hurt and can't do nothing without them then they start thinking oh i'm going to do this she can't live without me anyway. so maybe if you start not showing that you care maybe he will notice oh **** maybe i shouldn't be doing this i can really lose her. so what ever you think is right in your gut then go with that cause nothing is ever right until you start listening to your womens intution. HOPE IT WORKS OUT FOR YA
He sounds mentally and verbally abusive. Victims of abuse blame themselves and beg the abuser for forgiveness. You should seek help. Look in the phone book for a hotline. You will hurt, but the pain will go away.
Well It is kinda hard to no be Harsh. So let me put it this way. You have been with him for 7 years. Well I have been with my man 7 years also. We Have bought a House, Had 2 children, and gotten Married recently. When you give that much of your life to a person and you have nothing to show for it. That is when you need to realize that you have wasted the last 7years. My now husband and I were both going through the motions. We moved in together first to see how things went, then we eventually ended up pregnant. Yes I said We. Then we decided to buy a house, Then we had a second child yes on purpose this time. I had a daughter from a previous marriage I wanted to make sure this time it was really gonna work. We knew we wanted to be married but we did not want society or parents pushing us into making decisions on our on. TRUST ME THEY TRIED. Especially parents. But we recently got married after 7 years, On 7-7-07 to be exact. So To make a long story short if after 7 years you have not moved forward in your relationship with him Sweetheart it is no way You should WASTE another day of your life settling. People Treat you the way you Allow them to. If you make a doormat of yourself then that is how you will be treated. Don't let him do that to you. Unfortunately feeling cannot be turned off like a light switch. The same way you fell into him. You need to fall out. You see he has no concern for you or your feeling or he would not cuss you, Cut you off, and not speak to you for days. HE does not have the Balls to let you know your not what he wants. Instead he uses you like a Dirty dish towel. Now if you feel like that is what you deserve. Then you wait for him. If you know that you are worth more than that. You find a way, to move on. Lie to yourself until it is the truth. Tell yourself whatever you need to shake him off. He is a bad habit that is emotionally scaring you. You deserve better. You allow him to treat you like dirt. Now your at the point that you feel like life is not worth living without him. Girlfriend PLEASE. You have not been living the last 7years if that is what you deal with. If you want to hold on to him because of the time, There is one thing worse than wasting 7 years on someone, Thats wasting 7 years and 1 day, just think of how much time you will waste if 11 years pass and you realize he is still the jerk he was years before that. So you can continue to waste your life which is much more precious than you are giving it credit for. You are worth more than you are giving yourself credit for. Your life is more that just him. He is not who completes you. Somewhere there is man out there that is going to be all you want, need and More. God has more in store for you than being a doormat. Love yourself first, Love yourself enough to look in the mirror and say it. If he don't love me, Then the most important person in the world does, and that is ME(you)..... Love yourself. Then share that love with someone who can love you as much as you do. Don't let him or anyone else determine your worth. YOu determine your worth. YOu are worth so much more. Move on girlfriend. Move on. Love yourself, and Move on.
Good Luck finding your real Love.
Just take it easy and just because your losing this guy of your does not mean that the world just stopped! Talk to him because all those signs are cheating signs....and if he dosent respond then leave him because you dont want to get involved with a person like that, who is going to be unfaithful! Move and stay strong.....
Ask him straight up. ';Are you in love with me? Do you love me as much as I love you?'; Sweetheart, he's not the only guy out there that can be your match/mate. You are thinking drastically because you have been with just him for 7 yrs and afraid of being alone. Dont you have any other supporting friends? If he does want to break up, I know it would be extremely hard on you. Sorry.
Are you going to school? High School? Tech School? Vocational School? College? Focus on your future on what career that you would like to do. You cant just hope for the best that some guy is going to stay with you. I dont know if you already have your education planned. Maybe he is going thru some kind of crisis. Maybe he has not matured yet. But whatever it is.... the 2 of you need to talk. Hopefully, calmly.
Hypethetically speaking............ the 2 of you get married and he still has outbursts like that. You are miserable because he does not want to talk. He shuts you out and seems to be mad all the time. Then it can get worse. ........... That's no way to live. I was with the wrong man for 10 yrs and had 2 kids with him. Dont get me wrong, I LOVE my kids. I believe they will always be with me.
I wish I could be there for you for support. I will try here. I hope I helped. I hope to help more.
Good luck.
you should go hang out with some of your friends go out have a good time and MOVE ON!
trust me it isn't worth it especially if he is cheating...
my friend just went through the same thing, not so long a relationship but he tried to break up with her 6 times and she begged him not to. it is not the best idea. you dont want the guy to think you are desperate. and as hard as it is move on. think of the time you were together as a good part of your life. and dont look back regretting. i know you have probably heard this so many times but there are other fish in the sea and you never know who you will meet. drop this guy and if he really wants you back then he will come back but otherwise you dont need that stress in your life.
good luck
NEVER NEVER NEVER make someone else your ';world';...that's so unwise (I'm trying not to be harsh!).
Dump the guy because that relationship is basically over. Treasure the fond memories, learn any lessons that are there, and move on with your life.
Don't lower yourself to beg someone to stick around, when they are totally disrespecting you. No one is worth that, and with over 3 billion other males on the planet, there are MANY better options for you sugar (not the least of which is being single for a while).
Take care of you, and stop demeaning yourself to someone who apparently doesn't care anymore. That relationship has run its course...accept that and move on.
May the path ahead be sunny soon!
First of all - you need to realize that he probably isn't coming around anytime soon and that you are going to need time to heal and get over the huge hump of losing a relationship. It's just a fact. So take things day by day - and do not call him. Think of all the crap he's done and accept the fact that he doesn't even care enough about you to give you closure - so you may not have closure. Not everyone gets it. Although I know you deserve it, he just won't give it to you. It's wrong and he sucks and he deserves to sit in his miserable existence for the rest of his life, but it's the way it is. Once you can manage to get that out of the way (and it will take time) - you will start to realize how much better you feel after that and then you will see that you deserve someone that won't waste 7 years of your life and will not lie to you and will not treat you like a second class citizen...and when you do that - that is when you will find it. But first, concentrate on you and don't worry so much about him. Obviously what you are doing right now (contacting him trying to get answers) isn't working and is only making you feel worse, so stop that. And should he want another go at it - say no. Please. For yourself and your own sanity. Just stay away from the a$$hole until you feel strong enough to handle him and say no to him.
well definitely dont commit suicide because a guy isnt worth that no matter who it is.As hard as it is you really need to move on.ive been in this same position and you just need to get him out of your life and try to find someone else.It will be hard at first but trust me theres better guys out there and you can find one.
Oh, thats awful... I'm sure that it'll be okay, did you say anything to upset him? Maybe asking him if he was cheating might have upset him. Because if he wasn't it might feel to him as if you were questioning his loyalty to you, but if something is up (a.k.a cheating) then he wasn't right anyway. I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling this way. Hope that this helps somehow. Feel better
dear you just need to understand that you are ruining your life for a jerk who kinda left you for someone else... y??? y are u doing this to yourself? i know it hurts a lot and trust me i can feel your pain but you need to overcome your pain and first of all go n talk to him directly about what exactly he wants? cuz you should know whether he's with you or not? don't be afraid of him or apologize everytime he threatens you about breaking up,its ok cuz i really don't think you should be staying with him anymore after all he's hurt you so much...
don't spoil your health for him and thank God that he saved you from such a loser... at least now you can lead your life peacefully without any tensions and worries... plz dear you need to help yourself none of us can help you the way you can...!!! gud luck and smile:)
I know that is how you feel, but you haven't lost your world. Things change constantly in our lives and relationships. This is a bad spell for you, maybe permanent, maybe not. My point is don't let yourself be miserable, nobody can predict the future. Quit calling him, and keep yourself busy. Give him time to figure out that possibly your the one who has a change of heart about this relationship. Maybe he will decide he doesn't like it when he is not in the drivers seat. Hopefully, if that doesn't happen you will be a little farther down the road to getting over it and feeling better about it. Best of luck you.
Break it off with him. If he's cussing you out, he's not good for you. Besides, you both seem very unhappy in your relationship.
You were right in trying to seek professional help. We could all use a little therapy sometimes. It could help ease a lot of your troubles. I don't think you should deal with this all by yourself.
Good luck and I hope everything works out for you.
This is all part of life. To love and to have your heart broken. It happens to the best of us. I don't know why the guy just all of a sudden has began to ignore you or if that is his immature way of breaking up because he either doesn't feel the same about you anymore or maybe he was cheating. I wish I could say that tomorrow will be a better day, but it doesn't work that way. Love hurts. When you fall in love you are giving them all your trust, emotions, etc and when your heart gets broken it takes time to heal. But Time is the healer to all things. Just take one day at a time. Let him calm down a few days and I mean no driving by his house, calling him at all, etc. Lets things cool down and go from there. Good luck.
as hard as it is move on!
i know how you are feeling dear be glad that you dont have a child with him try to find a new hobby to keep you occupied its not going to be easy but you have to try for your sake rest assured the minute you start getting over him he'll come back to you and apologise for now try and avoid calling him take it one day at a time and one step at a time the'll be a time when you will feel so lonely that you'll be tempted to pick up the phone and call but don't do it rather call a friend or your mom goodluck dear.they say heartaches lasts as long as you allow them to and don't keep the pain learn from your past relationships and that guy is not worth it its painful to waist years on someone who is not worth it if he is woth it now he won't be worth ten years from now.
Words of advice?
Once the toothpaste is out of the tube, it's hard to get it back in.Words of advice?
diplomacy is the art of saying nice doggy until you find a rock.Words of advice?
wow why take it out if not gonna use? moron
Buy a new tube.
Two wrongs never make a right, but three do!
You can't get it back in..... I suggest you put it in a plastic bag (zip lock preferrably).
That's an example of entropy. You can't put some things back when they're out. Toothpaste would be one of them.
Sweatheart, just wrap your lips around the tube and blow.
!~ this may sound stupid, but my sister does this .. i hope it works, so 1st you should blow the toothpaste tube then slowely put the extra paste in, holding the tube straight up ... i hope it works.. (^_^) .. good luck ~!
Invite your friends and neighbors over to brush their teeth, too, so the excess won't go to waste.
Or, here's an idea...let it go to waste! It's just a little toothpaste.
It's a cliche that means: Once you've done something, you can't un-do it!
(That's what it means).
Words of advice....never pay any attention to someone who feels the need to call you a moron.
I think the real question here, is why would you want to get it back in? Who really cares?
buy new toothpast its like 2 dollars
jeez
or put it in a soap dispenser and like squirt it on your brush...gosh ive always wanted to do that
diplomacy is the art of saying nice doggy until you find a rock.Words of advice?
wow why take it out if not gonna use? moron
Buy a new tube.
Two wrongs never make a right, but three do!
You can't get it back in..... I suggest you put it in a plastic bag (zip lock preferrably).
That's an example of entropy. You can't put some things back when they're out. Toothpaste would be one of them.
Sweatheart, just wrap your lips around the tube and blow.
!~ this may sound stupid, but my sister does this .. i hope it works, so 1st you should blow the toothpaste tube then slowely put the extra paste in, holding the tube straight up ... i hope it works.. (^_^) .. good luck ~!
Invite your friends and neighbors over to brush their teeth, too, so the excess won't go to waste.
Or, here's an idea...let it go to waste! It's just a little toothpaste.
It's a cliche that means: Once you've done something, you can't un-do it!
(That's what it means).
Words of advice....never pay any attention to someone who feels the need to call you a moron.
I think the real question here, is why would you want to get it back in? Who really cares?
buy new toothpast its like 2 dollars
jeez
or put it in a soap dispenser and like squirt it on your brush...gosh ive always wanted to do that
SOOO Scared!!! Words of advice?
I am going in to labor very soon and I am petrified. ANY words of wisdom will help.SOOO Scared!!! Words of advice?
Just relax, whatever happens you will be able to get through it. Do you have a birth plan? Meaning do you know who you want to have with you, and what methods of pain management you want to use? There is nothing wrong with being nervous, but just remember that your body is designed to go through labor and delivery. I promise you that once your baby is placed in your arms, you will not even be able to remember the pain you went through in labor.
A couple of things that might be able to help with pain management: you have the option of having an epidural, if you do you will not feel as much pain, mostly pressure, but until the baby comes you wont be entirely without pain. Its also a good idea to try and change postions when you are in labor, if you can get up and walk around as much as possible, this will help your labor progress in case it stalls out and can also relieve some of the pain, esp. on your back, also lay on your sides or try and sit up. You can also take a warm shower or bath when you go into labor, this can help to relax your muscles and to stay calm. Also its very important to remember to breathe slowly in through your nose and out through your mouth, try to relax as much as possible and dont tense up if you can help it, this will help you to over come the pain and not get exhausted.
Last but not least, remember your body is designed to get you through this, have faith in yourself and have those who you love and trust to be there with you. You can also relax by listening to calming music and if you can sleep alittle so you will have enough energy later on you get through the last part of your labor, when you start to push. Good luck to you, you'll do awesome!!!!!!:)SOOO Scared!!! Words of advice?
Words of wisdom: Relax, Relax, Relax. That is the best advice. When it is time(hopefully) you will have all the people around you that know what they're doing and will guide you along. Seeing you baby for the first time is the greatest feeling in the world and makes everything worthwhile. Good luck and try and enjoy the ride.
Well a friend of mine is soon to be having a baby as well, and man is she antys. All I can really say is that when it's all over, you will be glad you went thoru it. Granted I wasn't so lucky, I was pregnant at the age of 15, but I just couldn't go throu with it. I could put my baby up for adotption at all. I went throu it, and I know what it's all about. I aborted my baby girl. I know what i did was wrong in so many ways, but I was young and very scared. Just keep your head up and say, ';I can get throu this, I have to for my baby.';
Once the baby is out.. it is over. I would be more terrified of being sent home with a baby to care for then being in a hospital with people to care for you! My words of wisdom are...it is only as bad as about half of what you think. And... on the bright side.. it gets over rather quickly and forgotten even quicker. Good luck and congrats!!
Bottom line: Billions of women haven given birth with no problems. Don't worry about it, enjoy the results!
It is perfectly natural to be scared and I think you should allow yourself to feel that.
On that note though, be positive, have a flexible birth plan that you can focus on to work through the pre labor jitters. I found having my family with me really beneficial, they kept me calm and laughing and there was always someone then willing to walk the hallways with me. When it came time to push actually my dad rubbed my forehead and my mom rubbed my shoulders and my husband helped me push, it worked out really well having supportive people there with me.
try to think about the baby ur getting ready to have...its worth the pain..good luck!
it's not as bad as you think it is. i know you hear stories about labor, but you'll see that when everything is said and done, you'll look back and say, ';wow, that was no where near as bad as i thought it was going to be';
good luck and congratulations
Nothing to be worried about - all will be fine. Make sure you have some good music to listen to while in the delivery room(this always helps me to relax), and know that it will be over soon when you will then have that lovely baby in your arms. Labor really is not as bad as some make it out to be. Yes, there will be some pain, but nothing unbearable - you're gonna do great!
For millions of years women was giving labor without any help,and the chance for something going wrong was low to begin with. now you have a whole set of professionals looking after you. so don't worry, every day thousands of women give birth to thousands of healthy beautiful children, and go home happy.
dont worry. its not that bad. when its all over you dont even think about it cause you have your new baby to love
relax, the is the best thing to do, don't concentrate on the pain or whats happening just breathe (it doesn't have to be in any certain way, just make sure you breathe, a lot of people hold their breath-you want to get the oxygen circulating in your body).if you sit there and think of how much pain your in it will only make it worse---relax it isn't as bad as you might think, well at least after wards you forget about it completely
dont strain your face while pushing. Push your stomach and your butt. If you feel your head is being pressurized, relax your face and put that pressure in your belly. It helped my daughter come out in 30 mins. Breathe In through your NOSE, Out through your mouth. And try not to scream, you'll intensify the situation. Its hard to do, but breathe instead of screaming. Oh..and dont go to the hospital until you cannot speak through a contraction, if you live close by.
Take control of your labor now. Learn all you can about what's going to happen. Exercise the relevant muscles daily. Practice relaxation - that's very helpful for your mind and body so you don't fight the work your contractions are doing. Have someone there to help you through who also knows what is happening (the father or someone close to you).
See www.bradleybirth.com
it's ok, once you start, your instincts will help you - the contractions start off short, mild, and far apart, allowing you to work your way into it, then there's the epidural (I'm sure every woman who's had one said what I did - whoever invented this is going straight to heaven! lol), and it goes so fast, my first was 24 hrs, my second was 11 hrs, but it seemed to go by so fast, and before you know it, you're pushing out a baby! then the pain is pretty much done, and you are overwhelmed with exhileration and power!
It's easier said than done, but try not to be afraid, (I was terrified at first too), try listening to your favorite happy music, and bring it to the hospital with you, it's a lifesaver!
Good luck!
One word. Epidural. LOL.
Avoid watching birth on television.
Take someone with you to the hospital who will be your advocate and make sure you have what you need to be as comfortable as possible. Labor nurses may be trained to do what they do, but they aren't always brimming with compassion.
Take a hot water bottle with you; you'll be cramping a lot during and after labor. It really helps.
Speak up for yourself. If you feel like something needs to be done don't be afraid to stand up for yourself. This goes for getting pain relief, having someone check on the status of your baby, changing position, and anything else that feels very important at that time.
Above all, remember that the labor (as long as it may seem) will be short compared to the lifetime of joy you'll have with your baby. I've done this 3 times (once totally without pain relief) and-- well, I didn't stop with #1. :) Try to focus on how excited you are that you'll be meeting your little one soon. My prayers are with you! Best wishes!
I had no drugs whatsoever during childbirth, my baby was born at home. Most of the other posts will tell you to get an epidural. I disagree, but that's just my opinion. Make you own choices and don't let anyone bully you into anything. Read all the facts and figures and decide for yourself, but be aware of the risks of everything you do!
In my experience, the contractions hurt but not in a terrible I'm dying kind of way. They took my breath away and I felt like I was being squeezed in a giant juicer! I wouldn't have catergorised it as pain though, squashing, pushing, pulling, pressure, but not pain exactly. Very uncomfortable though. I was very relaxed and moving about at home, that helped a lot, I spent most of my labour upright, that made it a lot faster.
The only moment of true pain was when my baby crowned, it's the only time I yelled, but it couldn't have lasted more than a minute. I was so relaxed I needed no stitches, had a fast easy birth, my daughter was 7.4lbs and perfect. I did it all without even a headache pill, and was up using the bathroom a half hour later, and walking my dog the next morning. This is with my first baby, everything happened 100% as nature intended and when you do it that way, the pain and recovery period is minimalised.
That is only my experience. Be positive and I'm sure yours will be as good.
Congratulations and good luck!!
Just relax, whatever happens you will be able to get through it. Do you have a birth plan? Meaning do you know who you want to have with you, and what methods of pain management you want to use? There is nothing wrong with being nervous, but just remember that your body is designed to go through labor and delivery. I promise you that once your baby is placed in your arms, you will not even be able to remember the pain you went through in labor.
A couple of things that might be able to help with pain management: you have the option of having an epidural, if you do you will not feel as much pain, mostly pressure, but until the baby comes you wont be entirely without pain. Its also a good idea to try and change postions when you are in labor, if you can get up and walk around as much as possible, this will help your labor progress in case it stalls out and can also relieve some of the pain, esp. on your back, also lay on your sides or try and sit up. You can also take a warm shower or bath when you go into labor, this can help to relax your muscles and to stay calm. Also its very important to remember to breathe slowly in through your nose and out through your mouth, try to relax as much as possible and dont tense up if you can help it, this will help you to over come the pain and not get exhausted.
Last but not least, remember your body is designed to get you through this, have faith in yourself and have those who you love and trust to be there with you. You can also relax by listening to calming music and if you can sleep alittle so you will have enough energy later on you get through the last part of your labor, when you start to push. Good luck to you, you'll do awesome!!!!!!:)SOOO Scared!!! Words of advice?
Words of wisdom: Relax, Relax, Relax. That is the best advice. When it is time(hopefully) you will have all the people around you that know what they're doing and will guide you along. Seeing you baby for the first time is the greatest feeling in the world and makes everything worthwhile. Good luck and try and enjoy the ride.
Well a friend of mine is soon to be having a baby as well, and man is she antys. All I can really say is that when it's all over, you will be glad you went thoru it. Granted I wasn't so lucky, I was pregnant at the age of 15, but I just couldn't go throu with it. I could put my baby up for adotption at all. I went throu it, and I know what it's all about. I aborted my baby girl. I know what i did was wrong in so many ways, but I was young and very scared. Just keep your head up and say, ';I can get throu this, I have to for my baby.';
Once the baby is out.. it is over. I would be more terrified of being sent home with a baby to care for then being in a hospital with people to care for you! My words of wisdom are...it is only as bad as about half of what you think. And... on the bright side.. it gets over rather quickly and forgotten even quicker. Good luck and congrats!!
Bottom line: Billions of women haven given birth with no problems. Don't worry about it, enjoy the results!
It is perfectly natural to be scared and I think you should allow yourself to feel that.
On that note though, be positive, have a flexible birth plan that you can focus on to work through the pre labor jitters. I found having my family with me really beneficial, they kept me calm and laughing and there was always someone then willing to walk the hallways with me. When it came time to push actually my dad rubbed my forehead and my mom rubbed my shoulders and my husband helped me push, it worked out really well having supportive people there with me.
try to think about the baby ur getting ready to have...its worth the pain..good luck!
it's not as bad as you think it is. i know you hear stories about labor, but you'll see that when everything is said and done, you'll look back and say, ';wow, that was no where near as bad as i thought it was going to be';
good luck and congratulations
Nothing to be worried about - all will be fine. Make sure you have some good music to listen to while in the delivery room(this always helps me to relax), and know that it will be over soon when you will then have that lovely baby in your arms. Labor really is not as bad as some make it out to be. Yes, there will be some pain, but nothing unbearable - you're gonna do great!
For millions of years women was giving labor without any help,and the chance for something going wrong was low to begin with. now you have a whole set of professionals looking after you. so don't worry, every day thousands of women give birth to thousands of healthy beautiful children, and go home happy.
dont worry. its not that bad. when its all over you dont even think about it cause you have your new baby to love
relax, the is the best thing to do, don't concentrate on the pain or whats happening just breathe (it doesn't have to be in any certain way, just make sure you breathe, a lot of people hold their breath-you want to get the oxygen circulating in your body).if you sit there and think of how much pain your in it will only make it worse---relax it isn't as bad as you might think, well at least after wards you forget about it completely
dont strain your face while pushing. Push your stomach and your butt. If you feel your head is being pressurized, relax your face and put that pressure in your belly. It helped my daughter come out in 30 mins. Breathe In through your NOSE, Out through your mouth. And try not to scream, you'll intensify the situation. Its hard to do, but breathe instead of screaming. Oh..and dont go to the hospital until you cannot speak through a contraction, if you live close by.
Take control of your labor now. Learn all you can about what's going to happen. Exercise the relevant muscles daily. Practice relaxation - that's very helpful for your mind and body so you don't fight the work your contractions are doing. Have someone there to help you through who also knows what is happening (the father or someone close to you).
See www.bradleybirth.com
it's ok, once you start, your instincts will help you - the contractions start off short, mild, and far apart, allowing you to work your way into it, then there's the epidural (I'm sure every woman who's had one said what I did - whoever invented this is going straight to heaven! lol), and it goes so fast, my first was 24 hrs, my second was 11 hrs, but it seemed to go by so fast, and before you know it, you're pushing out a baby! then the pain is pretty much done, and you are overwhelmed with exhileration and power!
It's easier said than done, but try not to be afraid, (I was terrified at first too), try listening to your favorite happy music, and bring it to the hospital with you, it's a lifesaver!
Good luck!
One word. Epidural. LOL.
Avoid watching birth on television.
Take someone with you to the hospital who will be your advocate and make sure you have what you need to be as comfortable as possible. Labor nurses may be trained to do what they do, but they aren't always brimming with compassion.
Take a hot water bottle with you; you'll be cramping a lot during and after labor. It really helps.
Speak up for yourself. If you feel like something needs to be done don't be afraid to stand up for yourself. This goes for getting pain relief, having someone check on the status of your baby, changing position, and anything else that feels very important at that time.
Above all, remember that the labor (as long as it may seem) will be short compared to the lifetime of joy you'll have with your baby. I've done this 3 times (once totally without pain relief) and-- well, I didn't stop with #1. :) Try to focus on how excited you are that you'll be meeting your little one soon. My prayers are with you! Best wishes!
I had no drugs whatsoever during childbirth, my baby was born at home. Most of the other posts will tell you to get an epidural. I disagree, but that's just my opinion. Make you own choices and don't let anyone bully you into anything. Read all the facts and figures and decide for yourself, but be aware of the risks of everything you do!
In my experience, the contractions hurt but not in a terrible I'm dying kind of way. They took my breath away and I felt like I was being squeezed in a giant juicer! I wouldn't have catergorised it as pain though, squashing, pushing, pulling, pressure, but not pain exactly. Very uncomfortable though. I was very relaxed and moving about at home, that helped a lot, I spent most of my labour upright, that made it a lot faster.
The only moment of true pain was when my baby crowned, it's the only time I yelled, but it couldn't have lasted more than a minute. I was so relaxed I needed no stitches, had a fast easy birth, my daughter was 7.4lbs and perfect. I did it all without even a headache pill, and was up using the bathroom a half hour later, and walking my dog the next morning. This is with my first baby, everything happened 100% as nature intended and when you do it that way, the pain and recovery period is minimalised.
That is only my experience. Be positive and I'm sure yours will be as good.
Congratulations and good luck!!
Any last words of advice?
i am off to bedAny last words of advice?
Don't let the bed bugs bite. Nite nite. :DAny last words of advice?
And thank you too. Happy Monday. :)
And thank you too. Happy Monday. :)
And thank you too. Happy Monday. :)
yeah don't pee against the wind , or turn left when ya got to go right
Don't forget to bring home some of those black binding clips from the office to keep your cereal fresh after opening.
Night night :) Watch the stars tonight,and just relax and let go.It'll help a lot. :)
may you live as long as you want
but not want as long as you live
'Wise men don't need advice. Fools won't take it.'
~ Benjamin Franklin
Keep your mouth closed when you sleep so bugs don't crawl in there and you swallow them. Ha ha. Goodnight!
Don't forget to take the garbage out when you wake up . It's your job not mine
leave a clear path between the bed and the light switch.
Don't let the bed bugs bite ;)
Sleep tight, make sure the bedbugs don't bite!!
Sweet dreams
I swear you look familiar but I just can't recall
Don't give into the nightmare, or it WILL claim you. Sleep tight ;)
dont let the bed bugs bite you,just drift off to dreamland
check for any monsters under your bed before you sleep
Be thankful If you make it back from the DARK-SIDE!
ignore people who believe in bedbugs
Sweet Dreams!
Be good to your mother.
Get at least 7 hours of sleep?
have fun
flip to the cold side!
have a gn!
stop doing that....you could go blind!!
no
dream well
good night!
lol..nah i cant think of anything! =S
good night..byee =)
bring the ky.. i'll be waiting! lol
Don't let the bed bugs bite. Nite nite. :DAny last words of advice?
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yeah don't pee against the wind , or turn left when ya got to go right
Don't forget to bring home some of those black binding clips from the office to keep your cereal fresh after opening.
Night night :) Watch the stars tonight,and just relax and let go.It'll help a lot. :)
may you live as long as you want
but not want as long as you live
'Wise men don't need advice. Fools won't take it.'
~ Benjamin Franklin
Keep your mouth closed when you sleep so bugs don't crawl in there and you swallow them. Ha ha. Goodnight!
Don't forget to take the garbage out when you wake up . It's your job not mine
leave a clear path between the bed and the light switch.
Don't let the bed bugs bite ;)
Sleep tight, make sure the bedbugs don't bite!!
Sweet dreams
I swear you look familiar but I just can't recall
Don't give into the nightmare, or it WILL claim you. Sleep tight ;)
dont let the bed bugs bite you,just drift off to dreamland
check for any monsters under your bed before you sleep
Be thankful If you make it back from the DARK-SIDE!
ignore people who believe in bedbugs
Sweet Dreams!
Be good to your mother.
Get at least 7 hours of sleep?
have fun
flip to the cold side!
have a gn!
stop doing that....you could go blind!!
no
dream well
good night!
lol..nah i cant think of anything! =S
good night..byee =)
bring the ky.. i'll be waiting! lol
Training for my first 1/2 marathon...any words of advice?
I do agree with the others about the running shoes. You should check out L.A. Gear or champions, I think you can get them at payless. The two other important things are going into a room that was freshly sprayed with berry spray, once you have taken in a nose full immediately run to a fan and hug it. I do this all the time for all the marathons I have run, and it works like a charm!!!!Training for my first 1/2 marathon...any words of advice?
train slowly and gradually
wear in your shoes before you run.
make sure you run outside and inside
enjoy it.
try running with someone
or have some music or something with you. you will hit the wall just be prepared.
its very emotional. both highs and lows. you will need all the energy you can get so eat a good breakfast whilst training. and enjoy itTraining for my first 1/2 marathon...any words of advice?
YAY for you! I'm training for my 1st marathon. It took me forever to get the breathing and pacing down. My advice would be great running shoes, don't sprint your first mile, don't give up and just concentrate on finishing the marathon. Try not to worry about the finishing time (like I do....lol) I sprint the first mile too....LOL (I can't help it....ugh!)
Let me know how it goes!!!!!!
I'm going to add you to my contacts so I can find out how you did! Good luck!!!!
Check out my running blog....
http://kimsrunningnow.blogspot.c...
I recommend you get a very good pair of shoes.
Get some running shorts and pants and make sure to buy some Body glide
Seach the web for a good 16or so week training program
http://www.halhigdon.com/halfmarathon/no鈥?/a>
Make sure you take water and a gel on your long runs and take the gel about 30 min into your run
Visualize how you will feel when you go through the finish line full of energy and adrenalin!!
The biggest mistake by far novice runners make is training too hard too quickly.
Your cardio stamina will ramp up quickly -- much quicker than your body can physically adjust to the pounding and rigors of distance running.
People get hurt because as their cardio ramps up quickly they feel like they can run much farther than the body is ready for. That is when most runners get hurt.
Follow the training schedule and DON'T exceed it, no matter how good you feel.
eat right and dont drink any alcholic beverages.... drink lots of water too
Before the race, make sure to get to the course early and familiarize yourself with the course and water stations along the way, particularly if its hot. Eat well and get plenty of sleep the night before, and make sure to eat breakfast the day of the race.
During the actual race, start slowly so that you don't overexert yourself right away. It will get very hard at some point, but trust your training and know that you can get through it. Some people like to recite a mantra (some short, meaningful phrase) over and over when it gets difficult to help them through.
After the race, keep walking and stretching, and make sure to savor your accomplishment! Celebrate by going out to dinner or doing something you enjoy. Good luck!
train slowly and gradually
wear in your shoes before you run.
make sure you run outside and inside
enjoy it.
try running with someone
or have some music or something with you. you will hit the wall just be prepared.
its very emotional. both highs and lows. you will need all the energy you can get so eat a good breakfast whilst training. and enjoy itTraining for my first 1/2 marathon...any words of advice?
YAY for you! I'm training for my 1st marathon. It took me forever to get the breathing and pacing down. My advice would be great running shoes, don't sprint your first mile, don't give up and just concentrate on finishing the marathon. Try not to worry about the finishing time (like I do....lol) I sprint the first mile too....LOL (I can't help it....ugh!)
Let me know how it goes!!!!!!
I'm going to add you to my contacts so I can find out how you did! Good luck!!!!
Check out my running blog....
http://kimsrunningnow.blogspot.c...
I recommend you get a very good pair of shoes.
Get some running shorts and pants and make sure to buy some Body glide
Seach the web for a good 16or so week training program
http://www.halhigdon.com/halfmarathon/no鈥?/a>
Make sure you take water and a gel on your long runs and take the gel about 30 min into your run
Visualize how you will feel when you go through the finish line full of energy and adrenalin!!
The biggest mistake by far novice runners make is training too hard too quickly.
Your cardio stamina will ramp up quickly -- much quicker than your body can physically adjust to the pounding and rigors of distance running.
People get hurt because as their cardio ramps up quickly they feel like they can run much farther than the body is ready for. That is when most runners get hurt.
Follow the training schedule and DON'T exceed it, no matter how good you feel.
eat right and dont drink any alcholic beverages.... drink lots of water too
Before the race, make sure to get to the course early and familiarize yourself with the course and water stations along the way, particularly if its hot. Eat well and get plenty of sleep the night before, and make sure to eat breakfast the day of the race.
During the actual race, start slowly so that you don't overexert yourself right away. It will get very hard at some point, but trust your training and know that you can get through it. Some people like to recite a mantra (some short, meaningful phrase) over and over when it gets difficult to help them through.
After the race, keep walking and stretching, and make sure to savor your accomplishment! Celebrate by going out to dinner or doing something you enjoy. Good luck!
Love sucks! Words of advice?
And I am so upset, we broke up just before christmas and i just cant seem to get over it, i have lost so much weight. im 20 and we were together for 9 months, and we had a house. any words of advice or comfort? xxxxLove sucks! Words of advice?
Ouch, I was in a similar situation a few years ago, I really thought I would never get over him, but you do , it just takes time. xx.Love sucks! Words of advice?
Hey, i broke up with my boyfriend in October, we were together over 3 years, i love him loads, i was going through a bit of a crisis and broke up with him, and now i want him back.
Depends if you want to get over him - if so, just keep going on with your life things will ease.
If you want him back, if you want something bad enough you'll probably get it. Just keep working at it, and be patient, thats what i'm doing.
yes, you're only 20, don't see it as the end of it all, you have your whole life ahead of you and things will only get better, make sure you learn from your relationship, what went wrong? what would you have liked to be different? don't jump into another relationship, you can use this as a chance to be fussy about your next :)
Awwww poor you, i wish i could invent a tablet to take away the pain i'd be rich !
You just have to let it run its course and tell yourself that it wasn't meant to be. I really believe that everything we go through in life makes us the people who we become and prepares us for whats coming next. don't think that he doesn't care he does men have different emotions to women and will deal with it differently.
get out and visit some good friends and people that make you happy build up a social life which doesn't include going to places where you will bump into him life will get better i promise.xx
Hey, I know what you mean, sometimes things are so hard. Sending you love and best wishes, hope that you feel better soon. You really will get over it at some point. Emma :x:
I won't say you'll get over it quickly, but eventually you will! You'll still think of him for a while, you'll miss him terribly, but things will get easier
Its not the end of the world and there are plenty of fish in the sea. Move on,bring your pole and start fishing.
wow u had moved in together n evrything maybe things got a bit much??
time is a great healer
Ew so you were a fat graser before? Well I wouldn't risk staying with a woman who was fat, becuase once christmas comes around again with the big turkey, she will just get fat again.
Ouch, I was in a similar situation a few years ago, I really thought I would never get over him, but you do , it just takes time. xx.Love sucks! Words of advice?
Hey, i broke up with my boyfriend in October, we were together over 3 years, i love him loads, i was going through a bit of a crisis and broke up with him, and now i want him back.
Depends if you want to get over him - if so, just keep going on with your life things will ease.
If you want him back, if you want something bad enough you'll probably get it. Just keep working at it, and be patient, thats what i'm doing.
yes, you're only 20, don't see it as the end of it all, you have your whole life ahead of you and things will only get better, make sure you learn from your relationship, what went wrong? what would you have liked to be different? don't jump into another relationship, you can use this as a chance to be fussy about your next :)
Awwww poor you, i wish i could invent a tablet to take away the pain i'd be rich !
You just have to let it run its course and tell yourself that it wasn't meant to be. I really believe that everything we go through in life makes us the people who we become and prepares us for whats coming next. don't think that he doesn't care he does men have different emotions to women and will deal with it differently.
get out and visit some good friends and people that make you happy build up a social life which doesn't include going to places where you will bump into him life will get better i promise.xx
Hey, I know what you mean, sometimes things are so hard. Sending you love and best wishes, hope that you feel better soon. You really will get over it at some point. Emma :x:
I won't say you'll get over it quickly, but eventually you will! You'll still think of him for a while, you'll miss him terribly, but things will get easier
Its not the end of the world and there are plenty of fish in the sea. Move on,bring your pole and start fishing.
wow u had moved in together n evrything maybe things got a bit much??
time is a great healer
Ew so you were a fat graser before? Well I wouldn't risk staying with a woman who was fat, becuase once christmas comes around again with the big turkey, she will just get fat again.
I like a girl i need so words of advice?
im the star of the basketball team and this thick girl i like keeps looking at me but i dont no if she likes me. im in 6th grade so make it BALLIN!(i dont wanna be embarrased)I like a girl i need so words of advice?
im in 7th grade so if u want her attentiondont try to impress her like in sports ur still a bit yung for that instead slip a note in her locker shell LOVE that.
im in 7th grade so if u want her attentiondont try to impress her like in sports ur still a bit yung for that instead slip a note in her locker shell LOVE that.
Plz any words of advice? I Am desperate to get pregnant?
Hi people... I have been trying to conceive since the past 10 months, but in vain. So, i went to the doctor %26amp; she prescribed me two doses of clomid on the second day of my menstural cycle, to be continued for 5 days. Also, from the 3rd day she prescribed FSH injection to be taken daily for about 9 days %26amp; get an u/s to see the follicular growth. if the follicle size reaches 18-20 mm I was to take Pregnyl injection, to eject the egg out .i went about with the prescription. but my husband had been relocated to another city %26amp; i went along with him. For my u/s i visited another doctor.She checked me %26amp; told me I have too many follicles many of them dominant and mature. she would not prescribe pregnyl, or else i'd be hyperstimulated, said I shouldn't have taken clomid and FSH together %26amp; i may get PCO if I take FSH again next month in case i dont conceive. sadly my husband %26amp; I couldnt keep sex regular as he had lot of travelling. Got my periods and i Cried. should i try all over? plz advice tyPlz any words of advice? I Am desperate to get pregnant?
Yes. Your body's overresponding to the fertility treatment, which is an excellent sign. It takes a long time to be pregnant, for the average ';normal'; couple with no difficulties or treatment it takes 6 months. Expect it to take a long time, but find someone to talk to about your feeling - it is a frustrating, lengthy experience at the end of which you don't know what's going to happen. But you're doing this for the right reasons, and that's what matters. Good luck.Plz any words of advice? I Am desperate to get pregnant?
Just keep trying, it will happen if its meant to be.
If you are still trying after at year, you might want to consider IVF.
Good luck
if you're sure you want a baby and are ready for a baby, keep trying to have one. make sure, though, that you aren't taking or being prescribed anything that could endanger you or your baby, should you become pregnant. be very careful with things like that.
Wow....I think you need to slow down. Why would they prescribe you Clomid and the injections right off the bat? It takes a long time to make a baby. More than 10 months sometimes. Are you tracking your ovulation? Trying at home things? A baby ain't gonna happen if your hubby is not there during your LGH Surge. Did you even do any fertility testing? An HSG? The Clomid Challenge Test - before starting Clomid? Sperm Analysis? Fibroid check? Anything?
Yes. Your body's overresponding to the fertility treatment, which is an excellent sign. It takes a long time to be pregnant, for the average ';normal'; couple with no difficulties or treatment it takes 6 months. Expect it to take a long time, but find someone to talk to about your feeling - it is a frustrating, lengthy experience at the end of which you don't know what's going to happen. But you're doing this for the right reasons, and that's what matters. Good luck.Plz any words of advice? I Am desperate to get pregnant?
Just keep trying, it will happen if its meant to be.
If you are still trying after at year, you might want to consider IVF.
Good luck
if you're sure you want a baby and are ready for a baby, keep trying to have one. make sure, though, that you aren't taking or being prescribed anything that could endanger you or your baby, should you become pregnant. be very careful with things like that.
Wow....I think you need to slow down. Why would they prescribe you Clomid and the injections right off the bat? It takes a long time to make a baby. More than 10 months sometimes. Are you tracking your ovulation? Trying at home things? A baby ain't gonna happen if your hubby is not there during your LGH Surge. Did you even do any fertility testing? An HSG? The Clomid Challenge Test - before starting Clomid? Sperm Analysis? Fibroid check? Anything?
Words Of Wisdom, Advice, Words YOU Live By?
Only those that risk going to far, can realize how far one can go.
and
How people treat you is their karma,
how you react is yours.
There's plenty others I live by, those were the first two that I can recall.Words Of Wisdom, Advice, Words YOU Live By?
';And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should';
';Que sera, sera--what will be, will be';
';Nothing really perishes';
';One is always nearer by not keeping still';--Thom Gunn
';Security is mostly a superstition';--Helen Keller
';Life is either a daring adventure or nothing';--Helen KellerWords Of Wisdom, Advice, Words YOU Live By?
You should be as alive as you can until you're totally dead
Happiness is not achieved by the conscious pursuit of happiness; it is generally the by-product of other activities.
and
All knowledge is stored somewhere. Be it in books, heads or deep under glaciers. And when we find it, we make it ours. Faith is bricks; knowledge is mortar.
★Knowlegde talks wisdom listens.
★The best way to be successful is to follow the advice you give others !
Thanks.
';Oh yes it's ladies night
And the feelin's right';
- Byron
Eat Cheese.
Life is tough, get used to it.
i like chocolate milkelizabeth arden
and
How people treat you is their karma,
how you react is yours.
There's plenty others I live by, those were the first two that I can recall.Words Of Wisdom, Advice, Words YOU Live By?
';And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should';
';Que sera, sera--what will be, will be';
';Nothing really perishes';
';One is always nearer by not keeping still';--Thom Gunn
';Security is mostly a superstition';--Helen Keller
';Life is either a daring adventure or nothing';--Helen KellerWords Of Wisdom, Advice, Words YOU Live By?
You should be as alive as you can until you're totally dead
Happiness is not achieved by the conscious pursuit of happiness; it is generally the by-product of other activities.
and
All knowledge is stored somewhere. Be it in books, heads or deep under glaciers. And when we find it, we make it ours. Faith is bricks; knowledge is mortar.
★Knowlegde talks wisdom listens.
★The best way to be successful is to follow the advice you give others !
Thanks.
';Oh yes it's ladies night
And the feelin's right';
- Byron
Eat Cheese.
Life is tough, get used to it.
i like chocolate milk
Any words of advice? I'm watching Meet Me in St. Louis now.?
St Louis is a fun place to visit....I know, cuz I live there.
Enjoy the movie! Then visit St Louis!Any words of advice? I'm watching Meet Me in St. Louis now.?
Hey St. Louis is where I grew up as a child!.....And as far as that goes I lived there till I was 23 years old!
I hope you enjoyed the movie because I have never seen that!Any words of advice? I'm watching Meet Me in St. Louis now.?
Oh wow. Have fun, take pictures, bring extra cash you might get hungry =)
Enjoy it...
Enjoy the movie! Then visit St Louis!Any words of advice? I'm watching Meet Me in St. Louis now.?
Hey St. Louis is where I grew up as a child!.....And as far as that goes I lived there till I was 23 years old!
I hope you enjoyed the movie because I have never seen that!Any words of advice? I'm watching Meet Me in St. Louis now.?
Oh wow. Have fun, take pictures, bring extra cash you might get hungry =)
Enjoy it...
What words of advice would jesus give to lil kim now that she's ready to get her life together after jail?
Put some clothes on! Your nipples are showing!
Do women take poops on their wedding day? If so, any words of advice?
My fiancee asked a random question: ';Are you going to poop on our wedding day?'; So I was wondering if there was any advice out there about this.Do women take poops on their wedding day? If so, any words of advice?
a crazy question indeed....but when u gotta go...u gotta go!!!
Have your bridesmaids help you with your dress, (holding it up, before you sit down!!!) then go as u normally do! Mine wasnt so poufy at the bottom, so it was easy for me to go to the bathroom myself. My sister in law, literally, had the ';poops'; on her wedding day. She had her maid of honor help her get ready to go...lol.......anyways....you will find a way do it, if u have to......
good luck..lol :-)Do women take poops on their wedding day? If so, any words of advice?
I am a man and I am having trouble with the concept of asking someone for permission to poop?
Are wedding gowns that difficult? I guess that is another use for DEPENDS (lol).
(I ... would have preferred to be more helpful)
Women go when they have to go, period. What are you going to hold it on your wedding day, and then have mad gas just cuz you are afraid of taking a dump on your wedding day?
A very weird question indeed. When nature calls, you gotta listen no matter the situation.
I'm a morning pooper myself, so I'm sure I'll go before I take a shower and all will be well.
If you want to go in the morning so you won't have to go all day, take a stool softener before you go to bed the night before. They take about 8 hours to kick in so when you wake up, you'll go!
I have to say, this is a first for this question!!!
How can you predict something like that, and really honestly why is he thinking about that anyway, that's horrible!!!
If you gotta go....YOU GOTTA GO!!! Plain and simple! It can go either way....you might be too nervous and get the runs or you might just get constipated from the stress!!! If the bride has to go...it's a marathon task cuz usually they have oversized puffy dresses too big for the small bathrooms!!! Good Luck!
If you have to go then go. Just make sure your dress and undergarments aren't so difficult to get in and out of that it takes you half an hour.
Eat lots of yogurt.. :D
Weird Question but thats what I have to say.. eat yogurt
it helps your digestive system
hopefully you will go one time in the morningbefore you get dressed =)
Is your fiance nervous and asking bizarre questions or what? Feed him a line of bull. Tell him that when you were born that God knew the day your would marry. He programmed all women not to poop on their wedding day because he knew all men would find it gross. (see if he realizes how goofy his question is)
This is one of those things the two of you will laugh about forever. There will be many more.
I have never heard of this before. Good luck in finding your answer!
Sounds exactly like the kind of question my finace would ask.
Men are odd sometimes. I guess you would poop if you feel like it but most brides are a tad nervous and dont eat much in the days leading up to the wedding (gotta squeeze into that dress) so lack of feed leaves them feeling clogged up with a lack of pooping desire.
Theres an answer of sorts anyways.
Well if you have to go then go.
Sounds like he is thinkin about playin the back 9 on your wedding night.
Best advice is: relax, take it slow and breathe. It feels really good. Man, I am gettin excited just thinkin about it....
your fiancee asked you that? he was treading on thin ice, i mean like there isn't enough to think about on your wedding day!
a crazy question indeed....but when u gotta go...u gotta go!!!
Have your bridesmaids help you with your dress, (holding it up, before you sit down!!!) then go as u normally do! Mine wasnt so poufy at the bottom, so it was easy for me to go to the bathroom myself. My sister in law, literally, had the ';poops'; on her wedding day. She had her maid of honor help her get ready to go...lol.......anyways....you will find a way do it, if u have to......
good luck..lol :-)Do women take poops on their wedding day? If so, any words of advice?
I am a man and I am having trouble with the concept of asking someone for permission to poop?
Are wedding gowns that difficult? I guess that is another use for DEPENDS (lol).
(I ... would have preferred to be more helpful)
Women go when they have to go, period. What are you going to hold it on your wedding day, and then have mad gas just cuz you are afraid of taking a dump on your wedding day?
A very weird question indeed. When nature calls, you gotta listen no matter the situation.
I'm a morning pooper myself, so I'm sure I'll go before I take a shower and all will be well.
If you want to go in the morning so you won't have to go all day, take a stool softener before you go to bed the night before. They take about 8 hours to kick in so when you wake up, you'll go!
I have to say, this is a first for this question!!!
How can you predict something like that, and really honestly why is he thinking about that anyway, that's horrible!!!
If you gotta go....YOU GOTTA GO!!! Plain and simple! It can go either way....you might be too nervous and get the runs or you might just get constipated from the stress!!! If the bride has to go...it's a marathon task cuz usually they have oversized puffy dresses too big for the small bathrooms!!! Good Luck!
If you have to go then go. Just make sure your dress and undergarments aren't so difficult to get in and out of that it takes you half an hour.
Eat lots of yogurt.. :D
Weird Question but thats what I have to say.. eat yogurt
it helps your digestive system
hopefully you will go one time in the morningbefore you get dressed =)
Is your fiance nervous and asking bizarre questions or what? Feed him a line of bull. Tell him that when you were born that God knew the day your would marry. He programmed all women not to poop on their wedding day because he knew all men would find it gross. (see if he realizes how goofy his question is)
This is one of those things the two of you will laugh about forever. There will be many more.
I have never heard of this before. Good luck in finding your answer!
Sounds exactly like the kind of question my finace would ask.
Men are odd sometimes. I guess you would poop if you feel like it but most brides are a tad nervous and dont eat much in the days leading up to the wedding (gotta squeeze into that dress) so lack of feed leaves them feeling clogged up with a lack of pooping desire.
Theres an answer of sorts anyways.
Well if you have to go then go.
Sounds like he is thinkin about playin the back 9 on your wedding night.
Best advice is: relax, take it slow and breathe. It feels really good. Man, I am gettin excited just thinkin about it....
your fiancee asked you that? he was treading on thin ice, i mean like there isn't enough to think about on your wedding day!
Any words of advice, wisdom, comfort......?
Last night during fireworks in Sydney a lock was violently broken %26amp; we were robbed, while watching TV with my kid. Our brave Schnatzer was barking %26amp; chased the baddies away.
Do you think the robber will come back again?Any words of advice, wisdom, comfort......?
I doubt he will come back: most robberies like that are simply hit-and-run.
My prayers go out to you and your kid, I know something like that can be pretty jarring.Any words of advice, wisdom, comfort......?
No, let us hope not....Your dog couldn't take any more excitement.
well knowing that you have a dog they probably won't
Criminals supposedly return to the scene of the crime. Betcha he/she will return.
I want to say no!!!!
sorry (((hugs))) hope everyone is ok!!!!
Probably not
OMG that's awful, I can't imagine how terrifying that must have been for you and you family, I certainly hope they won't be back, do you feel safe? Take care and be safe!
he probably won't be back but I would keep your dog close just in case
(a few extra dogie treats wouldn't hurt at this point either)
I'm sorry to hear that. I bet he won't be back because he's proably terrified of your dog and that's good. My prayers go out to you and your family.
probably not..
No, they won't be back...
I hope you feel better now, that must have been scary. I don't think the thieves will come back, they never do.
no, but you should feel good that he didn't do you anything bad.
No I don't and I pray things get better for you.
Do you think the robber will come back again?Any words of advice, wisdom, comfort......?
I doubt he will come back: most robberies like that are simply hit-and-run.
My prayers go out to you and your kid, I know something like that can be pretty jarring.Any words of advice, wisdom, comfort......?
No, let us hope not....Your dog couldn't take any more excitement.
well knowing that you have a dog they probably won't
Criminals supposedly return to the scene of the crime. Betcha he/she will return.
I want to say no!!!!
sorry (((hugs))) hope everyone is ok!!!!
Probably not
OMG that's awful, I can't imagine how terrifying that must have been for you and you family, I certainly hope they won't be back, do you feel safe? Take care and be safe!
he probably won't be back but I would keep your dog close just in case
(a few extra dogie treats wouldn't hurt at this point either)
I'm sorry to hear that. I bet he won't be back because he's proably terrified of your dog and that's good. My prayers go out to you and your family.
probably not..
No, they won't be back...
I hope you feel better now, that must have been scary. I don't think the thieves will come back, they never do.
no, but you should feel good that he didn't do you anything bad.
No I don't and I pray things get better for you.
Today is my birthday! Do you have any words of advice?
Happy Birthday, Hon.. surround yourself with those you love so they may have the opportunity to tell you how special you are. Remember, It may be your birthday, but celebrating it is as important to those who love you as it is to you.Today is my birthday! Do you have any words of advice?
Keep on having them. Oh yeah, and never wear courdoroys when riding horses.Today is my birthday! Do you have any words of advice?
Happy birthday! I hope you have a great one, and Enjoy it while it lasts. And dont forget to be careful.
First of all I would like to wish you a Happy Birthday. Make sure that kindness is in everything you do in life.
Happy Birthday! Have a Great Day!
Happy birthday, Raina! Pamper yourself, sweetie. Do the things you enjoy most, and spend time with the people you love.
God bless you!
: ^ )
nothing but laugh, have fun, and celebrate
don't forget to check out:
http://www.youtube.com/spek07
-the source of the best entertainment!
LAUGH AND ENJOY!!!
just have fun and be careful, happy birthday!!!!!!!!!!!1
Happy birthday, enjoy your day!!!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! Time to PARTY!!
happy birthday and hope you live to see many more!!! God's Richest Blessings!!! How old are u?
HAPPY BIRTHDAY RAINA. I HOPE YOU WISH WILL COME TRUE.elizabeth arden
Keep on having them. Oh yeah, and never wear courdoroys when riding horses.Today is my birthday! Do you have any words of advice?
Happy birthday! I hope you have a great one, and Enjoy it while it lasts. And dont forget to be careful.
First of all I would like to wish you a Happy Birthday. Make sure that kindness is in everything you do in life.
Happy Birthday! Have a Great Day!
Happy birthday, Raina! Pamper yourself, sweetie. Do the things you enjoy most, and spend time with the people you love.
God bless you!
: ^ )
nothing but laugh, have fun, and celebrate
don't forget to check out:
http://www.youtube.com/spek07
-the source of the best entertainment!
LAUGH AND ENJOY!!!
just have fun and be careful, happy birthday!!!!!!!!!!!1
Happy birthday, enjoy your day!!!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! Time to PARTY!!
happy birthday and hope you live to see many more!!! God's Richest Blessings!!! How old are u?
HAPPY BIRTHDAY RAINA. I HOPE YOU WISH WILL COME TRUE.
Words of advice?
friend of mine is preg.
had intercourse on new years eve. then not again till the end of january beginning feb for when she got back in the relationship she was in they wante dto try for a baby.
going by early ultrasounds, and given a due date of oct 26 when could of intercource or when could she have concieved?
shes lookin at me for advice and im lost on words
thanks in advanceWords of advice?
google ';pregnancy calendar';. You should come up with a ton of results..most of which will lead you to a place where you enter in the due date, date of conception or first day of your last period. If you play around with your different dates in those it should give ya a good idea of when she concieved. However, my doctor went by the first day of my last period even though me and hubby only had sex once in the month because he said even if you know the exact date you had sex, conception could occur anywhere from that day to 5 days later. So it may be better for her just to go by her first day of her last period if she knows that. If it helps, my first day of my last period was Dec.8th 2007, I had sex on Dec.15th, and my due date is September 13th 2008.... good luck : )Words of advice?
the due date is taken from the last day of her last known period which judging by the due date was around january
had intercourse on new years eve. then not again till the end of january beginning feb for when she got back in the relationship she was in they wante dto try for a baby.
going by early ultrasounds, and given a due date of oct 26 when could of intercource or when could she have concieved?
shes lookin at me for advice and im lost on words
thanks in advanceWords of advice?
google ';pregnancy calendar';. You should come up with a ton of results..most of which will lead you to a place where you enter in the due date, date of conception or first day of your last period. If you play around with your different dates in those it should give ya a good idea of when she concieved. However, my doctor went by the first day of my last period even though me and hubby only had sex once in the month because he said even if you know the exact date you had sex, conception could occur anywhere from that day to 5 days later. So it may be better for her just to go by her first day of her last period if she knows that. If it helps, my first day of my last period was Dec.8th 2007, I had sex on Dec.15th, and my due date is September 13th 2008.... good luck : )Words of advice?
the due date is taken from the last day of her last known period which judging by the due date was around january
Do you have any words of advice, words of reassurance or scripture that can help me?
Let me give you a little bit of background information on my situation.
I have a very close family friend named Brad who is practically a second dad to me. Almost 2 years ago, he was diagnosed with a rare form of bone cancer called chondrosarcoma. He has had 3 massive surgeries in a 4 month span, 2 1/2 months of stomach bedrest and hundreds of hours of physical therapy. He has also gone to Germany(we live in the U.S.) 3 times in order to get experimental treatments because there is very little information on this type of cancer. This man has lived WAY past what the doctors said that he would and our entire family/church family is very grateful for that. We have had several benefits for him and our entire church is praying for a miracle. Resently, one of his lungs is 100% tumor and the other is 67% tumor, making breathing extremely difficult. He is having a very difficult day today and some people aren't expecting him to make it through the night. I am supposed to go see him tomorrow and I'm very very scared on what tonight and tomorrow might hold. I know it is even worse because my dad is having second thoughts on letting me go see Brad tomorrow. Brad is one of the most religious, kindhearted, giving, and god following men I know. He has an amazingly strong wife and two beautiful children. A girl who is 2 and a boy who turned 5 today. We are all very close and all struggling together.
I have been raised in a church my entire life and I know that god has a plan for everyone even though we cant always understand it, but i can not express how badly i want to know why god is letting all of this happen. Brad has had god first in his life, so why is god hurting him so much? Im begging god to heal Brad. His wife, children, and family all need him desperatly. There arent any other treatments avalible for Brad because he is too weak. This situation is all in god's hands.
If you have any words of advice, confort, scripture, ect. please tell me. As I am typing this tears are running down my face. I dont think im going to be able to sleep tonight considering the circumstances.
Thank You in advance and God BlessDo you have any words of advice, words of reassurance or scripture that can help me?
You know, peace doesn't always come in the form of eloquent words of wisdom and the thought ';everything happens for a reason';. Sometimes those cliches hurt more than what we would like to admit. What does help, I think, is just knowing that you're not alone. The Church is here to support each other in the good and the bad. This just happens to be the bad. I want you to know how sorry I am that your friend is in the situation, but my hope is that you will find some sort of comfort in knowing that you and your friend and all involved are being lifted up in prayer by someone who doesn't even know you. That is exactly what the Church is for. You wrote your question with tears streaming down your face, and I'm responding with a prayer in my heart. My prayer is that God will bring peace to your hearts, that he wil provide just the right people to bring comfort, and that his strength will be yours in this time.Do you have any words of advice, words of reassurance or scripture that can help me?
A very difficult situation.
Trust in the Lord with all your might, and lean not on your own understanding.
God DOES have a plan.
Jeremiah 29:11
Read the book of Job. This will clarify you situation.
You should go see him, he might want to see you.
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Should anything happen, just remember that you two were close.
I'm sorry to hear this. God knows best for everyone. God is bigger than cancer of the bones. God can change all this for ';good'; for those who love Him.
Romans 8:28
28 And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.
Also read the book of Job...
See how the Lord blessed him twice as much...
The Lord bless you %26amp; your family.
May the Lord heal Brad in the name of Jesus! Amen.
Keep thanking the Lord for Brad's healing. Even though it hasn't happened yet.
Following God does not make you immune to trials. In fact I would say that it is the opposite you become more prone to have trials come into your life. The real blessings that come from following God is being able to endure through those trials.
We need our trails they provide us an opportunity to grow that we would not have otherwise.
Look at this from God's perspective. Thanks to the sacrifice of His son Jesus Christ every single person who has ever or will ever be born, including those children who died before they were able to be born, will be resurrected. Their body and spirit will be reunited never again to be separated. They will also be restored to their perfect frame. Their bodies will be free from any handicaps, or similar thing, they suffered with in this life.
Brad, no matter what happens to him during his ordeal with this terrible cancer will be made whole again and when the time comes that his spirit and body part he will go to that God that he has so faithfully served, and will greet you upon your entry into the next life with the warmest of greetings, because of the love and friendship that you have for him.
When you do talk to Brad next ask him how he stays as strong as he does and also as God to help you learn that as well.
My prayers go out to you my young friend.
I am so sorry for this terrible situation... I recommend you watch this video... it might help you understand God's purpose in physical and emotional suffering:
http://www.godtube.com/view_video.php?vi鈥?/a>
As for a Scripture, see what God told Paul when he faced physical suffering:
But he said to me, ';My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.'; Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.
2 Corinthians 12:9
During these times we must lean on and rely on our faith in God.
Remember that God knows best. Brad knows this too. It's okay to pray for yourself too during these times. I pray for you all. May God show you all the way
I have not much to say but before I begin my prayers are with you and God Bless you.
I will not complain about my life. I went through hard times as many people would say but I don't. I consider them a blessing by God. My grandmother was a wise woman that died 94 years old and wasn't taking any medication. Her mind was clear as it was in her 30's. She went through 2 World Wars in Greece and had 4 children. After her 63-64 year she began to have problems walking. But when ever I saw her she would say Glory to God. She lost her husband before she reached 55 and she didn't complain to God that there was no one to take care of her. Glory to God she said. My mother took care of her till her death. Not in no institution but home. Glory to God. Little children she saw died by leukemia, cancer....but God knew she said.
She was poor but Glory to God she said. She had faith in Him.
I lost her last year. She was a great woman and I owe most of my spirituality to her. I love her and always will.
Have faith in God because He knows what are trials are! I tell you I hope to meet the Lord in my next life because near Him I will find the peace she found.
My friend do not fear death because it is only the beginning of life. Trust in Him and He will reward you. Pray for only this...
Strength.Wisdom and Peace (the Peace that Jesus had)
Shortly after my husband and I got married, one of his uncles died of a heart attack. Uncle D had taken his family to Disney World (FL) on vacation, and as they were leaving the park one evening, D collapsed and died right at the entrance. Thankfully, he went quickly and didn't suffer.
Much like Brad, D was a very good man, believer all his life, went to church and loved God.... So why'd he have to die?
Honestly, this is one of those times when faith has to be what we lean on, because there is nothing else. The family has suspicions as to why Uncle D had to die- we feel that Father needed him for something important.
I don't know much else to tell you, but I know that there is a reason that Brad has to suffer like this. I know it hurts to see him like this, and your heart is simply breaking. Maybe Father is using his suffering to help you and your family grow in some way. Maybe there is one last thing Brad needs to learn before he goes home. Maybe there's a little of both.
Pray for understanding, increased faith, and an ability to accept Father's will. He loves you, your family, and even Brad. Father has orchestrated all things that happen to be for our good.
*hug, handing you a kleenex, too*
I am very sorry to hear that. I too have felt abandoned by God recently. It just seems like no matter how much I try to do right, evil is able to trick me, steal from me, and falsely accuse me. Jesus had the same problem, evil people threatened him and harassed him and the Devil tested him after his baptism. My sister is also falling apart from cancer and I know it isn't God that does it but evil. I don't think you should blame God, there are evil forces out there and they are the type to do things like this, not God.
You are worrying over the matter unnecessarily. Submit your issues in the hands of God and be free. Let things happen as God wishes. Maybe, God gave this situation for all you people to come closer to him. If he gets cured, your people will forget God and will go back to your normal life. God does not want it; he knows that Brad will be taken to live with Him in his hereafter. He also wants all of you there with him, where nothing shall harm you and your life will be forever. Why should you bother about the life on earth which will surely come to an end? Think of the life with God, which will never end. We don't really recognize the preciousness of that life and are very much attached to this temporary life.
I am so sorry for your pain. My advice is simply this. Hand your struggles over to God. God is the only one who knows Brad's plan. He knows where Brad will be tomorrow morning. God has a bigger plan for Brad though. Brad has made himself a disciple. Brad has given his life, his heart, his family and his spirit over to the Lord and God knows how precious and wonderful he is. How much happier could Brad be then he will be in Heaven? Brad has been living his life as a disciple to one day be with the Lord in Heaven and so maybe it happens sooner then Brad or you or his family expected but whenever happens you must trust that it was already known and planned since before Brad was born. God is not hurting him. I know you know that. God is not hurting you and I know you know that too. God is a loving a nurturing God so turn to Him. Hold up your hands and grasp on to Gods. Wrap yourself in His warm embrace and know that He will always protect you. This world is not of Him and we must know that the pains and sicknesses and troubles of this world will not follow us to Heaven. Do not turn from God RUN TO HIM! Let Him love you and hold you through this pain.
My heart goes out to you and all those suffering around you.
God bless
You don't mention your age and that may be a legitimate reason for your dad's concern although there are always exceptions and I assume both you and your dad are praying about this.
Reasons for going - difficult as some may seem:
1. Its all about Brad's needs - not yours. It would be hard for me to believe that he would reject you at this point and is probably waiting for you to come
2. Think about all you can be thankful for in Brad's contributions to your life and focus less on the inevitable loss his death might bring.
3. Trust in God's timing and thank him for sending Brad to you and the reasons why.
4. Trust more in where Brad is going than your loss and be joyful for him.
5. Don't be afraid to grieve and ask God to reveal his reasons as He comforts you adn trust in his response - which may take years.
Isaiah 57:1 The righteous perish, and no one ponders it in his heart;
devout men are taken away, and no one understands that the righteous are taken away to be spared from evil. 2 Those who walk uprightly enter into peace; they find rest as they lie in death.
God keep you.
Lord , I pray for brad right now, I ask that you will comfort him and loved ones through this painful process. Cover him in the blood of Jesus. Forgive him for any sins. Cause the healing of every internal organ in his body to manifest. according to 1 Peter 2:24 Thank you Jesus for you getting all the glory in Jesus name Amen.
For the director of music. Of David.
1 In the LORD I take refuge.
How then can you say to me:
';Flee like a bird to your mountain.
2 For look, the wicked bend their bows;
they set their arrows against the strings
to shoot from the shadows
at the upright in heart.
3 When the foundations are being destroyed,
what can the righteous do [a] ?';
4 The LORD is in his holy temple;
the LORD is on his heavenly throne.
He observes the sons of men;
his eyes examine them.
5 The LORD examines the righteous,
but the wicked [b] and those who love violence
his soul hates.
6 On the wicked he will rain
fiery coals and burning sulfur;
a scorching wind will be their lot.
7 For the LORD is righteous,
he loves justice;
upright men will see his face.
I'm sorry to hear about Brad, and your broken heart . First, I pray for you sweet sleep ( Prov 3 : 24 %26lt;-- please read ) .
The two people from the Bible that come to my mind when i hear of something like this is , King Hezekiah and Job . Job had boils from head to foot and King Hezekiah had one boil. Of Job God said ( to Satan) you can't take his life, and of Hezekiah He said '; get your house in order,you are going to die . This says to me that it has little to do with the health problem and everything to do with Gods will .
Go see him and talk to him . Tell him his ' online ' brothers and sisters are praying for him too . ( and for everyone concerned )
God bless you .
';...and with his stripes we are healed.'; Isaiah 53:5
';Behold, I have graven thee upon the palms of my hands; thy walls are continually before me.';Isaiah 49:16
http://nitewriter.net/BibleScripturestoC鈥?/a>
You're all in my prayers.
Spend some time praying and meditating on the scriptures before going but you need to have some composure and not break down when you see him. Since he is so close to the Lord he will go to heaven and get rewards, right? Are you sure he is born again? Being religious won't get us to heaven unless we are truly born from above. Get a word from the Lord about this if you can before talking to him so that you can minister to him in a meaningful way.
Take heart and know that your dear friend is in the very loving hands of his Lord and Savior. Know also that God is not doing this to your friend.
God allowed man choice and that brought sin into the world.
Sin brought disease and suffering and death. Your friend will soon have a real and perfect body in heaven. Paul said in Philippians 1 :21
To live is Christ, but to die is gain.
That means the time your friend spent here was spent being Jesus to other people. He is about to recieve his eternal reward for that. Please do not mourn in the same way a pagan mourns a lost loved one.
Dont take that the wrong way, I mean if you follow Jesus too you have an assured promise to see Brad again!
I miss my Dad too, I lost him 11 years ago December 17th. I miss him a lot... But I take joy in the fact he recieved Christ a few weeks before he died in my arms from pneumonia brought on by cancer.
My heart breaks for you and I am crying now too.
Your friend has run a most excellent race. Please do not turn your anger on God, but lean on His trustworthy arms to get you through this time of sorrow. Perhaps his life will influence someone to put their trust in God because of your testimony about him.
Peace
Jesus gives us 3 kinds of peace.
Peace from God- We are no longer God's enemy
we are free from God's judgement
Peace with God- He calls us his son/daughter. Heirs to all that is His!
Peace of God- Peace that passes all understanding. Peace thru all circumstances. Philippians 4:11
Love in Christ
I am praying for you tonight
I don't think that there can be anything I could say to console you.
Many people have said before this, that there is a reaosn that things happen, even the bad things and that it could be his wife will meet someone after his death that will greatly influence you in a positive way that otherwise would not have been a part of your life. I know it hurts to have someone you love dying and you should spend your time comforting them, being with them, talking with them so you can live on and carry them within you. :)
God isn't hurting Brad. God didn't give Brad cancer. Who knows why these things happen. Sometimes God doesn't stop the natural processes in this life because He has a greater good in mind. And remember this: if Brad has put God first all his life - then he'll be happy to be going home. Think, maybe Heavenly Father is ready to have Brad back home with Him? I know you'll miss Brad - but Heavenly Father missed him too.
I'm so sorry for the pain and loss you're experiencing. But don't be afraid - the Lord is with you.
I have a very close family friend named Brad who is practically a second dad to me. Almost 2 years ago, he was diagnosed with a rare form of bone cancer called chondrosarcoma. He has had 3 massive surgeries in a 4 month span, 2 1/2 months of stomach bedrest and hundreds of hours of physical therapy. He has also gone to Germany(we live in the U.S.) 3 times in order to get experimental treatments because there is very little information on this type of cancer. This man has lived WAY past what the doctors said that he would and our entire family/church family is very grateful for that. We have had several benefits for him and our entire church is praying for a miracle. Resently, one of his lungs is 100% tumor and the other is 67% tumor, making breathing extremely difficult. He is having a very difficult day today and some people aren't expecting him to make it through the night. I am supposed to go see him tomorrow and I'm very very scared on what tonight and tomorrow might hold. I know it is even worse because my dad is having second thoughts on letting me go see Brad tomorrow. Brad is one of the most religious, kindhearted, giving, and god following men I know. He has an amazingly strong wife and two beautiful children. A girl who is 2 and a boy who turned 5 today. We are all very close and all struggling together.
I have been raised in a church my entire life and I know that god has a plan for everyone even though we cant always understand it, but i can not express how badly i want to know why god is letting all of this happen. Brad has had god first in his life, so why is god hurting him so much? Im begging god to heal Brad. His wife, children, and family all need him desperatly. There arent any other treatments avalible for Brad because he is too weak. This situation is all in god's hands.
If you have any words of advice, confort, scripture, ect. please tell me. As I am typing this tears are running down my face. I dont think im going to be able to sleep tonight considering the circumstances.
Thank You in advance and God BlessDo you have any words of advice, words of reassurance or scripture that can help me?
You know, peace doesn't always come in the form of eloquent words of wisdom and the thought ';everything happens for a reason';. Sometimes those cliches hurt more than what we would like to admit. What does help, I think, is just knowing that you're not alone. The Church is here to support each other in the good and the bad. This just happens to be the bad. I want you to know how sorry I am that your friend is in the situation, but my hope is that you will find some sort of comfort in knowing that you and your friend and all involved are being lifted up in prayer by someone who doesn't even know you. That is exactly what the Church is for. You wrote your question with tears streaming down your face, and I'm responding with a prayer in my heart. My prayer is that God will bring peace to your hearts, that he wil provide just the right people to bring comfort, and that his strength will be yours in this time.Do you have any words of advice, words of reassurance or scripture that can help me?
A very difficult situation.
Trust in the Lord with all your might, and lean not on your own understanding.
God DOES have a plan.
Jeremiah 29:11
Read the book of Job. This will clarify you situation.
You should go see him, he might want to see you.
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Should anything happen, just remember that you two were close.
I'm sorry to hear this. God knows best for everyone. God is bigger than cancer of the bones. God can change all this for ';good'; for those who love Him.
Romans 8:28
28 And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.
Also read the book of Job...
See how the Lord blessed him twice as much...
The Lord bless you %26amp; your family.
May the Lord heal Brad in the name of Jesus! Amen.
Keep thanking the Lord for Brad's healing. Even though it hasn't happened yet.
Following God does not make you immune to trials. In fact I would say that it is the opposite you become more prone to have trials come into your life. The real blessings that come from following God is being able to endure through those trials.
We need our trails they provide us an opportunity to grow that we would not have otherwise.
Look at this from God's perspective. Thanks to the sacrifice of His son Jesus Christ every single person who has ever or will ever be born, including those children who died before they were able to be born, will be resurrected. Their body and spirit will be reunited never again to be separated. They will also be restored to their perfect frame. Their bodies will be free from any handicaps, or similar thing, they suffered with in this life.
Brad, no matter what happens to him during his ordeal with this terrible cancer will be made whole again and when the time comes that his spirit and body part he will go to that God that he has so faithfully served, and will greet you upon your entry into the next life with the warmest of greetings, because of the love and friendship that you have for him.
When you do talk to Brad next ask him how he stays as strong as he does and also as God to help you learn that as well.
My prayers go out to you my young friend.
I am so sorry for this terrible situation... I recommend you watch this video... it might help you understand God's purpose in physical and emotional suffering:
http://www.godtube.com/view_video.php?vi鈥?/a>
As for a Scripture, see what God told Paul when he faced physical suffering:
But he said to me, ';My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.'; Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.
2 Corinthians 12:9
During these times we must lean on and rely on our faith in God.
Remember that God knows best. Brad knows this too. It's okay to pray for yourself too during these times. I pray for you all. May God show you all the way
I have not much to say but before I begin my prayers are with you and God Bless you.
I will not complain about my life. I went through hard times as many people would say but I don't. I consider them a blessing by God. My grandmother was a wise woman that died 94 years old and wasn't taking any medication. Her mind was clear as it was in her 30's. She went through 2 World Wars in Greece and had 4 children. After her 63-64 year she began to have problems walking. But when ever I saw her she would say Glory to God. She lost her husband before she reached 55 and she didn't complain to God that there was no one to take care of her. Glory to God she said. My mother took care of her till her death. Not in no institution but home. Glory to God. Little children she saw died by leukemia, cancer....but God knew she said.
She was poor but Glory to God she said. She had faith in Him.
I lost her last year. She was a great woman and I owe most of my spirituality to her. I love her and always will.
Have faith in God because He knows what are trials are! I tell you I hope to meet the Lord in my next life because near Him I will find the peace she found.
My friend do not fear death because it is only the beginning of life. Trust in Him and He will reward you. Pray for only this...
Strength.Wisdom and Peace (the Peace that Jesus had)
Shortly after my husband and I got married, one of his uncles died of a heart attack. Uncle D had taken his family to Disney World (FL) on vacation, and as they were leaving the park one evening, D collapsed and died right at the entrance. Thankfully, he went quickly and didn't suffer.
Much like Brad, D was a very good man, believer all his life, went to church and loved God.... So why'd he have to die?
Honestly, this is one of those times when faith has to be what we lean on, because there is nothing else. The family has suspicions as to why Uncle D had to die- we feel that Father needed him for something important.
I don't know much else to tell you, but I know that there is a reason that Brad has to suffer like this. I know it hurts to see him like this, and your heart is simply breaking. Maybe Father is using his suffering to help you and your family grow in some way. Maybe there is one last thing Brad needs to learn before he goes home. Maybe there's a little of both.
Pray for understanding, increased faith, and an ability to accept Father's will. He loves you, your family, and even Brad. Father has orchestrated all things that happen to be for our good.
*hug, handing you a kleenex, too*
I am very sorry to hear that. I too have felt abandoned by God recently. It just seems like no matter how much I try to do right, evil is able to trick me, steal from me, and falsely accuse me. Jesus had the same problem, evil people threatened him and harassed him and the Devil tested him after his baptism. My sister is also falling apart from cancer and I know it isn't God that does it but evil. I don't think you should blame God, there are evil forces out there and they are the type to do things like this, not God.
You are worrying over the matter unnecessarily. Submit your issues in the hands of God and be free. Let things happen as God wishes. Maybe, God gave this situation for all you people to come closer to him. If he gets cured, your people will forget God and will go back to your normal life. God does not want it; he knows that Brad will be taken to live with Him in his hereafter. He also wants all of you there with him, where nothing shall harm you and your life will be forever. Why should you bother about the life on earth which will surely come to an end? Think of the life with God, which will never end. We don't really recognize the preciousness of that life and are very much attached to this temporary life.
I am so sorry for your pain. My advice is simply this. Hand your struggles over to God. God is the only one who knows Brad's plan. He knows where Brad will be tomorrow morning. God has a bigger plan for Brad though. Brad has made himself a disciple. Brad has given his life, his heart, his family and his spirit over to the Lord and God knows how precious and wonderful he is. How much happier could Brad be then he will be in Heaven? Brad has been living his life as a disciple to one day be with the Lord in Heaven and so maybe it happens sooner then Brad or you or his family expected but whenever happens you must trust that it was already known and planned since before Brad was born. God is not hurting him. I know you know that. God is not hurting you and I know you know that too. God is a loving a nurturing God so turn to Him. Hold up your hands and grasp on to Gods. Wrap yourself in His warm embrace and know that He will always protect you. This world is not of Him and we must know that the pains and sicknesses and troubles of this world will not follow us to Heaven. Do not turn from God RUN TO HIM! Let Him love you and hold you through this pain.
My heart goes out to you and all those suffering around you.
God bless
You don't mention your age and that may be a legitimate reason for your dad's concern although there are always exceptions and I assume both you and your dad are praying about this.
Reasons for going - difficult as some may seem:
1. Its all about Brad's needs - not yours. It would be hard for me to believe that he would reject you at this point and is probably waiting for you to come
2. Think about all you can be thankful for in Brad's contributions to your life and focus less on the inevitable loss his death might bring.
3. Trust in God's timing and thank him for sending Brad to you and the reasons why.
4. Trust more in where Brad is going than your loss and be joyful for him.
5. Don't be afraid to grieve and ask God to reveal his reasons as He comforts you adn trust in his response - which may take years.
Isaiah 57:1 The righteous perish, and no one ponders it in his heart;
devout men are taken away, and no one understands that the righteous are taken away to be spared from evil. 2 Those who walk uprightly enter into peace; they find rest as they lie in death.
God keep you.
Lord , I pray for brad right now, I ask that you will comfort him and loved ones through this painful process. Cover him in the blood of Jesus. Forgive him for any sins. Cause the healing of every internal organ in his body to manifest. according to 1 Peter 2:24 Thank you Jesus for you getting all the glory in Jesus name Amen.
For the director of music. Of David.
1 In the LORD I take refuge.
How then can you say to me:
';Flee like a bird to your mountain.
2 For look, the wicked bend their bows;
they set their arrows against the strings
to shoot from the shadows
at the upright in heart.
3 When the foundations are being destroyed,
what can the righteous do [a] ?';
4 The LORD is in his holy temple;
the LORD is on his heavenly throne.
He observes the sons of men;
his eyes examine them.
5 The LORD examines the righteous,
but the wicked [b] and those who love violence
his soul hates.
6 On the wicked he will rain
fiery coals and burning sulfur;
a scorching wind will be their lot.
7 For the LORD is righteous,
he loves justice;
upright men will see his face.
I'm sorry to hear about Brad, and your broken heart . First, I pray for you sweet sleep ( Prov 3 : 24 %26lt;-- please read ) .
The two people from the Bible that come to my mind when i hear of something like this is , King Hezekiah and Job . Job had boils from head to foot and King Hezekiah had one boil. Of Job God said ( to Satan) you can't take his life, and of Hezekiah He said '; get your house in order,you are going to die . This says to me that it has little to do with the health problem and everything to do with Gods will .
Go see him and talk to him . Tell him his ' online ' brothers and sisters are praying for him too . ( and for everyone concerned )
God bless you .
';...and with his stripes we are healed.'; Isaiah 53:5
';Behold, I have graven thee upon the palms of my hands; thy walls are continually before me.';Isaiah 49:16
http://nitewriter.net/BibleScripturestoC鈥?/a>
You're all in my prayers.
Spend some time praying and meditating on the scriptures before going but you need to have some composure and not break down when you see him. Since he is so close to the Lord he will go to heaven and get rewards, right? Are you sure he is born again? Being religious won't get us to heaven unless we are truly born from above. Get a word from the Lord about this if you can before talking to him so that you can minister to him in a meaningful way.
Take heart and know that your dear friend is in the very loving hands of his Lord and Savior. Know also that God is not doing this to your friend.
God allowed man choice and that brought sin into the world.
Sin brought disease and suffering and death. Your friend will soon have a real and perfect body in heaven. Paul said in Philippians 1 :21
To live is Christ, but to die is gain.
That means the time your friend spent here was spent being Jesus to other people. He is about to recieve his eternal reward for that. Please do not mourn in the same way a pagan mourns a lost loved one.
Dont take that the wrong way, I mean if you follow Jesus too you have an assured promise to see Brad again!
I miss my Dad too, I lost him 11 years ago December 17th. I miss him a lot... But I take joy in the fact he recieved Christ a few weeks before he died in my arms from pneumonia brought on by cancer.
My heart breaks for you and I am crying now too.
Your friend has run a most excellent race. Please do not turn your anger on God, but lean on His trustworthy arms to get you through this time of sorrow. Perhaps his life will influence someone to put their trust in God because of your testimony about him.
Peace
Jesus gives us 3 kinds of peace.
Peace from God- We are no longer God's enemy
we are free from God's judgement
Peace with God- He calls us his son/daughter. Heirs to all that is His!
Peace of God- Peace that passes all understanding. Peace thru all circumstances. Philippians 4:11
Love in Christ
I am praying for you tonight
I don't think that there can be anything I could say to console you.
Many people have said before this, that there is a reaosn that things happen, even the bad things and that it could be his wife will meet someone after his death that will greatly influence you in a positive way that otherwise would not have been a part of your life. I know it hurts to have someone you love dying and you should spend your time comforting them, being with them, talking with them so you can live on and carry them within you. :)
God isn't hurting Brad. God didn't give Brad cancer. Who knows why these things happen. Sometimes God doesn't stop the natural processes in this life because He has a greater good in mind. And remember this: if Brad has put God first all his life - then he'll be happy to be going home. Think, maybe Heavenly Father is ready to have Brad back home with Him? I know you'll miss Brad - but Heavenly Father missed him too.
I'm so sorry for the pain and loss you're experiencing. But don't be afraid - the Lord is with you.
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