If it makes you feel better go for it. Keep it simple and keep in mind it probably won't do any good. I am sure people tried to tell you too when you were with him, if you can't think of any, it is because you were not ready to hear them.Should I give my ex-husbands new wife a word of advice?
yes tell her Please tell her
no woman should be abused by a man
charges should be filed if she stays
put him in jail
LOVE doesn't = ABUSE
lol its not your affair just watch it happen you never know he probably just hated you
no let her find out for herself.
You can try to say something to her, but untill shes ready to leave him on her own it won't do anything.
u r one of the good ones yes talk to her tell her of youre life with him maybe she will do something before he hurts her or the kids, dont wait take her out for lunch and have a heart 2 heart woman 2 woman talk she might listen i'll pray for her
If she wants to talk to you, I would tell her the truth, about how he was to you., abusive etc. Tell her you just wanted her to know so she can really thing about leaving. Since she has a good job etc, she probly better staying there and filling for a divorce. He is not going to change ,unless he go's seeks some help. Aggressive Management classes, might help. She has her own child to think of and better really think twice. You just wanted to warn her . , you trying to be friends. Good luck Pem
Definetley !! Tell her ASAP! She deserves to know the truth.
Tell her it is all HIS problem. Not her. She didn't make him do
whatever he did to her. There is NO EXCUSE for being
abusive. None. Tell her this. It will ease her mind some and
maybe make her feel better about herself. Because abusers
take away ur self-esteem. They beat u down so much that a
woman believes her value is little. That is not true. Ask her
if she wants to talk with u about it......Being a friend to some
one in need, is a noble cause. Good Luck....
you can probably talk to her until you are blue in the face and she will still go with him,. she is sick too you see? the poor kid she drags along is who I feel sorry for.
Don't waste your time. Your problem is over so let her handle it herself. On top of that, you may get into trouble with your ex-husband if he finds out.
You can, but she'll never listen to you.
Unless comforting her in her time of trouble there is probably little you could say. She has learned and correcting her situation. If she's hurting inside and not physically, then that is something she'll have to work through.
If you feel the need to say what you need to say- go ahead, as long as it's not something that will make her hurt anymore.
Glad you got away from him and that's probably what she needs to do right now.
Take care, God bless and I'll keep you and her in my prayers.
Yes... It's clear that you've both been wronged. It might be just what she needs... to have someone to talk to that knows the very intimacy of that kind of relationship. Even if she rejects you, you will have done the decent and noble thing. Who knows... a great friendship might blossom from this.
she might like someone to talk to who knows what she's going through but make sure she feels comfortable with you why didnt you report him? Just so that other women know he is abusive
You can try, maybe she will want or need someone to talk to who has gone through the same thing, but unless she is ready to talk, it won't do any good.
Wow ! Well, if she has been married to him for two years, but has been separated for the past year, she is most likely aware of how he is already.
Woman to woman , I would '; give her advice ';. That's just what we women do ! We try to protect each other. And, what have you got to lose? You're out of the situation! Just don't put yourself in any kind of danger. If she tells him that you warned her of him, he may want to retaliate. So, just be careful with your words so nothing will come back to haunt you.
move on. He is her problem now.
Your saying something to her will only make you feel better. She will not believe you. She is in denial, and nothing you say will crack through the wall of hope that she is clinging to, that things will change. Unfortunately, this is one of those times that no matter what you know, no matter what you tell her, nothing will make her see him for what he really is. Only when she is ready to see him, will she really see him. She will wake up one day, but today is not that day.
I know that you probably are wanting to say something to her out of real concern for her, but it will do no good.
Yes! You should say something to her. You should do all you can to keep her from being with him. You definitely need to know you did all you could to help her if she doesn't listen to and ends up getting hurt real bad or worse. It's ok to try to help someone if it doesn't do anything. It's also ok to try to help if it keeps you from feeling guilt. Sometimes people don't think enough about themselves. It's ok to things for yourself. That's probably why she's staying with him, and probably why you stayed with him for so long. She isn't and you didn't think about yourselves enough.
Yes absolutely, she may not listen but perhaps will face the truth about him sooner and not hope he will change. Perhaps she will do the responsible thing for her child and not go, point out to her how horrible it will be for her child to see her being hurt. The childs father could also prevent her from leaving, especially if the child is being taken in to an abusive home. Good luck, at least you will know that you tried so that if something does happen to her you won't regret not having tried. I think once you approach her and she realizes you aren't just a vindictive ex and its her welfare you are trying to look out for she will hear you.
Ok, is she leaving to go with him or not?
you need to warn her a.s.a.p. becuz if you don't you will feel guilty if she gets hurt by him let her know before it is too late
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