Some words of advice from those with faith.....?

In the past few years i've tried to turn my life around, don't get me wrong i've never been in jail but I hated my behaviour and the way I was (drinking, drugs etc). I wouldn't say I was particularly religious as a youngster but ever since I started trying to me a more moral and dignified person I strangely have become one.....and it certainly wasn't intentional. Some times though I find it hard, or more I am finding it hard to completely break away from my past and move on.





I made a promise to myself that I wasn't going to sleep around at all and for 2 years and kept to it, but I allowed other people's taunts and influence make me believe that I was the ';freak'; for not doing so, so I went and slept with someone who I really cared about and hurt them in the process. I was so proud of the fact that i'd not slept around and that I was waiting for the right woman. I'd just like some thoughts and advice on how I can move on from this and continue to grow and become a better person. As I said, although I'm not a practising christian, I certainly am one......and feel a bit guilty for not going to Church if I had to be honest, I believe it's my faith of the past few years that has changed me and made me a far better person however much I slip up sometimes.Some words of advice from those with faith.....?
I'm not a person of faith but I do have some words that I hope may help you: I know fro experience that you will be criticized no matter what you do. If you choose to be abstinent, people call you a loser or a freak. If you have sex with someone outside of marriage, people call you a whore, even if just one person. People are cruel and quick to judge. They're weak and the only thing that makes them feel better about themselves is to point out flaws in others, even if, in your case, it's not even a flaw to begin with. You want to be a better person. Well I don't know you at all but I think you're a good person alraedy. You show regret for hurting someone's feelings. It shows you're empathetic, that's redeeming quality in itself. If that's not enough all I can say is trying making amends with this person right away before that bridge gets completely burned away for good and stop listening to the taunts of others. What do they know anyways about freaks anyways? If they know so much about freaks they must be freaks themselves... That's usually how it goes.





Peace be with you.Some words of advice from those with faith.....?
Going to church will not get it done.


In order to accomplish overcoming anything be it alcohol, drugs, gambling, criminal actions, sleeping around, over eating whatever is done through the power of Jesus Christ.


Pray and sincerly ask God to lift the obsession.


In times of temptation pray.


You cant do it on your own strength.





Just try it.
I believe somebody has been praying for you for a long, long time and God is answering their prayers. You desire to live a moral and upright life...go ahead and surrender your all to God. He is faithful, He is just, He is merciful and He loves you!
dan......you don't have faith. put YOUR FAITH IN JESUS...then you will begin to change and see life differently. you do not have your own 'STRENGTH', the good lord puts it in you. '; FAITH '; IN JESUS CHRIST , ALONE, JUST FAITH ALONE CAN DO SOLOUCH. GOD BLESS YOU. YOU CAN'T DO THIS BY YOURSELF AND THAT'S WHAT YOU BEEN DOING, THAT'S WHY IT IS NOT WORKING........YOUR ANSWER IS JESUS.
Brother, happens to anyone
Am sure that it has been a factor.


Well done for trying.
Go on, sleep around. I dare you.
I was a virgin to until recently i was taunted for being one and just gave it up to someone who totally didnt deserve it. on the path to being a good person your gonna have those people who are just gonna try 2 make you feel bad because your trying to actually do good. just stay strong and don't let people get to you. it's easier said than done but, i believe you can do it. just choose te people you surround yourself with very carefully. =D
Well - first things first - you have to help out that girl whom you may or may not have talked into having sex with you.


She's hurting, and you know you're responsible, so man up and take care of her. Make her feel that she's wanted and it's worthwhile.





As for the religion part, that's up to yourself and what you want to do. But from a man to another man, who knows many of his friends who did to girls the same thing you did, be different and have class and go back to her and heal her, no matter what it takes. It's an act of responsibility, that unfortunately not many of us guys have these days, but it makes you more valuable and much stronger inside if you do it.





That's my big advice.
Dan, you're on the right road. Don't be influenced by peer taunts and teasing. Why do you care what they think? You will be the one who's respected in the long run, and you will deserve it.


If you don't want to go to church, maybe you would like to read the bible. There are many books in the library comparing religions and talking about their beliefs. Perhaps that would be helpful. Do you have any Christian friends? That would really be great because they would be going through some of the same things you are.


I believe your faith has changed you too. Sometimes God reaches out to us, but we don't listen. You did. I'm thankful for that. Loose the guilt. Stay positive. You've come a long way.
All this guilt is just screaming into a hole in the ground buddy- I can't say i agree with you having a religion, but if you must- why let it rot your soul with guilt this way? If you don't want to sleep around- and theres a hundred good reasons for that, don't- if you fail at your resolve- dust yourself off and try again- or just give up, you think the guy who made the universe and everything in it is watching you like some perverse censor in a government building? If you feel bad about yourself- do Good works, don't stew and angst at the inevitable wrath of some invisible jewish war-god- whose prophecy was only written for 12 tribes of people who lived in the desert and stoned each other to death for working on a saturday back when China and India were in their third millenium of civilisation, both sporting long lines of great kings and cultures and a rich literate history all apparently, without his help.





you can reap the wonderful rewards of your good works in this life by seeing the wonderful things you achieve- try working for the red cross on a sunday whilst everybody else is cloistered in a room giving their money to a guy without a real job and talking in tongues- the guilt just goes out the window- trust me, i was raised a catholic.
Your story sounds like one I wrote for someone on the radio.





Drug’s Message


By Mike McCracken





Used to go to church on Sunday


Didn’t take time to pray


Chose to live the good life


All it brought was strife


You can say that I’m a fool


Act up to be cool


Got hooked on drugs and heroin


I know it’s wrong





(chorus)


Found a girl just like me


It’s not the way to be


But I’ll still take drugs with you


If you want me too





Collect stamps and write poetry


Everyone needs a hobby


Now, I go to college


To spread drug’s message


Haven’t seen her in two years


Still can’t dry my tears


She died of an overdose


Guess that’s how it goes


(chorus)


Another girl will come along


And I know it’s wrong


I’ll take drugs with you


If you want me too





I’m only twenty-one


Some say, “I’m still young”


Still have a chance you know


But don’t know where to go





Use to go to church on Sunday


Maybe, I should pray.








I hope this helps.