It's 4:16 in the morning, and I've got a paper due at 10am.I'm hoping to get to bed in at least the next hour so that I can have at least four hours of sleep lol...any words of inspiration to get myself off Yahoo answers and get my work done?lol thanks!Any words of advice on this?
Never give up. If you fall off the horse, get right back up. Keep working hard and you will ultimately catch up on your work, even if you must ask for a little extra time. Just try your best.Any words of advice on this?
turn the computer off and focus on your future
Sunday, May 9, 2010
Any words of advice to get over a phone phobia!!!!?
for some reason i have a real hard time calling people on the phone,especially businesses where i dont know who the person is, or i have to call like a boss,teacher, ect.....i just freak out and have someone else call and talk to the person.
i even have a hard time talking on the phone with people listening to my conversation, even with my bf im nervous,
i always have to leave the room or not talk
and i see people all the time talking on the phone like they love it, and i cant stand it.........
i always feel like im gonna sound weird, i think i talk funny, people always make joking comments about the stuff i say or how i say it.......
i feel its gonna ruin me trying to get this job i want cuz i have to talk on the phone with insurance companies and nurses and dr. all the time...i cant avoid it.
so i need some ways to get over this asap!!Any words of advice to get over a phone phobia!!!!?
I can't tell you how exactly the same I am! I can't use the telephone - I get really nervous and anxious and can't stand the thought of phoning anyone. The worst thing was I once had a Saturday job as a receptionist and had to make phone calls...I quickly quit the job because I couldn't do it.
Have you heard about social anxiety disorder? It could be a form of social anxiety. I have social anxiety and phone phobia is one aspect of it. I definitely think you should talk to someone (not over the phone!) about it, maybe go and see your doctor who can put you through to a counsellor. It could just be a simple fear of telephones, like people are fearful of spiders, but are you generally anxious about doing other things as well - or is it JUST phones?
I am so similar to you, I really can't use the phone, I get really worried if I know I have to call someone. For example I always get my Mum to phone the hairdresser for me, and I'm 18, not 8!
You can beat this though, if you get in touch with your GP and see what he/she can do for you. Good Luck!Any words of advice to get over a phone phobia!!!!?
http://www.fearphobiacure.com - Cached
From my experience, my phobias have taken many years of therapy and medication to calm them down. But the above link says they can cure a phobia fast
why dont u try relaxation exercises
i even have a hard time talking on the phone with people listening to my conversation, even with my bf im nervous,
i always have to leave the room or not talk
and i see people all the time talking on the phone like they love it, and i cant stand it.........
i always feel like im gonna sound weird, i think i talk funny, people always make joking comments about the stuff i say or how i say it.......
i feel its gonna ruin me trying to get this job i want cuz i have to talk on the phone with insurance companies and nurses and dr. all the time...i cant avoid it.
so i need some ways to get over this asap!!Any words of advice to get over a phone phobia!!!!?
I can't tell you how exactly the same I am! I can't use the telephone - I get really nervous and anxious and can't stand the thought of phoning anyone. The worst thing was I once had a Saturday job as a receptionist and had to make phone calls...I quickly quit the job because I couldn't do it.
Have you heard about social anxiety disorder? It could be a form of social anxiety. I have social anxiety and phone phobia is one aspect of it. I definitely think you should talk to someone (not over the phone!) about it, maybe go and see your doctor who can put you through to a counsellor. It could just be a simple fear of telephones, like people are fearful of spiders, but are you generally anxious about doing other things as well - or is it JUST phones?
I am so similar to you, I really can't use the phone, I get really worried if I know I have to call someone. For example I always get my Mum to phone the hairdresser for me, and I'm 18, not 8!
You can beat this though, if you get in touch with your GP and see what he/she can do for you. Good Luck!Any words of advice to get over a phone phobia!!!!?
http://www.fearphobiacure.com - Cached
From my experience, my phobias have taken many years of therapy and medication to calm them down. But the above link says they can cure a phobia fast
why dont u try relaxation exercises
Some words of advice from those with faith.....?
In the past few years i've tried to turn my life around, don't get me wrong i've never been in jail but I hated my behaviour and the way I was (drinking, drugs etc). I wouldn't say I was particularly religious as a youngster but ever since I started trying to me a more moral and dignified person I strangely have become one.....and it certainly wasn't intentional. Some times though I find it hard, or more I am finding it hard to completely break away from my past and move on.
I made a promise to myself that I wasn't going to sleep around at all and for 2 years and kept to it, but I allowed other people's taunts and influence make me believe that I was the ';freak'; for not doing so, so I went and slept with someone who I really cared about and hurt them in the process. I was so proud of the fact that i'd not slept around and that I was waiting for the right woman. I'd just like some thoughts and advice on how I can move on from this and continue to grow and become a better person. As I said, although I'm not a practising christian, I certainly am one......and feel a bit guilty for not going to Church if I had to be honest, I believe it's my faith of the past few years that has changed me and made me a far better person however much I slip up sometimes.Some words of advice from those with faith.....?
I'm not a person of faith but I do have some words that I hope may help you: I know fro experience that you will be criticized no matter what you do. If you choose to be abstinent, people call you a loser or a freak. If you have sex with someone outside of marriage, people call you a whore, even if just one person. People are cruel and quick to judge. They're weak and the only thing that makes them feel better about themselves is to point out flaws in others, even if, in your case, it's not even a flaw to begin with. You want to be a better person. Well I don't know you at all but I think you're a good person alraedy. You show regret for hurting someone's feelings. It shows you're empathetic, that's redeeming quality in itself. If that's not enough all I can say is trying making amends with this person right away before that bridge gets completely burned away for good and stop listening to the taunts of others. What do they know anyways about freaks anyways? If they know so much about freaks they must be freaks themselves... That's usually how it goes.
Peace be with you.Some words of advice from those with faith.....?
Going to church will not get it done.
In order to accomplish overcoming anything be it alcohol, drugs, gambling, criminal actions, sleeping around, over eating whatever is done through the power of Jesus Christ.
Pray and sincerly ask God to lift the obsession.
In times of temptation pray.
You cant do it on your own strength.
Just try it.
I believe somebody has been praying for you for a long, long time and God is answering their prayers. You desire to live a moral and upright life...go ahead and surrender your all to God. He is faithful, He is just, He is merciful and He loves you!
dan......you don't have faith. put YOUR FAITH IN JESUS...then you will begin to change and see life differently. you do not have your own 'STRENGTH', the good lord puts it in you. '; FAITH '; IN JESUS CHRIST , ALONE, JUST FAITH ALONE CAN DO SOLOUCH. GOD BLESS YOU. YOU CAN'T DO THIS BY YOURSELF AND THAT'S WHAT YOU BEEN DOING, THAT'S WHY IT IS NOT WORKING........YOUR ANSWER IS JESUS.
Brother, happens to anyone
Am sure that it has been a factor.
Well done for trying.
Go on, sleep around. I dare you.
I was a virgin to until recently i was taunted for being one and just gave it up to someone who totally didnt deserve it. on the path to being a good person your gonna have those people who are just gonna try 2 make you feel bad because your trying to actually do good. just stay strong and don't let people get to you. it's easier said than done but, i believe you can do it. just choose te people you surround yourself with very carefully. =D
Well - first things first - you have to help out that girl whom you may or may not have talked into having sex with you.
She's hurting, and you know you're responsible, so man up and take care of her. Make her feel that she's wanted and it's worthwhile.
As for the religion part, that's up to yourself and what you want to do. But from a man to another man, who knows many of his friends who did to girls the same thing you did, be different and have class and go back to her and heal her, no matter what it takes. It's an act of responsibility, that unfortunately not many of us guys have these days, but it makes you more valuable and much stronger inside if you do it.
That's my big advice.
Dan, you're on the right road. Don't be influenced by peer taunts and teasing. Why do you care what they think? You will be the one who's respected in the long run, and you will deserve it.
If you don't want to go to church, maybe you would like to read the bible. There are many books in the library comparing religions and talking about their beliefs. Perhaps that would be helpful. Do you have any Christian friends? That would really be great because they would be going through some of the same things you are.
I believe your faith has changed you too. Sometimes God reaches out to us, but we don't listen. You did. I'm thankful for that. Loose the guilt. Stay positive. You've come a long way.
All this guilt is just screaming into a hole in the ground buddy- I can't say i agree with you having a religion, but if you must- why let it rot your soul with guilt this way? If you don't want to sleep around- and theres a hundred good reasons for that, don't- if you fail at your resolve- dust yourself off and try again- or just give up, you think the guy who made the universe and everything in it is watching you like some perverse censor in a government building? If you feel bad about yourself- do Good works, don't stew and angst at the inevitable wrath of some invisible jewish war-god- whose prophecy was only written for 12 tribes of people who lived in the desert and stoned each other to death for working on a saturday back when China and India were in their third millenium of civilisation, both sporting long lines of great kings and cultures and a rich literate history all apparently, without his help.
you can reap the wonderful rewards of your good works in this life by seeing the wonderful things you achieve- try working for the red cross on a sunday whilst everybody else is cloistered in a room giving their money to a guy without a real job and talking in tongues- the guilt just goes out the window- trust me, i was raised a catholic.
Your story sounds like one I wrote for someone on the radio.
Drug’s Message
By Mike McCracken
Used to go to church on Sunday
Didn’t take time to pray
Chose to live the good life
All it brought was strife
You can say that I’m a fool
Act up to be cool
Got hooked on drugs and heroin
I know it’s wrong
(chorus)
Found a girl just like me
It’s not the way to be
But I’ll still take drugs with you
If you want me too
Collect stamps and write poetry
Everyone needs a hobby
Now, I go to college
To spread drug’s message
Haven’t seen her in two years
Still can’t dry my tears
She died of an overdose
Guess that’s how it goes
(chorus)
Another girl will come along
And I know it’s wrong
I’ll take drugs with you
If you want me too
I’m only twenty-one
Some say, “I’m still young”
Still have a chance you know
But don’t know where to go
Use to go to church on Sunday
Maybe, I should pray.
I hope this helps.
I made a promise to myself that I wasn't going to sleep around at all and for 2 years and kept to it, but I allowed other people's taunts and influence make me believe that I was the ';freak'; for not doing so, so I went and slept with someone who I really cared about and hurt them in the process. I was so proud of the fact that i'd not slept around and that I was waiting for the right woman. I'd just like some thoughts and advice on how I can move on from this and continue to grow and become a better person. As I said, although I'm not a practising christian, I certainly am one......and feel a bit guilty for not going to Church if I had to be honest, I believe it's my faith of the past few years that has changed me and made me a far better person however much I slip up sometimes.Some words of advice from those with faith.....?
I'm not a person of faith but I do have some words that I hope may help you: I know fro experience that you will be criticized no matter what you do. If you choose to be abstinent, people call you a loser or a freak. If you have sex with someone outside of marriage, people call you a whore, even if just one person. People are cruel and quick to judge. They're weak and the only thing that makes them feel better about themselves is to point out flaws in others, even if, in your case, it's not even a flaw to begin with. You want to be a better person. Well I don't know you at all but I think you're a good person alraedy. You show regret for hurting someone's feelings. It shows you're empathetic, that's redeeming quality in itself. If that's not enough all I can say is trying making amends with this person right away before that bridge gets completely burned away for good and stop listening to the taunts of others. What do they know anyways about freaks anyways? If they know so much about freaks they must be freaks themselves... That's usually how it goes.
Peace be with you.Some words of advice from those with faith.....?
Going to church will not get it done.
In order to accomplish overcoming anything be it alcohol, drugs, gambling, criminal actions, sleeping around, over eating whatever is done through the power of Jesus Christ.
Pray and sincerly ask God to lift the obsession.
In times of temptation pray.
You cant do it on your own strength.
Just try it.
I believe somebody has been praying for you for a long, long time and God is answering their prayers. You desire to live a moral and upright life...go ahead and surrender your all to God. He is faithful, He is just, He is merciful and He loves you!
dan......you don't have faith. put YOUR FAITH IN JESUS...then you will begin to change and see life differently. you do not have your own 'STRENGTH', the good lord puts it in you. '; FAITH '; IN JESUS CHRIST , ALONE, JUST FAITH ALONE CAN DO SOLOUCH. GOD BLESS YOU. YOU CAN'T DO THIS BY YOURSELF AND THAT'S WHAT YOU BEEN DOING, THAT'S WHY IT IS NOT WORKING........YOUR ANSWER IS JESUS.
Brother, happens to anyone
Am sure that it has been a factor.
Well done for trying.
Go on, sleep around. I dare you.
I was a virgin to until recently i was taunted for being one and just gave it up to someone who totally didnt deserve it. on the path to being a good person your gonna have those people who are just gonna try 2 make you feel bad because your trying to actually do good. just stay strong and don't let people get to you. it's easier said than done but, i believe you can do it. just choose te people you surround yourself with very carefully. =D
Well - first things first - you have to help out that girl whom you may or may not have talked into having sex with you.
She's hurting, and you know you're responsible, so man up and take care of her. Make her feel that she's wanted and it's worthwhile.
As for the religion part, that's up to yourself and what you want to do. But from a man to another man, who knows many of his friends who did to girls the same thing you did, be different and have class and go back to her and heal her, no matter what it takes. It's an act of responsibility, that unfortunately not many of us guys have these days, but it makes you more valuable and much stronger inside if you do it.
That's my big advice.
Dan, you're on the right road. Don't be influenced by peer taunts and teasing. Why do you care what they think? You will be the one who's respected in the long run, and you will deserve it.
If you don't want to go to church, maybe you would like to read the bible. There are many books in the library comparing religions and talking about their beliefs. Perhaps that would be helpful. Do you have any Christian friends? That would really be great because they would be going through some of the same things you are.
I believe your faith has changed you too. Sometimes God reaches out to us, but we don't listen. You did. I'm thankful for that. Loose the guilt. Stay positive. You've come a long way.
All this guilt is just screaming into a hole in the ground buddy- I can't say i agree with you having a religion, but if you must- why let it rot your soul with guilt this way? If you don't want to sleep around- and theres a hundred good reasons for that, don't- if you fail at your resolve- dust yourself off and try again- or just give up, you think the guy who made the universe and everything in it is watching you like some perverse censor in a government building? If you feel bad about yourself- do Good works, don't stew and angst at the inevitable wrath of some invisible jewish war-god- whose prophecy was only written for 12 tribes of people who lived in the desert and stoned each other to death for working on a saturday back when China and India were in their third millenium of civilisation, both sporting long lines of great kings and cultures and a rich literate history all apparently, without his help.
you can reap the wonderful rewards of your good works in this life by seeing the wonderful things you achieve- try working for the red cross on a sunday whilst everybody else is cloistered in a room giving their money to a guy without a real job and talking in tongues- the guilt just goes out the window- trust me, i was raised a catholic.
Your story sounds like one I wrote for someone on the radio.
Drug’s Message
By Mike McCracken
Used to go to church on Sunday
Didn’t take time to pray
Chose to live the good life
All it brought was strife
You can say that I’m a fool
Act up to be cool
Got hooked on drugs and heroin
I know it’s wrong
(chorus)
Found a girl just like me
It’s not the way to be
But I’ll still take drugs with you
If you want me too
Collect stamps and write poetry
Everyone needs a hobby
Now, I go to college
To spread drug’s message
Haven’t seen her in two years
Still can’t dry my tears
She died of an overdose
Guess that’s how it goes
(chorus)
Another girl will come along
And I know it’s wrong
I’ll take drugs with you
If you want me too
I’m only twenty-one
Some say, “I’m still young”
Still have a chance you know
But don’t know where to go
Use to go to church on Sunday
Maybe, I should pray.
I hope this helps.
Women: Words of Advice You Can Pass Along?
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... to a guy whose gonna tie the knot later on down the line.
Truthfully, its a little nerve-racking, seeing all of the problems going on in marriage (i.e. Y! Answers). Children being used as pawns ( ... guys fault? ..., uh ... nm, ... won't go there), the screaming, bickering, abuse, etc.
What advice would you impart or tell a guy to keep in mind, so as to have a smooth, almost, trouble-free marriage?
What is one thing you wish your current husband/bf could change or improve on, so as to have an even healthier marriage?
.Women: Words of Advice You Can Pass Along?
Marriage is work, you have to work to make it strong all the time. The good times or bad you learn from each other and as long as you treat your wife the way she deserves to be treated and love her unconditionally and have great communication then that should be good.
Good luck and Congrats!!Women: Words of Advice You Can Pass Along?
pick and choose your battles! over half the time the fight is not worth it. there will always be problems. always. but a marriage that is based on true love, respect, compromise, and laughter will never fail. always try to make eachother feel special by doing all those little things that bring smiles to your faces. always set aside privite time for yourselves, especially if you have children! never go to bed angry. Cliche, i know, but it is so true! and say i love you every chance you get. good luck to you!
marriage is hard,but it is worth every minute.i dont like this section because people only talk about the bad and not the good.dont listen to all the bad problems.ask questions like what are the good things.u will find the good ones. u do have to work and work thru problems even when u want to give up. marriage is a blessing,me and my hubby fight but we still love each other and are grateful we are married. dont feed into the negative ones.
Just respect her. With respect comes listening, sharing responsibilities, and agreement (or agreeing to disagree).
And pick up some cleaner every now and then...and your underwear. :)
Not to think of sex as my job or choir.
Edit; and don't expect oral except on special ocassions recieving anyway
I agree with Amy. Marriage is a partnership - so don't expect to slack off. I work full time %26amp; my husband plays on the internet all day. But the house is spotless when I come home. I'll impart this to you: Don't expect too much. No one, no matter how happy in their marriage, has it perfect, or trouble free. They're happy in their marriage because they love eachother, and they are working through their differences to become stronger as a couple. The other important thing to remember is to marry someone you can appreciate. When you nit-pick at ways your spouse could improve or change, it only brings you (and your spouse) down. I admire my husband for his quirks, even if they drive me crazy sometimes. A healthy marriage comes from learning about eachother, and helping eachother grow. Not from trying to change eachother, or trying to impress everyone else with the ';perfect marriage';. Understand that you're going to fight %26amp; scream. There will be times your marriage is straight off of Y!Answers ;) But a happy marriage will work through those differences %26amp; come out on top. Most of all, don't worry about divorce. The more you worry about it, the closer you'll get to it. Trust me on that one.
Read ';The Proper Care %26amp; Feeding of Marriage'; together
';The relationship expert talks plainly and insightfully about how men and women are different. This optimistic and affirming lesson shows how men and women can depend on each other in healthy ways and live up to that trust even when it's difficult to do so.';
Learn about relationships as much as you can. Read books, go to seminars. You will be able to prevent problems rather than having to solve them when the feelings are hurt.
Read antropology books too to expand your views and to understand where traditions are coming from. Decide for yourself which ones are meaningful and which ones are obsolete.
Don't marry someone with baggage, make sure they pay off there credit bills before you get married, because if they lose there job it will be your responsibly to pay for it. I don't have to improve my husband we have been married for 27 years, he is who he is.
My advice is to get to know yourself. When you have a good idea of what you want, what you can tolerate, and what you cannot accept, you stand a chance of finding a partner who fits the bill.
All I have to say is treat her as u would want to be treated, if thats not possible then marriage is not the way to go! Make sure u love her and are willing to keep that love alive w/ affection and communication!
If you both are employed, the housework should be shared by both of you. Don't expect her to work full time and come home to do all the housework while you play on the internet.
... to a guy whose gonna tie the knot later on down the line.
Truthfully, its a little nerve-racking, seeing all of the problems going on in marriage (i.e. Y! Answers). Children being used as pawns ( ... guys fault? ..., uh ... nm, ... won't go there), the screaming, bickering, abuse, etc.
What advice would you impart or tell a guy to keep in mind, so as to have a smooth, almost, trouble-free marriage?
What is one thing you wish your current husband/bf could change or improve on, so as to have an even healthier marriage?
.Women: Words of Advice You Can Pass Along?
Marriage is work, you have to work to make it strong all the time. The good times or bad you learn from each other and as long as you treat your wife the way she deserves to be treated and love her unconditionally and have great communication then that should be good.
Good luck and Congrats!!Women: Words of Advice You Can Pass Along?
pick and choose your battles! over half the time the fight is not worth it. there will always be problems. always. but a marriage that is based on true love, respect, compromise, and laughter will never fail. always try to make eachother feel special by doing all those little things that bring smiles to your faces. always set aside privite time for yourselves, especially if you have children! never go to bed angry. Cliche, i know, but it is so true! and say i love you every chance you get. good luck to you!
marriage is hard,but it is worth every minute.i dont like this section because people only talk about the bad and not the good.dont listen to all the bad problems.ask questions like what are the good things.u will find the good ones. u do have to work and work thru problems even when u want to give up. marriage is a blessing,me and my hubby fight but we still love each other and are grateful we are married. dont feed into the negative ones.
Just respect her. With respect comes listening, sharing responsibilities, and agreement (or agreeing to disagree).
And pick up some cleaner every now and then...and your underwear. :)
Not to think of sex as my job or choir.
Edit; and don't expect oral except on special ocassions recieving anyway
I agree with Amy. Marriage is a partnership - so don't expect to slack off. I work full time %26amp; my husband plays on the internet all day. But the house is spotless when I come home. I'll impart this to you: Don't expect too much. No one, no matter how happy in their marriage, has it perfect, or trouble free. They're happy in their marriage because they love eachother, and they are working through their differences to become stronger as a couple. The other important thing to remember is to marry someone you can appreciate. When you nit-pick at ways your spouse could improve or change, it only brings you (and your spouse) down. I admire my husband for his quirks, even if they drive me crazy sometimes. A healthy marriage comes from learning about eachother, and helping eachother grow. Not from trying to change eachother, or trying to impress everyone else with the ';perfect marriage';. Understand that you're going to fight %26amp; scream. There will be times your marriage is straight off of Y!Answers ;) But a happy marriage will work through those differences %26amp; come out on top. Most of all, don't worry about divorce. The more you worry about it, the closer you'll get to it. Trust me on that one.
Read ';The Proper Care %26amp; Feeding of Marriage'; together
';The relationship expert talks plainly and insightfully about how men and women are different. This optimistic and affirming lesson shows how men and women can depend on each other in healthy ways and live up to that trust even when it's difficult to do so.';
Learn about relationships as much as you can. Read books, go to seminars. You will be able to prevent problems rather than having to solve them when the feelings are hurt.
Read antropology books too to expand your views and to understand where traditions are coming from. Decide for yourself which ones are meaningful and which ones are obsolete.
Don't marry someone with baggage, make sure they pay off there credit bills before you get married, because if they lose there job it will be your responsibly to pay for it. I don't have to improve my husband we have been married for 27 years, he is who he is.
My advice is to get to know yourself. When you have a good idea of what you want, what you can tolerate, and what you cannot accept, you stand a chance of finding a partner who fits the bill.
All I have to say is treat her as u would want to be treated, if thats not possible then marriage is not the way to go! Make sure u love her and are willing to keep that love alive w/ affection and communication!
If you both are employed, the housework should be shared by both of you. Don't expect her to work full time and come home to do all the housework while you play on the internet.
Any words of advice? Am i wrong to have no hope? Am I in denial?
Ok, well I decided to have a relationship with my best friend, and everything was GREAT! I was happier then I had ever been. We had been friends for 1.5 yrs and kinda just liked each other as more than friends. Well we tried it and i was happy and i thought he was too. It was long distance but we always talked and then when we got to see each other we kissed and everything and it felt so perfect, and then i started to fall in love with them, well at that same time they were falling away. And then i tried to talk to them but they weren't the same, and i was/am crushed. They seem to be uncertain about life in general, and we decided to be friends, but I feel that they'll come back and I hope its soon, i can't handle this!!! But I thought that they would never do this to me and this was the first time in a long time that I decided to open up and i am lost n whether it was worth it and all i want to do now is just close up completely with relationships, IDK!!! any advice out there???Any words of advice? Am i wrong to have no hope? Am I in denial?
man , i feel like some one has finally taken a step in my shoes. the difference is i knew this girl for 3 years and i knew her bro for 4. and we grew apart when i left for military training. all i can say is were still friends and i will always love her, and i dont think anyone could ever take her place. i live in FL and she lives in MI. so i can only see her once a year ';for summer'; and im the only guy she says i love you too, and thats still after we drop it down to friends . KEEP HOLDING ON , NEVER GIVE UP ON LOVE!!!!!Any words of advice? Am i wrong to have no hope? Am I in denial?
Very confusing situation for you.
Whatever happens, have a positive attitude towards it. Consider everything like a lesson to be learned, rather than a misfortune.
Talk to your friend, you two seem to be able to be openly honest with eachother, Just be as open, frank, straight foward and honest towards eachother as possible. Dont worry about hurting eachother, dont be discreet. You need to KNOW whats going on. Tell eachother no pessure on either of you to do anything, just need to know how you feel.elizabeth arden
man , i feel like some one has finally taken a step in my shoes. the difference is i knew this girl for 3 years and i knew her bro for 4. and we grew apart when i left for military training. all i can say is were still friends and i will always love her, and i dont think anyone could ever take her place. i live in FL and she lives in MI. so i can only see her once a year ';for summer'; and im the only guy she says i love you too, and thats still after we drop it down to friends . KEEP HOLDING ON , NEVER GIVE UP ON LOVE!!!!!Any words of advice? Am i wrong to have no hope? Am I in denial?
Very confusing situation for you.
Whatever happens, have a positive attitude towards it. Consider everything like a lesson to be learned, rather than a misfortune.
Talk to your friend, you two seem to be able to be openly honest with eachother, Just be as open, frank, straight foward and honest towards eachother as possible. Dont worry about hurting eachother, dont be discreet. You need to KNOW whats going on. Tell eachother no pessure on either of you to do anything, just need to know how you feel.
Any words of advice to a vegetarian facing criticism?
I'm 14 and I've been a lacto-ovo-vegetarian for a couple months now and love it. I feel better and lost weight. My only problem is that my classmates including some of my friends are constantly making rude comments and making fun of my choice.
For example, people often tell me:
';Why are you vegetarian, do you think your fat?';
';Hey look at this hamburger! It's made of slaughtered cows and I'm eating it!';
Because of comments like that I also feel extremely self-conscious when i eat now too. So please what can I do to make it stop or to deal with it better?Any words of advice to a vegetarian facing criticism?
First off, I'd recommend that you remove anything from your Myspace that is meant to convert anyone. Being vegetarian can be a HUGE part of who you are, but people should hear about why ONLY if they are interested.
If they understood your position, they would already be trying to give up meat and receiving a lecture isn't going to do anything but irritate them and teach them that vegetarians are preachy and have nothing else to talk about. You have no place telling people what or what not to eat unless someone tells you that they are REALLY, genuinely curious or they look up to your level of commitment.
You need to do all of this, THEN you need to stop acting like your bothered by their comments and start laughing at the stupid things that they say.Any words of advice to a vegetarian facing criticism?
The best thing for me is just telling them my reasonings for my diet and if they make fun of me than I inform them of how immature they are being.
You probably should stop with all of the myspace things. If someone asks you about why you are a vegetarian, then go ahead and tell them your reasonings. But if no one asks about it, then they probably don't want to hear it and will make fun of you more because they feel guilty.
Well, I think your geat. - If you truely love doing this. this what you do:
1) stop listening and paying attention to stupid people
2) Make real friends - people that are going to respect your choices
3) don't make a big deal about it - and than they can't get a raise out of you
4) give it sometimes. - as you become confident in your own choices, it really will not bother you
5) over time you will meet people that like or are vegatarians/vegans
I'm 15 and in the same boat. I just smile and shrug it off, they don't understand. You can't change some people, they will always be lost, so concentrate on teaching other people who are more openminded. Let this part of your life be natural, and not a big thing, you'll be respected more if you dont broadcast it.
I always use the 'Well, I'm just glad I don't have flesh rotting away in my colon for a week....' Always take the grin off their faces. Or, you could say 'You must be so proud of yourself' (obviously in a sarcastic tone). It just shows them that they haven't got the upper-hand when they try and criticse you. Just don't make a huge deal about it or they'll keep criticizing.
tell them that you will live much longer than them, and that tons of nitrates are found in animals and they are eating glorified roadkill on a plate, also just ignore them, they're jealous because they don't have enough willpower to be a vegetarian. :]
You should ignore what other people say and worry about yourself and if your friends make fun of you there are not really your friends
Ignore Ignore Ignore!!!! Have faith in your beliefs and let them know they have the right to their values and you have a right to yours.
im a 14 year old vegetarian too. screw them you are saving animals and becoming healthier. there is a quote by albert einstien ';Nothing will benefit human health and increase the chances for survival of life on earth as much as the evolution to a vegetarian diet.';. just tell them that if they make you feel like an idiot. they cant say he is an idiot. you can also joke about it which i sometimes do or say the same kinds of things about them for being omnivores. most of all i think you should just ignore what they say as hard as it may be and do what you think is best for you
hi green rocker,
i am a thirteen year old vegetarian and i plan on being a vegan before i go back to school. no one knew that i was a vegetarian last year, but this year i am going to tell them.
i was supprisd to hear how many people said just to ignore them, because thats so much easier said than done. i would just reply to those questions in the way that you feel. for example:
stupid: ';why are you a vegetarian, do you think you're fat?';
you: ';no i just think that bloody flesh off an inocent abused animal doesnt sound appetizing.';
not that coragous? ya, i dont think i would be. if you can say that, i think it would make them shout up longer, but you could go with something else like:
';i just dont like meat';
or
';its because i love animals';
example number 2:
stupid: ';hey look at this hamburger! its made of slaughtered cows and im eating it!';
you: ';ya, good luck with the heart attack youll be having in a few years.';
or a more shy answer like:
';good for you.';
or
';wow';
i really hope this helps. i hate it when people think im a whimp for not eating meat. i dont gt why it bothers them, but lets try to make them stop bothering us. : )
Congrats on going veg!
Some people may be genuinely curious about vegetarianism and aren't trying to be rude on purpose. I would try to be as friendly as possible. Your vegetarianism is probably causing people to think about their own food choices, since you're living proof that it's not necessary to eat meat to be healthy. Maybe some people believe that you're judging them for eating meat (even if you aren't!) or they feel a little guilty that they eat meat, and they take it out on you.
If someone says ';Why are you veg; do you think you're fat?';, you could say: ';I actually went veg to reduce animal suffering, but losing some weight has definitely been a bonus!';
For the second comment, you could say ';Good for you. Look at this burrito! It's made of beans and rice, and I'm eating it! Mmm.';
Being very defensive, angry, or holier-than-thou are sure ways to turn people off to vegetarianism. It can be hard at times, but try to have an upbeat, positive attitude. Good luck!
Resources:
Answers to common ?s about vegetarianism / animal rights:
http://ar.vegnews.org/Questions.html
Tips for a Successful Conversation:
http://www.goveg.com/effectiveAdvocacy_t鈥?/a>
P.S. -- Check out the Peta2 Street Team! It's for teens and college students. http://www.peta2.com/STREETTEAM/index.as鈥?/a>
well ive been vegetarian for a whole 2 weeks lol. but its the best desion ive ever made.
When there eating those slaurghted cows. just tell them how they could actually be eating the cows hooves, intestines, and even testicles.
im sure they will put the burger down without delay.
also the way i got into is a girl at school did a school project on it, it had gruesome pictures and some really horrible stories. so if given the oppurtunity just do that,
or if you have a myspace etc, put some videoes from meetyourmeat.com.
but most of all just be happy within yourself that your doing the right thing for yourself and the animals. ignore what they say, becasue there the ones eating hundres of animals a yr.
hope that helped :)
I'm 23 and I'm vegan and the same has happened to me a lot. You kind of just get used to it. You just have to kind of have an answer ready for people who might not understand why you are doing it.
I used to only eat white meat in high school then turned vegetarian in college and recently turned vegan. My family and my friends would ask the most questions. It was harder to answer criticism from those closest to me.
Just know why you are doing it and inform them. Be confident of the choice you made and don't let people who don't understand bring you down with their ignorance.
Some people might not even be criticizing you, they probably just want to know why because they've never seen it or are just curious.
Don't be self-conscious, this is healthy and you are probably going to look better than most people because of it anyway! lol
Oh and ignore those who just like to be annoying. That's what I do. lol
I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a tough time b/c of your vegetarianism. Unfortunately, people feel the need to pick on or put down others who choose to be different. Hang in there!
As far as defending yourself, just be well-informed about your dietary choices. People will throw tons of questions at you regarding what made you decide to do it, how you're getting along, what you eat, etc. The stronger and confident you are with your answers, the more people will see that you are totally serious and they will eventually back off.
Try not to care about what other people think about it. They're not buying your groceries. You're not forcing them to eat like a vegetarian. Tell them to mind their own effing business. Look at it this way - when you're both 70 years old, you'll be strong, and healthy while all those ';slaughtered cows'; will have caught up to those who make fun of you.
Oh- and as far as the MySpace propaganda is concerned, keep it posted if you feel strongly about it. Those who cannot stand to look at it apparently have a guilty conscience and that's their problem - not yours. It's not your fault that you have compassion and they don't.....(lol)
For example, people often tell me:
';Why are you vegetarian, do you think your fat?';
';Hey look at this hamburger! It's made of slaughtered cows and I'm eating it!';
Because of comments like that I also feel extremely self-conscious when i eat now too. So please what can I do to make it stop or to deal with it better?Any words of advice to a vegetarian facing criticism?
First off, I'd recommend that you remove anything from your Myspace that is meant to convert anyone. Being vegetarian can be a HUGE part of who you are, but people should hear about why ONLY if they are interested.
If they understood your position, they would already be trying to give up meat and receiving a lecture isn't going to do anything but irritate them and teach them that vegetarians are preachy and have nothing else to talk about. You have no place telling people what or what not to eat unless someone tells you that they are REALLY, genuinely curious or they look up to your level of commitment.
You need to do all of this, THEN you need to stop acting like your bothered by their comments and start laughing at the stupid things that they say.Any words of advice to a vegetarian facing criticism?
The best thing for me is just telling them my reasonings for my diet and if they make fun of me than I inform them of how immature they are being.
You probably should stop with all of the myspace things. If someone asks you about why you are a vegetarian, then go ahead and tell them your reasonings. But if no one asks about it, then they probably don't want to hear it and will make fun of you more because they feel guilty.
Well, I think your geat. - If you truely love doing this. this what you do:
1) stop listening and paying attention to stupid people
2) Make real friends - people that are going to respect your choices
3) don't make a big deal about it - and than they can't get a raise out of you
4) give it sometimes. - as you become confident in your own choices, it really will not bother you
5) over time you will meet people that like or are vegatarians/vegans
I'm 15 and in the same boat. I just smile and shrug it off, they don't understand. You can't change some people, they will always be lost, so concentrate on teaching other people who are more openminded. Let this part of your life be natural, and not a big thing, you'll be respected more if you dont broadcast it.
I always use the 'Well, I'm just glad I don't have flesh rotting away in my colon for a week....' Always take the grin off their faces. Or, you could say 'You must be so proud of yourself' (obviously in a sarcastic tone). It just shows them that they haven't got the upper-hand when they try and criticse you. Just don't make a huge deal about it or they'll keep criticizing.
tell them that you will live much longer than them, and that tons of nitrates are found in animals and they are eating glorified roadkill on a plate, also just ignore them, they're jealous because they don't have enough willpower to be a vegetarian. :]
You should ignore what other people say and worry about yourself and if your friends make fun of you there are not really your friends
Ignore Ignore Ignore!!!! Have faith in your beliefs and let them know they have the right to their values and you have a right to yours.
im a 14 year old vegetarian too. screw them you are saving animals and becoming healthier. there is a quote by albert einstien ';Nothing will benefit human health and increase the chances for survival of life on earth as much as the evolution to a vegetarian diet.';. just tell them that if they make you feel like an idiot. they cant say he is an idiot. you can also joke about it which i sometimes do or say the same kinds of things about them for being omnivores. most of all i think you should just ignore what they say as hard as it may be and do what you think is best for you
hi green rocker,
i am a thirteen year old vegetarian and i plan on being a vegan before i go back to school. no one knew that i was a vegetarian last year, but this year i am going to tell them.
i was supprisd to hear how many people said just to ignore them, because thats so much easier said than done. i would just reply to those questions in the way that you feel. for example:
stupid: ';why are you a vegetarian, do you think you're fat?';
you: ';no i just think that bloody flesh off an inocent abused animal doesnt sound appetizing.';
not that coragous? ya, i dont think i would be. if you can say that, i think it would make them shout up longer, but you could go with something else like:
';i just dont like meat';
or
';its because i love animals';
example number 2:
stupid: ';hey look at this hamburger! its made of slaughtered cows and im eating it!';
you: ';ya, good luck with the heart attack youll be having in a few years.';
or a more shy answer like:
';good for you.';
or
';wow';
i really hope this helps. i hate it when people think im a whimp for not eating meat. i dont gt why it bothers them, but lets try to make them stop bothering us. : )
Congrats on going veg!
Some people may be genuinely curious about vegetarianism and aren't trying to be rude on purpose. I would try to be as friendly as possible. Your vegetarianism is probably causing people to think about their own food choices, since you're living proof that it's not necessary to eat meat to be healthy. Maybe some people believe that you're judging them for eating meat (even if you aren't!) or they feel a little guilty that they eat meat, and they take it out on you.
If someone says ';Why are you veg; do you think you're fat?';, you could say: ';I actually went veg to reduce animal suffering, but losing some weight has definitely been a bonus!';
For the second comment, you could say ';Good for you. Look at this burrito! It's made of beans and rice, and I'm eating it! Mmm.';
Being very defensive, angry, or holier-than-thou are sure ways to turn people off to vegetarianism. It can be hard at times, but try to have an upbeat, positive attitude. Good luck!
Resources:
Answers to common ?s about vegetarianism / animal rights:
http://ar.vegnews.org/Questions.html
Tips for a Successful Conversation:
http://www.goveg.com/effectiveAdvocacy_t鈥?/a>
P.S. -- Check out the Peta2 Street Team! It's for teens and college students. http://www.peta2.com/STREETTEAM/index.as鈥?/a>
well ive been vegetarian for a whole 2 weeks lol. but its the best desion ive ever made.
When there eating those slaurghted cows. just tell them how they could actually be eating the cows hooves, intestines, and even testicles.
im sure they will put the burger down without delay.
also the way i got into is a girl at school did a school project on it, it had gruesome pictures and some really horrible stories. so if given the oppurtunity just do that,
or if you have a myspace etc, put some videoes from meetyourmeat.com.
but most of all just be happy within yourself that your doing the right thing for yourself and the animals. ignore what they say, becasue there the ones eating hundres of animals a yr.
hope that helped :)
I'm 23 and I'm vegan and the same has happened to me a lot. You kind of just get used to it. You just have to kind of have an answer ready for people who might not understand why you are doing it.
I used to only eat white meat in high school then turned vegetarian in college and recently turned vegan. My family and my friends would ask the most questions. It was harder to answer criticism from those closest to me.
Just know why you are doing it and inform them. Be confident of the choice you made and don't let people who don't understand bring you down with their ignorance.
Some people might not even be criticizing you, they probably just want to know why because they've never seen it or are just curious.
Don't be self-conscious, this is healthy and you are probably going to look better than most people because of it anyway! lol
Oh and ignore those who just like to be annoying. That's what I do. lol
I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a tough time b/c of your vegetarianism. Unfortunately, people feel the need to pick on or put down others who choose to be different. Hang in there!
As far as defending yourself, just be well-informed about your dietary choices. People will throw tons of questions at you regarding what made you decide to do it, how you're getting along, what you eat, etc. The stronger and confident you are with your answers, the more people will see that you are totally serious and they will eventually back off.
Try not to care about what other people think about it. They're not buying your groceries. You're not forcing them to eat like a vegetarian. Tell them to mind their own effing business. Look at it this way - when you're both 70 years old, you'll be strong, and healthy while all those ';slaughtered cows'; will have caught up to those who make fun of you.
Oh- and as far as the MySpace propaganda is concerned, keep it posted if you feel strongly about it. Those who cannot stand to look at it apparently have a guilty conscience and that's their problem - not yours. It's not your fault that you have compassion and they don't.....(lol)
Strong words of advice please!!!?
Ok my boyfriend and I broke up 3months ago but today i found out why, he was too scared to tell me all this time that he loves me not just the way he used to 'with all his heart.' the thing is the past 3 months we've still been in contact, seeing and being intimate with one another, he claims that he was doing so because he wanted to try and rekindle the love and also convince me that if it didnt work we could still remain friends but it hasn't worked because lust and my bitterness about the past just takes over. I still love him and i didnt want to let him go because he was my first in everything. We concluded that we would have 3 months apart till march, absolutely no contact, and no other relationships then see. I told him that he has changed from the person i fell in love with him, i keep looking for that 'wow' side of him but its just not there, he's become so insensitive. A part of me wants to cling onto the idea that one day he will wake up and think 'omg I love her and I want to be with her' or that after this break we will try again but another part of me just wants to cut him out and move on completely because im not sure if i can allow myself to be let down again. how can you forget that you love someone? A part of me is angry that i keep going back and cheapening myself because if he truly wanted me he would be with me, can time help us?Strong words of advice please!!!?
Hello dear,
Really So nice Question please. I will definitely answer you in detail of your nice question but little latter because some guests came here in my house. So It鈥檚 request to you please don鈥檛 put this question for Voting before I add detail.
Hope! have a nice day and nice dream.Strong words of advice please!!!?
You sound like a girl with her head skrewed on. Do you think you really have a future together?
It can be hard to get round the fact that the person you once loved isn't there anymore, I really struggled with it infact, but with I've been with my current partner (now Wife) for 4 years and I get that wow factor everyday in fact it keeps getting bigger and bigger.
Am I a romantic? Probably, but what I do know is that the wow factor will keep you together and I would give up what I've got for the world now. Even though I never used to think that.
Be true to yourself I think you know what you can, want to and need to do. All the best %26amp; good luck
Hello dear,
Really So nice Question please. I will definitely answer you in detail of your nice question but little latter because some guests came here in my house. So It鈥檚 request to you please don鈥檛 put this question for Voting before I add detail.
Hope! have a nice day and nice dream.Strong words of advice please!!!?
You sound like a girl with her head skrewed on. Do you think you really have a future together?
It can be hard to get round the fact that the person you once loved isn't there anymore, I really struggled with it infact, but with I've been with my current partner (now Wife) for 4 years and I get that wow factor everyday in fact it keeps getting bigger and bigger.
Am I a romantic? Probably, but what I do know is that the wow factor will keep you together and I would give up what I've got for the world now. Even though I never used to think that.
Be true to yourself I think you know what you can, want to and need to do. All the best %26amp; good luck
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