However, hes a type of guy you'd pick out of the croud of being very down to earth and nice. But once you get to meet him he's a normal person that has a lot of personal self esteem issues. and hes still discovering himself.
he went with his family over the weekend and didnt take his phone. So we didn't talk. Before he left. He seemed a bit sad. He told me that he was confused and wasnt sure. he liked five girls (he thinks he did but wasnt sure) But when he came back. He acted as if nothing had been said about that. But he seemed a little sad lately.. Not himself. We don't really have much of a connection. And his phone is always dead so we dont get to talk that much. I love him so much. But lately, it doesn't seem as if he loves me anymore. We just dont have the connection we use to.....
Could Someone give me a bit of advice here on what to do. Its confusing, I love him, but does he love me?
And Thank you for the help. If you wan't me to answer any of your questions, I'll answer themm:D!Boyfriend Issues? Some words of advice would be nice:D!?
Okay....Jenny....that was a little long but worth reading because this guy who you obviously love seems to be worth your time in coming on here to seek advices.
I'm just a bit concerned about the part where you mentioned that he ';have a lot of personal self-esteem issues';. From my understanding, it sounds like he is still trying to find his place and identity in this world and until he does, he may not be able to express himself whole-heartedly to you or anyone else for that matter. One thing that does help him to begin with is that he is a down-to-earth person. Patience is a virtue and IF time is what you think you can spare than by all mean, give it to him. He just needs the time and space to sort things out and as long as he still keeps you updated on his well-being than you shouldn't worry too much. Just make sure you make yourself emotionally available at all time when the time calls for.
Having someone special like you around is what he will appreciate most......And as for your last question on whether he loves you or not, I'm pretty sure he does.
So, like I said before....give him time to sort things out and be at peace with himself before he can fully exert himself more into this relationship of ya'll's.
**Good luck....and hope that was of some help.
You seem to be of someone who is very kind, intelligent, and supportive of him...continue to do so.Boyfriend Issues? Some words of advice would be nice:D!?
From personal experiences I could tell you that I cannot like someone for longer than 2 months. At the beginning of all the relationships I had, I felt like this one is ';it';. But throughout the time we were together, things are working great; we both love each other and boom out of nowhere I completely lose interest in her and that's the end of that. I am very concerned about that. I am still seeking answers on why I do that. I get bored after a while and no matter how much in love I was with that person, it will all be just over.
Now, I hope it's not the same in your case. Maybe your boyfriend has been going through stress. Something might be bothering him. There is a reason why he is acting like this. You mentioned that he said he like about 5 girls. Maybe he is getting closer to one of those five girls and maybe starting to get feelings for that person. That could be a possibility.
What I can advise you to do is try to talk to him and ask him to tell you if anything is bothering him and tell him to be honest with you. Tell him what is happening with those girls that he liked.
You can always come back to Y!A for future help.
He could still love you but maybe other things in his life have gone wrong. You have to remember that if something is going wrong in one aspect of his life it probably seeps over to the others and affects them negatively too. If he already had issues and then something bad happened, well, this is going to make it worse. Its a catch 22 because being around him might make him feel better but he doesn't want to be around you because you will see he is having issues and probably thinks you will just leave him. So there is no simple solution. See if you can do something engaging that will distract him for a bit and see if he goes back to normal. If so, then something in his life went wrong and he has to deal with it. As a guy, its going to be tough for him to tell you about it. Stick with it if you think you are strong enough.
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