i am 19 years old and have only had one boyfriend and we lasted for like a month like 2 years ago, but i recently met this guy who is absolutely amazing. we have the same views, beliefs, interests, (which is uncommon in conservative cobb county, GA) and he is such an awesome, kind, wonderful person. we both like each other, but i just found out that i am leaving for seattle in 5 more days for an entire year, and i might not see him again if he doesn't work at kroger when i get back. i don't see why he would. i just am upset that i have to leave this guy behind when we haven't even had a chance to date. i would love, love, love to keep in touch with him, but i don't want us to fade out and be awkward, either. anyways, i just need some help. thank you.I just need some words of comfort/advice...?
give him your email, tell him you'd like to keep in touch.I just need some words of comfort/advice...?
Did you get the feeling that he had a similar interest in you, as you have in him? If so, then I would go visit him, explain that you are leaving and that you would like to stay in contact with him. Exchange phone numbers and email addresses. A year seems like a very long time. It can feel like a very brief amount of time, as well. If you have an interest in him and he has an interest in you, then you should let him know and stay in touch with him. He may not be the one, but he may be the one? Like you said, he may not be working at Kroger when you get back. You know what the advantage of establishing a long term, long distance relationship like that could be? Establishing a true friendship that may become even more. Friendship is very important in a relationship. Good luck.
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Single Mothers. Single Pregnant woman. Please some advice or words of enlightment?
Im 19 years of age and pregnant. The father had completely abandonned me and made it perfectly clear he does not want to be in my life or the babies life. I have support from my family but I still feel alone. Some friends barely hang anymore knowing as how I can't do the same things I used to. So I guess I really decided to post this up for anyone who can really relate?Single Mothers. Single Pregnant woman. Please some advice or words of enlightment?
**** the father. that just shows how bad of a person he is. and the friends, if they aren't there for you when you really need them then that proves that they aren't true friends. you seem like a nice person and if your family is there for you, no worries. be happy. they love you and will support you the whole way. Don't feel lonely. you have YOUR baby and that, nobody can ever take away. when he/she grows up, they will love you no matter what.
best of luck!
:)Single Mothers. Single Pregnant woman. Please some advice or words of enlightment?
I don't have any experience but I would like to tell you that your hard times now will pay off. It's a brave thing you've done. Not many would have chosen that path. Your life ahead will be better, you will have time to find another in the future. Don't worry. Just focus on your little one who needs you most right now. To be strong. You may not see it now, but you will see that what you are doing right is something so real, so blessed. Rely and gain support from your family and those who love you. Be around them and not negativity right now. It's important that you be happy or try to be for the baby. Worry bout dating, friends and other social networking later on. Plenty of time. Trust me.
Your time will come later on.
you are blessed and will be fine. Thank God he showed his true color now. he does not deserve you or this precious life that you are carrying. things happen for reasons we cannot see at the time, but will be revealed down the road. God has someone better in store for you and this baby. All you can do is take care of yourself, and take care of this baby that's inside of you, teach this baby the right things, and how to be the best he/she can be in life, and you will be blessed. The day will come when the father will need this child. just do your best and try not to hate him that is too much wasted energy. remember God never give us more than we can handle. God bless you and your little one. I wish you well.
well i cant relate to the boyfriend thing because mine is still around but i can relate to the friends im 21 and mostly all of my friends want nothing to do with me anymore because i cant hang out and go to the bars anymore now that im pregnant. i also lost a best friend because she got jealous that i was pregnant and she isn't yet.. it really sucks but if you have your family's support then you will be ok just hold your head up high and move on with your life you can raise this baby on your own with family support it just takes time and courage. don't give up this baby needs you now more than anybody. good luck hun
I feel for you.
This same thing happened to my best friend, but she's twenty.
As soon as she found out that she was pregnant, the ';father'; didn't want anything to do with her or the baby. He even changed his number! Fool.
Don't let this bring you down. The most support you have right now is from your family, and that is all that matters.
They still love you no matter what!
This baby is coming into your life, and it's going to teach you so much! Your gonna have such a better life when your baby gets here girl!
Just keep you head high!
Best of luck sweetie :)
**** the father. that just shows how bad of a person he is. and the friends, if they aren't there for you when you really need them then that proves that they aren't true friends. you seem like a nice person and if your family is there for you, no worries. be happy. they love you and will support you the whole way. Don't feel lonely. you have YOUR baby and that, nobody can ever take away. when he/she grows up, they will love you no matter what.
best of luck!
:)Single Mothers. Single Pregnant woman. Please some advice or words of enlightment?
I don't have any experience but I would like to tell you that your hard times now will pay off. It's a brave thing you've done. Not many would have chosen that path. Your life ahead will be better, you will have time to find another in the future. Don't worry. Just focus on your little one who needs you most right now. To be strong. You may not see it now, but you will see that what you are doing right is something so real, so blessed. Rely and gain support from your family and those who love you. Be around them and not negativity right now. It's important that you be happy or try to be for the baby. Worry bout dating, friends and other social networking later on. Plenty of time. Trust me.
Your time will come later on.
you are blessed and will be fine. Thank God he showed his true color now. he does not deserve you or this precious life that you are carrying. things happen for reasons we cannot see at the time, but will be revealed down the road. God has someone better in store for you and this baby. All you can do is take care of yourself, and take care of this baby that's inside of you, teach this baby the right things, and how to be the best he/she can be in life, and you will be blessed. The day will come when the father will need this child. just do your best and try not to hate him that is too much wasted energy. remember God never give us more than we can handle. God bless you and your little one. I wish you well.
well i cant relate to the boyfriend thing because mine is still around but i can relate to the friends im 21 and mostly all of my friends want nothing to do with me anymore because i cant hang out and go to the bars anymore now that im pregnant. i also lost a best friend because she got jealous that i was pregnant and she isn't yet.. it really sucks but if you have your family's support then you will be ok just hold your head up high and move on with your life you can raise this baby on your own with family support it just takes time and courage. don't give up this baby needs you now more than anybody. good luck hun
I feel for you.
This same thing happened to my best friend, but she's twenty.
As soon as she found out that she was pregnant, the ';father'; didn't want anything to do with her or the baby. He even changed his number! Fool.
Don't let this bring you down. The most support you have right now is from your family, and that is all that matters.
They still love you no matter what!
This baby is coming into your life, and it's going to teach you so much! Your gonna have such a better life when your baby gets here girl!
Just keep you head high!
Best of luck sweetie :)
Spot in mouth, words of wisdom/advice needed ...?
My 10 year old daughter has a small lump under her tongue that looks like a large boil. Its been there about 10 weeks now. At first it looked like a bleed under the tongue but after a couple of weeks it formed into a hard lump. We went to the docs who referred us to hospital. The appointment at hospital was yesterday, they measured the spot and took a picture of it and asked us to go back on 15th January. The worrying part is that they said when we return if the lump hasnt reduced in size they will do a biopsy. I am worried sick. Anyone had anything similar?
Many thanksSpot in mouth, words of wisdom/advice needed ...?
It's probably nothing. If you havent noticed a change in her general health then it's probably a cyst.Spot in mouth, words of wisdom/advice needed ...?
Probably not, its rare none the less, It could just be a benign tumor(non Deadly) and can be removed fairly easily. I wouldnt worry, just watch it so it does not bleed.
Many thanksSpot in mouth, words of wisdom/advice needed ...?
It's probably nothing. If you havent noticed a change in her general health then it's probably a cyst.Spot in mouth, words of wisdom/advice needed ...?
Probably not, its rare none the less, It could just be a benign tumor(non Deadly) and can be removed fairly easily. I wouldnt worry, just watch it so it does not bleed.
I need some words of wisdom/advice/comfort for my friend whose husband is leaving her - she's 27 y/o?
She has been married to her husband for almost 6 years- they differ in age by about 5 years, he's older. They have been together for almost 9 years and have a son together who is 7 years old. In my opinion her husband has been being kind of distant the past year or so... they have been having the talk about having another baby and he always says no to her- that he's done with kids. Ryan is the name I am using for her husband, Evan for their son and Peyton for her sister that she is close with.
This e-mail came to me late last night and this morning she did add that she's not sure but she gets the feeling he either is cheating or did cheat on her, he had quit sleeping in the bed with her quite a while before he moved out and is now saying he hasn't met anyone but really encouraging her to go out and meet someone.
I just got this e-mail from her last night:
Well this isn't something that I've been wanting to have to say, but I don't like hiding important things from my people. Ryan decided that he has not been happy for a long time, so he moved out. He says it MIGHT be temporary, but has no current plan of coming back. He is living with his friend right now. It's only been a couple of weeks since he left, but I just have the feeling that it's over. Evan doesn't know what's going on yet. Ryan's friend is actually out of town so he is ';taking care'; of his place while he is gone and that is all that Evan knows. No one in our family knows. I plan on telling Peyton soon, but I'm not going to talk to anyone else in my family until it is completely final.
There are many ugly details that I could pass on, but who wants to hear all that drama? Basically he doesn't love me anymore and he says he doesn't know why. I had been talking to him about how he gets angry with me all the time and so he stopped talking to me and looking at me all together. When I did talk to him directly he would respond but he just looked at me like he detested the fact that he even had to put up with me. I told him this and he said that its not right for him to treat me like that and that is what made him think to move out. He would rather leave me than try to stay and make things better.
It wasn't something that I saw coming. We had been arguing more often than usual but I just felt like it was a low part in our marriage that we would get through. He must have taken it more seriously than I did. He said it was ';hell';.
I go through phases of being sad, hurt, angry, bitter. He's annoyed with me because I keep trying to talk about it. I just don't know how we can stop talking about it until its resolved. Whatever way it gets resolved.... He's never been one to talk much about anything so when I do try to have a discussion he finds a way to get angry so he can shut the conversation off.
Last week I was hopeful that he would come back, but this week I realized that he doesn't want to.
I feel like leftovers. I'm worried about having to sell the house. I'm worried about being broke. And what person is going to want me anytime soon after this drama. I'm going to get older, uglier and lonelier.
Well I think that is all I can say right now. I know I should probably have told you this over the phone, but then I would sound like a blubbering idiot...soo...here it is.I need some words of wisdom/advice/comfort for my friend whose husband is leaving her - she's 27 y/o?
I think her husband was or is cheating. I wouldn't even consider counseling at this point because he just told her he doesn't love her anymore. If he really loved her and want to work things out he would suggest counseling with her not leave her in the dust. Tell her hang in there and to take care of herself and her son. She has the better half, their son Evan. Tell her chin up and stay strong for her and her son. She will just let herself go if she keeps thinking negative of herself. She needs to think positive and believe in herself because when you believe you will achieve. My sister has 8 kids and is 44 years old, and she still have guys asking her out. My sister was hurt at the beginning of her devorce and felt the same as your friend but time did heal and she continued to stay strong for herself %26amp; kids. Don't let any man bring you down. Not worth it, you can do better and you deserve a better happy life with a wonderful man who will love you unconditionally. Tell her chin up and think positive. Just be there for your friend %26amp; do fun things together. She can always go back to school, there is such thing as student loans, or financial aid, or find a job to save her house. Tell her I would sell the house instead of foreclosure if anything. If she stays strong and positive any man will accept that. Being depressed and just thinking and waiting for the idiot who just left her in the dust will just make her older, uglier, and lonelier. So don't waste precious time and make something out of herself. I wish her the very best!I need some words of wisdom/advice/comfort for my friend whose husband is leaving her - she's 27 y/o?
I am going through a similar situation as your friend. Unfortunately there is not much that you can really say to make her feel better. The best thing for you to do is let her know that you are there for her when she needs you.
My family and friends have been my biggest support system. I can lean on their shoulder to cry or have their ears so I can ***** and let out the anger. Counseling may help her deal with what's been going on.
To me the hardest thing to hear from other people is what they would do in the situation. Leave him seems to be the easiest thing to say to someone but to actually do it is difficult. Be there for her as much as you can.
Good luck to your friend in all this.
This is so common.The best thing here is to let it develop
and see whats going to happen.He has to find what's happening to him.Since your still young,you won't have a lot of trouble finding another guy.For now I would date if I were you.Just talk to him about house payments (money matters).
He doesn't love her anymore, no need to look for a reason. Maybe he cheats maybe he doesn't, but it doesn't change the fact he is not in love with her and she needs to move on.
She's only 27 y/o. She will get over this in no time. She will be young and beautiful for many many years to come. She will meet another man and maybe even have babies with him. Even though this seams unfair now, him leaving will turn out to be for the best. She was just a teenager when she started dating him, she has changed into a grown woman since then. She will know now what she wants out of a relationship and out of a man.
There's no easy way out of a marriage but instead of being the end of something, she could see this as the beginning of a new life, a life in which she is more mature, more experienced and more aware of the traps of life waiting for her.
Better to be left at 27 than at 57. You have a lifetime in front of you. If it is a man that you want, you have now been granted a new opportunity to find one who is deserving so be thankful that you are being given this opportunity now rather than later. The one who is leaving is wrong for you so don't grieve but be thankful that you have another opportunity to make a better choice. All change in life whether viewed as good or bad really are neither, they are just more opportunities and learning experiences. As humans, we tend to learn more readily from painful experience so view this pain now as a new opportunity to become who you are truly meant to be. Your next choice will be more in keeping with your heart. You are wiser now and will be happier tomorrow than yesterday. Just let go and accept this opportunity with grace. Whether you know it or not, your values are changing. I know these things because I have lived them and have learned my lessons. Bless you, you will be fine. Be strong and use your head but follow your heart, it never steers you wrong. We are born to grow and there is always pain involved in that process but also huge reward. You are your priority now.
Your friend is afraid of whats to come in her life .I would not ponder what tomorrow will bring just live life be happy
Most of my friends that split apart the ladies find some one they like/love more in time she is only 27 y old
I am in the playpen with sweet Mildred
I feel you should absolutely encourage her to move on, grow, change, and find a love worthy of her. Ryan is not communicative. I think from what you write that he doesn't fully know what he's feeling or why... and doesn't seem particularly interested in discovering it. That's his choice, but it's an unhappy way to live for him and even more so for her. She feels like leftovers, because she is. He no longer values her, if he ever did. That won't be completely his fault, no doubt there are things she could change and will... but this guy does not deserve her love; she should move on.
I suggest supporting your friend 100% during this time, let her know how special you feel she is, how she and those she loves deserve for her to be in a mutual, passionate, loving relationship. Don't let her waste her young life on something that is obviously not worth it. Remind her that a relationship that is energizing, healing, would lift her to a higher level is out there. It is looking for her.
Good luck.
well to your friend i guess my advice would be theres a lot of guys who would like to ';date'; her so she wont be alone
and sorry that her husband left her but he probably was cheating on her anyway so its all good
The way she is feeling is quite normal, however in time she will meet someone and things will change. She needs to seek some help in the form of counseling.
I kinda know what your friend is going through, my ex left me after 26 yrs. of marriage, he said he loved me but he wasn't in love with me, he said he was depressed, so I feel her pain, that was 3 yrs. ago and I'm still hurting, she will hurt too but as time goes by it will get better for her, and I know she will find true love again, the first thing she needs to do is stop feeling like she is ugly and old, tell her she is beautiful and she is not to old to find love again, tell your friend to keep herself busy that helps alittle, tell her to keep her head up high, everything will be alright, she has to go on with her life and make the best of it. I truly wish her all the best, I know she will be ok, tell your friend I said good luck.......
Oh, God. That's terrible.
Before consoling her, you need to assess what kind of person she is. Is she the kind of person who thrives off of sympathy? Or, is she the person who HATES sympathy?
If she doesn't mind the sympathy, you should make sure she knows that you're sorry for her. That things do happen for a reason, however vague and unknown that reason may be right now.
She seems to be putting up a pretty tough front, so it may be that she doesn't want the sympathy. Some people are like that; they don't want people to look at them with pity. It makes them feel pathetic. If that's the case, just support her. Say that you're sorry for her situation, not sorry for her. Say that you're there to talk but you won't push the matter.
And, remember, this woman was married to this man for almost a decade. She loves him. So, whatever you do, don't put him down. She might go through a stage where every word out of her mouth is a negative comment towards him. But, you shouldn't ever be the one to talk trash. You can agree with her or listen to her. But, the fact of the matter is it'll hurt her later when she's alone to think about the bad things said about him.
She'll never be able to heal and move on if her time is spent feeling guilty, feeling at fault, or feeling pitied.
Just be a friend; that's all you really can do.
This e-mail came to me late last night and this morning she did add that she's not sure but she gets the feeling he either is cheating or did cheat on her, he had quit sleeping in the bed with her quite a while before he moved out and is now saying he hasn't met anyone but really encouraging her to go out and meet someone.
I just got this e-mail from her last night:
Well this isn't something that I've been wanting to have to say, but I don't like hiding important things from my people. Ryan decided that he has not been happy for a long time, so he moved out. He says it MIGHT be temporary, but has no current plan of coming back. He is living with his friend right now. It's only been a couple of weeks since he left, but I just have the feeling that it's over. Evan doesn't know what's going on yet. Ryan's friend is actually out of town so he is ';taking care'; of his place while he is gone and that is all that Evan knows. No one in our family knows. I plan on telling Peyton soon, but I'm not going to talk to anyone else in my family until it is completely final.
There are many ugly details that I could pass on, but who wants to hear all that drama? Basically he doesn't love me anymore and he says he doesn't know why. I had been talking to him about how he gets angry with me all the time and so he stopped talking to me and looking at me all together. When I did talk to him directly he would respond but he just looked at me like he detested the fact that he even had to put up with me. I told him this and he said that its not right for him to treat me like that and that is what made him think to move out. He would rather leave me than try to stay and make things better.
It wasn't something that I saw coming. We had been arguing more often than usual but I just felt like it was a low part in our marriage that we would get through. He must have taken it more seriously than I did. He said it was ';hell';.
I go through phases of being sad, hurt, angry, bitter. He's annoyed with me because I keep trying to talk about it. I just don't know how we can stop talking about it until its resolved. Whatever way it gets resolved.... He's never been one to talk much about anything so when I do try to have a discussion he finds a way to get angry so he can shut the conversation off.
Last week I was hopeful that he would come back, but this week I realized that he doesn't want to.
I feel like leftovers. I'm worried about having to sell the house. I'm worried about being broke. And what person is going to want me anytime soon after this drama. I'm going to get older, uglier and lonelier.
Well I think that is all I can say right now. I know I should probably have told you this over the phone, but then I would sound like a blubbering idiot...soo...here it is.I need some words of wisdom/advice/comfort for my friend whose husband is leaving her - she's 27 y/o?
I think her husband was or is cheating. I wouldn't even consider counseling at this point because he just told her he doesn't love her anymore. If he really loved her and want to work things out he would suggest counseling with her not leave her in the dust. Tell her hang in there and to take care of herself and her son. She has the better half, their son Evan. Tell her chin up and stay strong for her and her son. She will just let herself go if she keeps thinking negative of herself. She needs to think positive and believe in herself because when you believe you will achieve. My sister has 8 kids and is 44 years old, and she still have guys asking her out. My sister was hurt at the beginning of her devorce and felt the same as your friend but time did heal and she continued to stay strong for herself %26amp; kids. Don't let any man bring you down. Not worth it, you can do better and you deserve a better happy life with a wonderful man who will love you unconditionally. Tell her chin up and think positive. Just be there for your friend %26amp; do fun things together. She can always go back to school, there is such thing as student loans, or financial aid, or find a job to save her house. Tell her I would sell the house instead of foreclosure if anything. If she stays strong and positive any man will accept that. Being depressed and just thinking and waiting for the idiot who just left her in the dust will just make her older, uglier, and lonelier. So don't waste precious time and make something out of herself. I wish her the very best!I need some words of wisdom/advice/comfort for my friend whose husband is leaving her - she's 27 y/o?
I am going through a similar situation as your friend. Unfortunately there is not much that you can really say to make her feel better. The best thing for you to do is let her know that you are there for her when she needs you.
My family and friends have been my biggest support system. I can lean on their shoulder to cry or have their ears so I can ***** and let out the anger. Counseling may help her deal with what's been going on.
To me the hardest thing to hear from other people is what they would do in the situation. Leave him seems to be the easiest thing to say to someone but to actually do it is difficult. Be there for her as much as you can.
Good luck to your friend in all this.
This is so common.The best thing here is to let it develop
and see whats going to happen.He has to find what's happening to him.Since your still young,you won't have a lot of trouble finding another guy.For now I would date if I were you.Just talk to him about house payments (money matters).
He doesn't love her anymore, no need to look for a reason. Maybe he cheats maybe he doesn't, but it doesn't change the fact he is not in love with her and she needs to move on.
She's only 27 y/o. She will get over this in no time. She will be young and beautiful for many many years to come. She will meet another man and maybe even have babies with him. Even though this seams unfair now, him leaving will turn out to be for the best. She was just a teenager when she started dating him, she has changed into a grown woman since then. She will know now what she wants out of a relationship and out of a man.
There's no easy way out of a marriage but instead of being the end of something, she could see this as the beginning of a new life, a life in which she is more mature, more experienced and more aware of the traps of life waiting for her.
Better to be left at 27 than at 57. You have a lifetime in front of you. If it is a man that you want, you have now been granted a new opportunity to find one who is deserving so be thankful that you are being given this opportunity now rather than later. The one who is leaving is wrong for you so don't grieve but be thankful that you have another opportunity to make a better choice. All change in life whether viewed as good or bad really are neither, they are just more opportunities and learning experiences. As humans, we tend to learn more readily from painful experience so view this pain now as a new opportunity to become who you are truly meant to be. Your next choice will be more in keeping with your heart. You are wiser now and will be happier tomorrow than yesterday. Just let go and accept this opportunity with grace. Whether you know it or not, your values are changing. I know these things because I have lived them and have learned my lessons. Bless you, you will be fine. Be strong and use your head but follow your heart, it never steers you wrong. We are born to grow and there is always pain involved in that process but also huge reward. You are your priority now.
Your friend is afraid of whats to come in her life .I would not ponder what tomorrow will bring just live life be happy
Most of my friends that split apart the ladies find some one they like/love more in time she is only 27 y old
I am in the playpen with sweet Mildred
I feel you should absolutely encourage her to move on, grow, change, and find a love worthy of her. Ryan is not communicative. I think from what you write that he doesn't fully know what he's feeling or why... and doesn't seem particularly interested in discovering it. That's his choice, but it's an unhappy way to live for him and even more so for her. She feels like leftovers, because she is. He no longer values her, if he ever did. That won't be completely his fault, no doubt there are things she could change and will... but this guy does not deserve her love; she should move on.
I suggest supporting your friend 100% during this time, let her know how special you feel she is, how she and those she loves deserve for her to be in a mutual, passionate, loving relationship. Don't let her waste her young life on something that is obviously not worth it. Remind her that a relationship that is energizing, healing, would lift her to a higher level is out there. It is looking for her.
Good luck.
well to your friend i guess my advice would be theres a lot of guys who would like to ';date'; her so she wont be alone
and sorry that her husband left her but he probably was cheating on her anyway so its all good
The way she is feeling is quite normal, however in time she will meet someone and things will change. She needs to seek some help in the form of counseling.
I kinda know what your friend is going through, my ex left me after 26 yrs. of marriage, he said he loved me but he wasn't in love with me, he said he was depressed, so I feel her pain, that was 3 yrs. ago and I'm still hurting, she will hurt too but as time goes by it will get better for her, and I know she will find true love again, the first thing she needs to do is stop feeling like she is ugly and old, tell her she is beautiful and she is not to old to find love again, tell your friend to keep herself busy that helps alittle, tell her to keep her head up high, everything will be alright, she has to go on with her life and make the best of it. I truly wish her all the best, I know she will be ok, tell your friend I said good luck.......
Oh, God. That's terrible.
Before consoling her, you need to assess what kind of person she is. Is she the kind of person who thrives off of sympathy? Or, is she the person who HATES sympathy?
If she doesn't mind the sympathy, you should make sure she knows that you're sorry for her. That things do happen for a reason, however vague and unknown that reason may be right now.
She seems to be putting up a pretty tough front, so it may be that she doesn't want the sympathy. Some people are like that; they don't want people to look at them with pity. It makes them feel pathetic. If that's the case, just support her. Say that you're sorry for her situation, not sorry for her. Say that you're there to talk but you won't push the matter.
And, remember, this woman was married to this man for almost a decade. She loves him. So, whatever you do, don't put him down. She might go through a stage where every word out of her mouth is a negative comment towards him. But, you shouldn't ever be the one to talk trash. You can agree with her or listen to her. But, the fact of the matter is it'll hurt her later when she's alone to think about the bad things said about him.
She'll never be able to heal and move on if her time is spent feeling guilty, feeling at fault, or feeling pitied.
Just be a friend; that's all you really can do.
I need Words of good advice...?
Since I was very young I've experienced life in the most kind and un-kind ways with extreme measures in each.
Sometime in the recent years I feel that to reach my dream in life I have to always keep my self happy and not let my dreams fade away, the dreams since my younger ages.
But recently I feel so broken, so un-emotional, like everything's slowly working out but I've lost that control I use to have...
I use to be able to control my anger, my emotions, my desires and always knew what was best because I had a good feeling about what I was doing.
But lately I feel like I cannot sleep until 3-4am. I don't feel tired, but I feel more tired emotionally and I just need some word of advice to get me back on track. I use to never feel fear of anyone or anything and now over recent events I'm scared!
Can I have some advice please.
Something to help me understand?I need Words of good advice...?
well what you need to do is be completely honest with yourself, ask yourself what needs to be done to make me happy, is it a man a new job an animal in your life anything?????
if none of that is what your lacking then you need to re-evaluate your priorities and get out of this life style you have gotten so use to that now bores you and invouilintarily stresses you out and causes you to not let your mind rest.
this might sound crazy but, get away asap
grab your best friend,sibling or go by yourself and do what you want to do. go somewhere random or go visit an old friend or a family member that can ease your mind
i really hope the best for you
from
kaeleI need Words of good advice...?
spiritual healing and reiki
and a good massage may help you much Testimonies
Spiritual healing ,Seichim and Reiki healing
When People speak about their condition and tell of the benefits which they have found by employing the treatments one can only feel humbled .These are just a few of the many thousands of comments which have been made .Sometimes the therapies have been literally a life saver bringing people back from the point of death, sometimes out of a life of years of misery and suffering, they are all interesting reading.
Spiritual healing
Harry Edwards recalled the case of a young man who, accompanied by a lady, was brought to me for healing. He was in great pain and eaten-up with arthritis. As the healing proceeded, so his pains left him, and his joints began to loosen and become free. When I had finished treating him, it was a real delight to see how wonderfully glad he was to be able to use his legs, feet, arms and hands again... and then he told me: ';When I came here, I was convinced no one could help me, and I came only to please my Aunt, who brought me.';
You worked a miracle with his father when he was very ill 1983-84 when I wrote to you, but you will be pleased to know he is now working for the Council and lives a fairly normal life.
I's report is complete - he is 100% fit and will have no trouble in resuming his sporting activities -considering the first reports, this is a miracle. I do not know how I would have managed without your wonderful help.
You and the late Harry Edwards helped me so often and indeed I am still pressing on 18 years after I was expected to die from my last bout of cancer.
I wrote to ask for healing for my sister who was to undergo an operation for aneurysm in the aorta. Her operation was very successful. After 1 day in intensive care and 2 days in progressive care she was back in her own room and has done extremely well. She was allowed home after 7 days when she had been told to expect to be in hospital for 10 to 15 days. Everyone was amazed at her recovery and the surgeon told her she had been a perfect patient. I feel sure the absent healing and our prayers were to a great extent responsible for this wonderful recovery and I thank you most sincerely for your help.
I thought perhaps you would like to have a record of the people you have helped during the time I have been sending reports. M.L. -angina, complete recovery. D. L. -duodenal ulcer, complete healing. B.L. - Angina, complete recovery. P.D. - Leukaemia - apparent full recovery.
On behalf of my mother, daughter and myself may I thank you for the lovely day at your Sanctuary last Tuesday. My mother is so much better it is truly amazing. She can stretch out her arms and even raise them to her head and her walking is much stronger. My daughter was very impressed, too. 1141/6
My condition improved in as much as I now have much more self-confidence and ability to deal with my everyday life. 1145/6
G.S. Good news. Up until recently he had to be helped to get into and out of his car. It is adapted to enable a disabled person to drive, The other day he got into his car entirely on his own and drove some 12 miles to a nearby town. Got out on his own and went into a shop to make a purchase. No wheelchair anymore! 1142/6
You both, along with our friends in Spirit, have been directing healing for our daughter who, as I told you, has been given a full bill of health, thank you. 1146/6
I must report to you the miracle that soon after writing to you about my husband's ill health due to smoking, he decided to give up the habit and has not smoked since. I never thought it possible. It has been well worth it all. His general health has improved considerably. 1148/6
Firstly,you need to go to bed earlier. I am in the habit of falling asleep at such hours too,and lack of sleep can effect your emotions. The only way to get around this is to stay awake until six sevenish in the evening and conk out to get your sleeping pattern back to normal. Being awake at them hours give you way too much time to think into yourself and find the negative things. We all have dreams and ambitions that we want to make come true. Your probably just emotionaly tired of being patient with making your way towards your goals,even though your sometimes not seeing any improvements. You need to inspire yourself again. Do something that will give you a strong sense of achievment..like hit the gym for an hour and you will come back out feeling mentally stronger and have more pride in yourself. Refusing things you dont need like a ciggarette or an temper outburst can put your thinking in good perspective afterwards,believe me,I know. Gain control of the little things before you try to gain control of the big things. Nip it in the bud or you will not make a change in this decline. Dont be scared of whatever it is that is scaring you. Conquer your fear,strive on,you know you can do it if you have being doing it all along before.:) Take care.x
God can help you live a better life if you want Him to. You can have a personal relationship with God by saying the prayer below. God is our Creator, all-knowing, all-powerful, eternal, holy, love. God loves us and sent us His Son, Jesus Christ, so we can go to heaven if we know and follow Him. Forever means without end -- time on and on without death. Forever is what happens after we die. Either we go to heaven and be with God forever, or we go to hell which is very bad and painful forever. The good people who are saved believers in Jesus Christ go to heaven. The bad people go to hell. We need to know and follow God in this world to get to heaven in the next world. We follow God by loving and obeying Him and loving others for Him. Jesus Christ, God's Son, is our bridge to God. Jesus died on the cross to cancel our sins. We need to accept Jesus into our life as our Lord and Savior forever to receive God's blessing and forgiveness plus go to heaven to be with God forever after we die. This is about being a born-again Christian. Faith in God is a gift from God. You can pray for faith in God. Just speak out and ask God for the faith to believe in Him and to follow Him. Some people find faith in God when they realize the beauty in the world is made by God. Evolution can't explain the world's natural beauty, for example, the parks in the world, animals, flowers, peacocks, sunsets, butterflies, rainbows, etc. After you have your faith on, you can pray a sinner's prayer to be a born-again Christian. This prayer is very important and should be said with a sincere heart and faith in God. This is the prayer: ';Dear God, I know that I am a sinner and that Jesus Christ is the sacrifice for our sins. I have done the following sins (state these out) and I pray to discontinue these sins. I pray to receive Jesus Christ into my life as my Lord and Savior forever. In Jesus' name, amen.'; I'm Lutheran and I like the Baptist churches too. You could try out a Christian church and also see about their weekly Bible study group to learn about God's will for your life. You can pray to God about your daily life and have a Christian church pray for you.
you should smoke the ganja listen to stuff thatll make you laugh katt williams listen to reggae ziggy marley and bob marley have sex lol i hope i made you loosen up a little dont worry about life go with the flow every time something goes wrong say to yourself fu** this and move on
i wouldnt smoke no ganja,i tried smokin and it gave me a panic attack... but first off try to face what ever it is that has happend and try to tell yourself that these things can make u a stronger person and with you experience u can help guide others that are going through aot and that have had bad things happen to them... i grew up too with not everthing so pleasent i understand what u are saying..but dont let these things take control of the rest of your life..i did and i am 30 and still trying to fix all these emothional problems and control the anxiety and painc attacks..i would try to face what ever it is and just keep in minnd wat dont kill u can only make u stronger...and if u have to get a theropist ..i did and getting stuff off my chest and out really did help..at 1st i didnt think so ..but it does help and i use it as me time ...but i hope i helped u out a little at least..and u are not alone and i wish u the best of luck
';Life and death,
energy and peace,
If I stop today, it would have still been worth it,
for the pains that have burned me and scarred my soul,
for having been where I have been,
which as been to heaven on earth,
hell on earth,
and back again,
it was still all worth it';
This is an extract from the worlds 'first supermodel' Gia carangi's writings. She was one of the first people to die from HIV related illness. This was written, when she knew she was dying.
It's beautiful, isn't it?
What she was saying is Life is life is life, and life is important.
We have to take the knocks, blows and side kicks, from wherever they may come and continue onward, until we can finally say, I was here, I have experienced also, and therefore I have lived. What a life too!
YOU ARE OFFICIALLY A TEENAGER!!
Sometime in the recent years I feel that to reach my dream in life I have to always keep my self happy and not let my dreams fade away, the dreams since my younger ages.
But recently I feel so broken, so un-emotional, like everything's slowly working out but I've lost that control I use to have...
I use to be able to control my anger, my emotions, my desires and always knew what was best because I had a good feeling about what I was doing.
But lately I feel like I cannot sleep until 3-4am. I don't feel tired, but I feel more tired emotionally and I just need some word of advice to get me back on track. I use to never feel fear of anyone or anything and now over recent events I'm scared!
Can I have some advice please.
Something to help me understand?I need Words of good advice...?
well what you need to do is be completely honest with yourself, ask yourself what needs to be done to make me happy, is it a man a new job an animal in your life anything?????
if none of that is what your lacking then you need to re-evaluate your priorities and get out of this life style you have gotten so use to that now bores you and invouilintarily stresses you out and causes you to not let your mind rest.
this might sound crazy but, get away asap
grab your best friend,sibling or go by yourself and do what you want to do. go somewhere random or go visit an old friend or a family member that can ease your mind
i really hope the best for you
from
kaeleI need Words of good advice...?
spiritual healing and reiki
and a good massage may help you much Testimonies
Spiritual healing ,Seichim and Reiki healing
When People speak about their condition and tell of the benefits which they have found by employing the treatments one can only feel humbled .These are just a few of the many thousands of comments which have been made .Sometimes the therapies have been literally a life saver bringing people back from the point of death, sometimes out of a life of years of misery and suffering, they are all interesting reading.
Spiritual healing
Harry Edwards recalled the case of a young man who, accompanied by a lady, was brought to me for healing. He was in great pain and eaten-up with arthritis. As the healing proceeded, so his pains left him, and his joints began to loosen and become free. When I had finished treating him, it was a real delight to see how wonderfully glad he was to be able to use his legs, feet, arms and hands again... and then he told me: ';When I came here, I was convinced no one could help me, and I came only to please my Aunt, who brought me.';
You worked a miracle with his father when he was very ill 1983-84 when I wrote to you, but you will be pleased to know he is now working for the Council and lives a fairly normal life.
I's report is complete - he is 100% fit and will have no trouble in resuming his sporting activities -considering the first reports, this is a miracle. I do not know how I would have managed without your wonderful help.
You and the late Harry Edwards helped me so often and indeed I am still pressing on 18 years after I was expected to die from my last bout of cancer.
I wrote to ask for healing for my sister who was to undergo an operation for aneurysm in the aorta. Her operation was very successful. After 1 day in intensive care and 2 days in progressive care she was back in her own room and has done extremely well. She was allowed home after 7 days when she had been told to expect to be in hospital for 10 to 15 days. Everyone was amazed at her recovery and the surgeon told her she had been a perfect patient. I feel sure the absent healing and our prayers were to a great extent responsible for this wonderful recovery and I thank you most sincerely for your help.
I thought perhaps you would like to have a record of the people you have helped during the time I have been sending reports. M.L. -angina, complete recovery. D. L. -duodenal ulcer, complete healing. B.L. - Angina, complete recovery. P.D. - Leukaemia - apparent full recovery.
On behalf of my mother, daughter and myself may I thank you for the lovely day at your Sanctuary last Tuesday. My mother is so much better it is truly amazing. She can stretch out her arms and even raise them to her head and her walking is much stronger. My daughter was very impressed, too. 1141/6
My condition improved in as much as I now have much more self-confidence and ability to deal with my everyday life. 1145/6
G.S. Good news. Up until recently he had to be helped to get into and out of his car. It is adapted to enable a disabled person to drive, The other day he got into his car entirely on his own and drove some 12 miles to a nearby town. Got out on his own and went into a shop to make a purchase. No wheelchair anymore! 1142/6
You both, along with our friends in Spirit, have been directing healing for our daughter who, as I told you, has been given a full bill of health, thank you. 1146/6
I must report to you the miracle that soon after writing to you about my husband's ill health due to smoking, he decided to give up the habit and has not smoked since. I never thought it possible. It has been well worth it all. His general health has improved considerably. 1148/6
Firstly,you need to go to bed earlier. I am in the habit of falling asleep at such hours too,and lack of sleep can effect your emotions. The only way to get around this is to stay awake until six sevenish in the evening and conk out to get your sleeping pattern back to normal. Being awake at them hours give you way too much time to think into yourself and find the negative things. We all have dreams and ambitions that we want to make come true. Your probably just emotionaly tired of being patient with making your way towards your goals,even though your sometimes not seeing any improvements. You need to inspire yourself again. Do something that will give you a strong sense of achievment..like hit the gym for an hour and you will come back out feeling mentally stronger and have more pride in yourself. Refusing things you dont need like a ciggarette or an temper outburst can put your thinking in good perspective afterwards,believe me,I know. Gain control of the little things before you try to gain control of the big things. Nip it in the bud or you will not make a change in this decline. Dont be scared of whatever it is that is scaring you. Conquer your fear,strive on,you know you can do it if you have being doing it all along before.:) Take care.x
God can help you live a better life if you want Him to. You can have a personal relationship with God by saying the prayer below. God is our Creator, all-knowing, all-powerful, eternal, holy, love. God loves us and sent us His Son, Jesus Christ, so we can go to heaven if we know and follow Him. Forever means without end -- time on and on without death. Forever is what happens after we die. Either we go to heaven and be with God forever, or we go to hell which is very bad and painful forever. The good people who are saved believers in Jesus Christ go to heaven. The bad people go to hell. We need to know and follow God in this world to get to heaven in the next world. We follow God by loving and obeying Him and loving others for Him. Jesus Christ, God's Son, is our bridge to God. Jesus died on the cross to cancel our sins. We need to accept Jesus into our life as our Lord and Savior forever to receive God's blessing and forgiveness plus go to heaven to be with God forever after we die. This is about being a born-again Christian. Faith in God is a gift from God. You can pray for faith in God. Just speak out and ask God for the faith to believe in Him and to follow Him. Some people find faith in God when they realize the beauty in the world is made by God. Evolution can't explain the world's natural beauty, for example, the parks in the world, animals, flowers, peacocks, sunsets, butterflies, rainbows, etc. After you have your faith on, you can pray a sinner's prayer to be a born-again Christian. This prayer is very important and should be said with a sincere heart and faith in God. This is the prayer: ';Dear God, I know that I am a sinner and that Jesus Christ is the sacrifice for our sins. I have done the following sins (state these out) and I pray to discontinue these sins. I pray to receive Jesus Christ into my life as my Lord and Savior forever. In Jesus' name, amen.'; I'm Lutheran and I like the Baptist churches too. You could try out a Christian church and also see about their weekly Bible study group to learn about God's will for your life. You can pray to God about your daily life and have a Christian church pray for you.
you should smoke the ganja listen to stuff thatll make you laugh katt williams listen to reggae ziggy marley and bob marley have sex lol i hope i made you loosen up a little dont worry about life go with the flow every time something goes wrong say to yourself fu** this and move on
i wouldnt smoke no ganja,i tried smokin and it gave me a panic attack... but first off try to face what ever it is that has happend and try to tell yourself that these things can make u a stronger person and with you experience u can help guide others that are going through aot and that have had bad things happen to them... i grew up too with not everthing so pleasent i understand what u are saying..but dont let these things take control of the rest of your life..i did and i am 30 and still trying to fix all these emothional problems and control the anxiety and painc attacks..i would try to face what ever it is and just keep in minnd wat dont kill u can only make u stronger...and if u have to get a theropist ..i did and getting stuff off my chest and out really did help..at 1st i didnt think so ..but it does help and i use it as me time ...but i hope i helped u out a little at least..and u are not alone and i wish u the best of luck
';Life and death,
energy and peace,
If I stop today, it would have still been worth it,
for the pains that have burned me and scarred my soul,
for having been where I have been,
which as been to heaven on earth,
hell on earth,
and back again,
it was still all worth it';
This is an extract from the worlds 'first supermodel' Gia carangi's writings. She was one of the first people to die from HIV related illness. This was written, when she knew she was dying.
It's beautiful, isn't it?
What she was saying is Life is life is life, and life is important.
We have to take the knocks, blows and side kicks, from wherever they may come and continue onward, until we can finally say, I was here, I have experienced also, and therefore I have lived. What a life too!
YOU ARE OFFICIALLY A TEENAGER!!
Words of Wisdom or just kick *** advice?
Well do you know a words of wisdom for someone going through a nightmare?Words of Wisdom or just kick *** advice?
honey, I'm sorry. We all go through rough patches. I dunno your situation but I can promise things will get better eventually. The best advice I have ever heard goes something like this; we've all got bad in us, but we've all got good in us too and the only thing worth living for is the good, and that is why we have to be sure to pass it on. I know it seems like its all too much right now, but there has to be an end eventually. All you can do is be there for whoever is going through the nightmare.
Hope that helps.spots
honey, I'm sorry. We all go through rough patches. I dunno your situation but I can promise things will get better eventually. The best advice I have ever heard goes something like this; we've all got bad in us, but we've all got good in us too and the only thing worth living for is the good, and that is why we have to be sure to pass it on. I know it seems like its all too much right now, but there has to be an end eventually. All you can do is be there for whoever is going through the nightmare.
Hope that helps.
I am about to get the word UPTOWN tattooed on my left tricep, and i need some advice on what type of lettering?
what type of lettering should i get. I was thinking along the lines of graffiti since it will be going vertically down my left tricep. thanksI am about to get the word UPTOWN tattooed on my left tricep, and i need some advice on what type of lettering?
i would go with invisible lettering because that is a dumb tattooI am about to get the word UPTOWN tattooed on my left tricep, and i need some advice on what type of lettering?
if you do it in graffiti font ask him if he can do wildstyle graffiti its way better than throwies and little bombs if he can do wildstyle i think it will come out clean
Invisible. Unless you get Downtown on your thigh
i would go with invisible lettering because that is a dumb tattooI am about to get the word UPTOWN tattooed on my left tricep, and i need some advice on what type of lettering?
if you do it in graffiti font ask him if he can do wildstyle graffiti its way better than throwies and little bombs if he can do wildstyle i think it will come out clean
Invisible. Unless you get Downtown on your thigh
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