Okay, the story is way too long and complexed and truly out of this world, so much that, it is actually inside of it. Its a negative past experience where I was so misunderstood and seriously miss read, it was horrible. You know when your caught in the middle of a cross fire you didn't place effort to create, well its that kind of situation. I lost prospective friends. I don't even want to talk about it. But, it seem to come back to me a lot.
I just find myself slightly going back and forth but gradually moving forward, which is good.
I Guess I need advice in how to not recede and move along closing the past and not venturing back in it.
To be honest prayer helps
Any other outlets?
Any advice or words of wisdom?
Thanks in advance.Any one with words of advice or wisdom?
Negative past experiences that keep coming back are lessons that are trying to be learned. They keep coming back because you haven't quite gotten it yet. What I do when I'm confronted with those pesky lessons is I focus in on them with intensity and analyze the heck out of them. It took a long time for me to figure out this method but it is the most effective for me.
If you got caught in the middle of someone else's problems, maybe the lesson is to let other people work things out for themselves. As a former fixer, I've learned that I can't fix everyone and everything. By trying, we take away from the people who need to do their own fixing.
Whatever the issue, it will keep coming back until you find some kind of closure with it. It may not have anything to do with the actual facts of the incident but it may be an overall lesson specifically for you in your life.
As suggested by thud.fan, write, write and write some more. Write everything down, the good, the bad, the ugly. See it from not only your perspective but also from that of the others involved. Did you get caught up because you interfered where you shouldn't have? Did you get caught up because you took sides? Were you an innocent bystander? Only you can anwer those questions. Spend some time focusing in on the situation in detail instead of trying to forget about it. The answer will come and once it does, the negative memories will start to fade. Good luck to you.Any one with words of advice or wisdom?
You're welcome. Best of luck to you.
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My teacher told me that we as human beings create our own problems. To me it sounds like that is what you are doing. All you have to do is voice your opinion (not argue or debate), listen to the other person/people involved, and either forgive them and/or ask for forgiveness and consider the situation over and done with. Sometimes you have to apologize (even if you haven't done anything wrong) so you can obtain peace.
Its OK to go back someimes......
i got a favorite saying from Winston Churchill, ';When your going hell, keep going.'; There is no backtracking and trying to make things right, take them as they come and look forward to being out of where you are.
What you started here - except not here...Write what your experience was - the pluses and minuses...Try to write as much as you can, no matter how uncomfortable it is to think or recall the events...Try not to assess blame or point fingers...Instead write about what you you think should or could have been done differently...If you feel that you may have hurt someone's feelings, think about trying to make things right...Finally, what, if any, were lessons learned?...And I strongly concur that prayer is a major influence in bringing peace into your life.
And may peace be with you always - in all ways
u learn from the past and by ur mistakes.. let this not be a burden or hindrance to move on.. let this be a guide for u 2move on... keep urself bz.. make new friends.. meet other guys/girls... explore the world around you...
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