Do you have any words of advice, words of reassurance or scripture that can help me?

Let me give you a little bit of background information on my situation.





I have a very close family friend named Brad who is practically a second dad to me. Almost 2 years ago, he was diagnosed with a rare form of bone cancer called chondrosarcoma. He has had 3 massive surgeries in a 4 month span, 2 1/2 months of stomach bedrest and hundreds of hours of physical therapy. He has also gone to Germany(we live in the U.S.) 3 times in order to get experimental treatments because there is very little information on this type of cancer. This man has lived WAY past what the doctors said that he would and our entire family/church family is very grateful for that. We have had several benefits for him and our entire church is praying for a miracle. Resently, one of his lungs is 100% tumor and the other is 67% tumor, making breathing extremely difficult. He is having a very difficult day today and some people aren't expecting him to make it through the night. I am supposed to go see him tomorrow and I'm very very scared on what tonight and tomorrow might hold. I know it is even worse because my dad is having second thoughts on letting me go see Brad tomorrow. Brad is one of the most religious, kindhearted, giving, and god following men I know. He has an amazingly strong wife and two beautiful children. A girl who is 2 and a boy who turned 5 today. We are all very close and all struggling together.





I have been raised in a church my entire life and I know that god has a plan for everyone even though we cant always understand it, but i can not express how badly i want to know why god is letting all of this happen. Brad has had god first in his life, so why is god hurting him so much? Im begging god to heal Brad. His wife, children, and family all need him desperatly. There arent any other treatments avalible for Brad because he is too weak. This situation is all in god's hands.





If you have any words of advice, confort, scripture, ect. please tell me. As I am typing this tears are running down my face. I dont think im going to be able to sleep tonight considering the circumstances.





Thank You in advance and God Bless


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If I may clarify on a small part- In no way shape or form am I blaming the all powerful God that saved all of us.I am simply confused and shocked that he is allowing this cancer to slowly kill Brad. I called Brad a week ago and he made it clear that if its god's will for him to go to heaven, he will do so. He is worried about his family and what will happen to them. Brads brother died several years ago so his family has already been through alot.





Thank you for all the answers so far and please keep them coming








I am 14 and I understand my dad's worries but I would much rather tell him everything i want to and be heartbroken then regret my entire life on not telling Brad how i feel towards him and to give him a huge hug.Do you have any words of advice, words of reassurance or scripture that can help me?
Personally I believe that Brad has become very sick like this because is a godly man who has a lot of faith. The devil doesn't really fight against people who are ';of the world';. The are already his slaves, for before we know the Lord we are slaves to sin. The enemy really wants to hurt him because he is such a powerful Christian. I also believe that God wants to use this attack to be glorified by healing Brad miraculously and causing him to prosper. (Job.)


And NOW is the time the Lord desires to make him miraculously whole, not just after he passes away. For in Isaiah 53:4,5 we are told, ';Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted. But He was wounded for our transgressions, bruised for our iniquities, the chastisement of our peace was upon Him, and with His stripes we are healed.'; Of course just by merely reading that verse, and even the whole chapter, it wouldn't sound as though that has anything to do with physical healing, just spiritual healing. But the Hebrew word for ';healed'; here means ';to heal thoroughly; make whole';, ';griefs'; can mean ';sickness'; and ';sorrows'; can mean ';pain';. Then in Matthew 8:16, 17 we are told this: Mat 8:16 And evening having come on, they brought to Him many having been possessed by demons. And He cast out the spirits by a word, and He healed all those having illness, so that it might be fulfilled that spoken through Isaiah the prophet, saying, ';He took upon Himself our weaknesses, and bore our sicknesses.'; Also when Jesus told us, in John 3:17, that He came so we could be saved, the word ';saved'; means ';to heal; make whole';.


And remember, not matter what the ';nay-sayers'; try and tell you, miracles STILL DO HAPPEN! If any Christian denies that they need to read Hebrews 13:8 and see what God says. ';Jesus Christ is the SAME, yesterday, today, and FOREVER.'; (Emphasis added.)





I'll be praying for Brad as well as you.


Take care, and God bless you.Do you have any words of advice, words of reassurance or scripture that can help me?
Like you said it is in Gods hands.I find it very comforting to know I am not expected to handle things like this.You are very young and will in time face other situations like this.Let your friends courage and faith be his testimony to you.
revelation 21:3-4


II corinthians 1:3-4
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try an alternative cancer treatment.. not fda approved.


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God is not hurting your friend. you've answered your question yourself...sometimes we'll never understand why we go through things.
Be strong. You've been very brave so far. I'm sure Brad wouldn't want you to worry yourself too much for his sake.
I'll pray 4 u and him.
Following God does not make you immune to trials. In fact I would say that it is the opposite you become more prone to have trials come into your life. The real blessings that come from following God is being able to endure through those trials.


We need our trails they provide us an opportunity to grow that we would not have otherwise.


Look at this from God's perspective. Thanks to the sacrifice of His son Jesus Christ every single person who has ever or will ever be born, including those children who died before they were able to be born, will be resurrected. Their body and spirit will be reunited never again to be separated. They will also be restored to their perfect frame. Their bodies will be free from any handicaps, or similar thing, they suffered with in this life.


Brad, no matter what happens to him during his ordeal with this terrible cancer will be made whole again and when the time comes that his spirit and body part he will go to that God that he has so faithfully served, and will greet you upon your entry into the next life with the warmest of greetings, because of the love and friendship that you have for him.


When you do talk to Brad next ask him how he stays as strong as he does and also as God to help you learn that as well.


My prayers go out to you my young friend.
golly sweetie, you've asked this before. didn't you like the answers you got on it the last time? i thought they were great answers!





bless you!





delme
Just remember to have faith. Jesus performed miracles on people because they believe in Him. Also, remember that God only gives us as much we can handle and no more. As for advice, all I can tell you is that is to read some of the Bible, you could just turn to any random page and start reading. I always find comfort in reading the Bible. I will also make sure to pray for you and your family right before I go to sleep.
Sorry for you, your family, brad, and his family. When my mother died from a very painful, dibilitating bout of cancer, Christians told me that 'she is in a better place' that 'god needed her more than we did' and that 'god loved her so much that he wanted her there with him'.





None of that was very helpful. As a 15 year old, I couldn't understand why god would think that he needed my mother more than me and my little sister did.


Regardless, god didn't help and god didn't show.


Nor did 'he' make my mom's pain go away.


Brad is important to you and you should be there for him and his family tomorrow. but don't forget that, following Brad's life, his family will need support then as well. All too often, the support stops on the day or week of the funeral . These children will forever be without their daddy....and you sound like a great girl who cares about this family. You should support them and Brad in whatever way you can.


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Brad is going to die, and you should be there to witness his going. It's an event that you will regret later if you miss it. I was there when both my grandmothers and my father died, and I was there when a dear friend died of Aids. Don't miss it.





I don't know why God is taking Brad, but God is not the cause of Brad's pain, He is the comfort that relieves the pain. It is a sad fact that most cancer's are a result of modern day living and the gene pool becoming thin. God is not the cause, we are.





Do not mourn his passing, for he's going to to be with God. You will mourn the loss of him in your life, but for him there is nothing but goodness to come. Go and celebrate his life and witness his death. It is the most loving thing we can do.
Look at the big picture.


Here are some simple facts. You and I are not promised tomorrow or even toady. Facts are that we do not even know if you will finish reading this before you or I are called home. With that in mind I would like to point out that Heaven will be a whole lot better place then lying in the hospital fighting a body all ate up with cancer. If Brad goes home tonight then Brad is home. The only problem is that we will miss him while we wait to go home too.


At the same time your distress shows what a wonderful and warm heart you have,


May the Lord richly bless you and grant you wisdom and comfort in this time of trouble.
Your Dad is trying to protect you...the last hours of a person's life are not often pleasant to witness. That said, I say you should be allowed to go. When my Grandfather passed on from bone cancer, he was surrounded by our entire family, we quietly held our last respects and he went knowing everyone loved him. He was also heavily medicated so there was no screaming or shouting (and people dying do this sometimes, so be mindful of that) and he passed very peacefully. With one breath he was with us, with the next he was gone. It was one of the saddest and most moving things I ever experienced. My girls who are closer to your age only chose to come in and visit for a few minutes hours before the end...this would probably be the best thing for you to do. Everyone needs the chance to say goodbye to loved ones. You'll be in my thoughts.