Words of advice/comfort? Women only plz?

I have been in a relationship with this guy for 7 years (and unfortunently so attatched).. and all the sudden he stops talking to me and cusses me out and turns his phone off for hours, even until 4 in the morning. He cant even come by my house to say hi and wont let me come over to his like I used to every day..all signs point to he cheating... I feel so stupid and extremely hurt and lonely, and really heartbroken.. and angry, and when I ask if he's cheating he gets mad and tries to break up with me, and me being stupid begs him not to and apoligizes, and I cant stop myself from calling his phone back to back.. Its very sad and I am seriously suffering and in denial. I cant even sleep at night. Have you ever been through this or have any words of advice or comfort to help me move on? I actually even considered calling a suicide hotline, thats how horrible I feel, like I just lost my world.. PLEASE NO IMMATURE/HARSH responses. ThanksWords of advice/comfort? Women only plz?
THAT IS JUST WRONG. YOU'VE TOGETHER FOR 7 YRS AND YOU DON'T EVEN LIVE TOGETHER?????? I THINK HE IS CHEATING. DON'T LET HIM DO THAT TO YOU. MOVE ON. I KNOW YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!Words of advice/comfort? Women only plz?
First of all if he is indeed cheating, he is a SCUMBAG for subjecting a 7 year relationship all for someone else without even having enough respect for you to just end things like a mature and normal person should. Last year I went through a divorce from an almost 7 year relationship where my bastard of an ex-husband was cheating on me again. You need to realize that if he is cheating then you need to let him break up with you and you need to move on and realize that your life is better off without him because you deserve better then this. I know it hurts and it is extremely difficult and lonely, trust me I know, read some of the first questions I asked on here, but your happiness should not be dependent on someone else and you need some counseling if you are considering suicide because of some idiot who doesn't realize or appreciate what he has. Good luck to you but get rid of this as*hole and working on finding happiness and some self-esteem independent of a man or anyone else. Take care and good luck : )
You should never let a guy ruin your life. Your giving him the satisfaction of knowing how bad you want him and how bad your suffering. It's gonna take some time, but MOVE ON! Of course, he's cheating, and you need to be a strong enough woman to say, I'm better than this. Find you a nice man that is going to treat you right. You will never find that nice man if you stay with him. I've been with my husband for 8 years and if he was to ever treat me that way, I would leave. I don't deserve to be treated in any bad way, and neither do you. Good luck.
i know you said no harsh words...but you are just being an idiot.





do you realise that you're letting this jerk treat you like crap? is that how you want to be treated like for the rest of your life?


read your question again and again and look at how pathetic you sound. my advice is that you break- up with him. what are you??too ugly to find another boyfriend who'll treat you with the respect you deserve? if you aren't ugly, then move on! yes, it will hurt for a while but do you want to be hurt by this man for the rest of your life???i think not!





you do not need him! you need a REAL man!
hey well it sounds like we are in the same boat my man has done so and still haven't heard from him. even though its killing me inside i'm acting like it doesn't faze me because if you show him that your hurt and can't do nothing without them then they start thinking oh i'm going to do this she can't live without me anyway. so maybe if you start not showing that you care maybe he will notice oh **** maybe i shouldn't be doing this i can really lose her. so what ever you think is right in your gut then go with that cause nothing is ever right until you start listening to your womens intution. HOPE IT WORKS OUT FOR YA
He sounds mentally and verbally abusive. Victims of abuse blame themselves and beg the abuser for forgiveness. You should seek help. Look in the phone book for a hotline. You will hurt, but the pain will go away.
Well It is kinda hard to no be Harsh. So let me put it this way. You have been with him for 7 years. Well I have been with my man 7 years also. We Have bought a House, Had 2 children, and gotten Married recently. When you give that much of your life to a person and you have nothing to show for it. That is when you need to realize that you have wasted the last 7years. My now husband and I were both going through the motions. We moved in together first to see how things went, then we eventually ended up pregnant. Yes I said We. Then we decided to buy a house, Then we had a second child yes on purpose this time. I had a daughter from a previous marriage I wanted to make sure this time it was really gonna work. We knew we wanted to be married but we did not want society or parents pushing us into making decisions on our on. TRUST ME THEY TRIED. Especially parents. But we recently got married after 7 years, On 7-7-07 to be exact. So To make a long story short if after 7 years you have not moved forward in your relationship with him Sweetheart it is no way You should WASTE another day of your life settling. People Treat you the way you Allow them to. If you make a doormat of yourself then that is how you will be treated. Don't let him do that to you. Unfortunately feeling cannot be turned off like a light switch. The same way you fell into him. You need to fall out. You see he has no concern for you or your feeling or he would not cuss you, Cut you off, and not speak to you for days. HE does not have the Balls to let you know your not what he wants. Instead he uses you like a Dirty dish towel. Now if you feel like that is what you deserve. Then you wait for him. If you know that you are worth more than that. You find a way, to move on. Lie to yourself until it is the truth. Tell yourself whatever you need to shake him off. He is a bad habit that is emotionally scaring you. You deserve better. You allow him to treat you like dirt. Now your at the point that you feel like life is not worth living without him. Girlfriend PLEASE. You have not been living the last 7years if that is what you deal with. If you want to hold on to him because of the time, There is one thing worse than wasting 7 years on someone, Thats wasting 7 years and 1 day, just think of how much time you will waste if 11 years pass and you realize he is still the jerk he was years before that. So you can continue to waste your life which is much more precious than you are giving it credit for. You are worth more than you are giving yourself credit for. Your life is more that just him. He is not who completes you. Somewhere there is man out there that is going to be all you want, need and More. God has more in store for you than being a doormat. Love yourself first, Love yourself enough to look in the mirror and say it. If he don't love me, Then the most important person in the world does, and that is ME(you)..... Love yourself. Then share that love with someone who can love you as much as you do. Don't let him or anyone else determine your worth. YOu determine your worth. YOu are worth so much more. Move on girlfriend. Move on. Love yourself, and Move on.





Good Luck finding your real Love.
Just take it easy and just because your losing this guy of your does not mean that the world just stopped! Talk to him because all those signs are cheating signs....and if he dosent respond then leave him because you dont want to get involved with a person like that, who is going to be unfaithful! Move and stay strong.....
Ask him straight up. ';Are you in love with me? Do you love me as much as I love you?'; Sweetheart, he's not the only guy out there that can be your match/mate. You are thinking drastically because you have been with just him for 7 yrs and afraid of being alone. Dont you have any other supporting friends? If he does want to break up, I know it would be extremely hard on you. Sorry.


Are you going to school? High School? Tech School? Vocational School? College? Focus on your future on what career that you would like to do. You cant just hope for the best that some guy is going to stay with you. I dont know if you already have your education planned. Maybe he is going thru some kind of crisis. Maybe he has not matured yet. But whatever it is.... the 2 of you need to talk. Hopefully, calmly.





Hypethetically speaking............ the 2 of you get married and he still has outbursts like that. You are miserable because he does not want to talk. He shuts you out and seems to be mad all the time. Then it can get worse. ........... That's no way to live. I was with the wrong man for 10 yrs and had 2 kids with him. Dont get me wrong, I LOVE my kids. I believe they will always be with me.


I wish I could be there for you for support. I will try here. I hope I helped. I hope to help more.


Good luck.
you should go hang out with some of your friends go out have a good time and MOVE ON!





trust me it isn't worth it especially if he is cheating...
my friend just went through the same thing, not so long a relationship but he tried to break up with her 6 times and she begged him not to. it is not the best idea. you dont want the guy to think you are desperate. and as hard as it is move on. think of the time you were together as a good part of your life. and dont look back regretting. i know you have probably heard this so many times but there are other fish in the sea and you never know who you will meet. drop this guy and if he really wants you back then he will come back but otherwise you dont need that stress in your life.





good luck
NEVER NEVER NEVER make someone else your ';world';...that's so unwise (I'm trying not to be harsh!).





Dump the guy because that relationship is basically over. Treasure the fond memories, learn any lessons that are there, and move on with your life.





Don't lower yourself to beg someone to stick around, when they are totally disrespecting you. No one is worth that, and with over 3 billion other males on the planet, there are MANY better options for you sugar (not the least of which is being single for a while).





Take care of you, and stop demeaning yourself to someone who apparently doesn't care anymore. That relationship has run its course...accept that and move on.





May the path ahead be sunny soon!
First of all - you need to realize that he probably isn't coming around anytime soon and that you are going to need time to heal and get over the huge hump of losing a relationship. It's just a fact. So take things day by day - and do not call him. Think of all the crap he's done and accept the fact that he doesn't even care enough about you to give you closure - so you may not have closure. Not everyone gets it. Although I know you deserve it, he just won't give it to you. It's wrong and he sucks and he deserves to sit in his miserable existence for the rest of his life, but it's the way it is. Once you can manage to get that out of the way (and it will take time) - you will start to realize how much better you feel after that and then you will see that you deserve someone that won't waste 7 years of your life and will not lie to you and will not treat you like a second class citizen...and when you do that - that is when you will find it. But first, concentrate on you and don't worry so much about him. Obviously what you are doing right now (contacting him trying to get answers) isn't working and is only making you feel worse, so stop that. And should he want another go at it - say no. Please. For yourself and your own sanity. Just stay away from the a$$hole until you feel strong enough to handle him and say no to him.
well definitely dont commit suicide because a guy isnt worth that no matter who it is.As hard as it is you really need to move on.ive been in this same position and you just need to get him out of your life and try to find someone else.It will be hard at first but trust me theres better guys out there and you can find one.
Oh, thats awful... I'm sure that it'll be okay, did you say anything to upset him? Maybe asking him if he was cheating might have upset him. Because if he wasn't it might feel to him as if you were questioning his loyalty to you, but if something is up (a.k.a cheating) then he wasn't right anyway. I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling this way. Hope that this helps somehow. Feel better
dear you just need to understand that you are ruining your life for a jerk who kinda left you for someone else... y??? y are u doing this to yourself? i know it hurts a lot and trust me i can feel your pain but you need to overcome your pain and first of all go n talk to him directly about what exactly he wants? cuz you should know whether he's with you or not? don't be afraid of him or apologize everytime he threatens you about breaking up,its ok cuz i really don't think you should be staying with him anymore after all he's hurt you so much...


don't spoil your health for him and thank God that he saved you from such a loser... at least now you can lead your life peacefully without any tensions and worries... plz dear you need to help yourself none of us can help you the way you can...!!! gud luck and smile:)
I know that is how you feel, but you haven't lost your world. Things change constantly in our lives and relationships. This is a bad spell for you, maybe permanent, maybe not. My point is don't let yourself be miserable, nobody can predict the future. Quit calling him, and keep yourself busy. Give him time to figure out that possibly your the one who has a change of heart about this relationship. Maybe he will decide he doesn't like it when he is not in the drivers seat. Hopefully, if that doesn't happen you will be a little farther down the road to getting over it and feeling better about it. Best of luck you.
Break it off with him. If he's cussing you out, he's not good for you. Besides, you both seem very unhappy in your relationship.





You were right in trying to seek professional help. We could all use a little therapy sometimes. It could help ease a lot of your troubles. I don't think you should deal with this all by yourself.





Good luck and I hope everything works out for you.
This is all part of life. To love and to have your heart broken. It happens to the best of us. I don't know why the guy just all of a sudden has began to ignore you or if that is his immature way of breaking up because he either doesn't feel the same about you anymore or maybe he was cheating. I wish I could say that tomorrow will be a better day, but it doesn't work that way. Love hurts. When you fall in love you are giving them all your trust, emotions, etc and when your heart gets broken it takes time to heal. But Time is the healer to all things. Just take one day at a time. Let him calm down a few days and I mean no driving by his house, calling him at all, etc. Lets things cool down and go from there. Good luck.
as hard as it is move on!
i know how you are feeling dear be glad that you dont have a child with him try to find a new hobby to keep you occupied its not going to be easy but you have to try for your sake rest assured the minute you start getting over him he'll come back to you and apologise for now try and avoid calling him take it one day at a time and one step at a time the'll be a time when you will feel so lonely that you'll be tempted to pick up the phone and call but don't do it rather call a friend or your mom goodluck dear.they say heartaches lasts as long as you allow them to and don't keep the pain learn from your past relationships and that guy is not worth it its painful to waist years on someone who is not worth it if he is woth it now he won't be worth ten years from now.