Do you have any words of advice, words of reassurance or scripture that can help me?

Let me give you a little bit of background information on my situation.





I have a very close family friend named Brad who is practically a second dad to me. Almost 2 years ago, he was diagnosed with a rare form of bone cancer called chondrosarcoma. He has had 3 massive surgeries in a 4 month span, 2 1/2 months of stomach bedrest and hundreds of hours of physical therapy. He has also gone to Germany(we live in the U.S.) 3 times in order to get experimental treatments because there is very little information on this type of cancer. This man has lived WAY past what the doctors said that he would and our entire family/church family is very grateful for that. We have had several benefits for him and our entire church is praying for a miracle. Resently, one of his lungs is 100% tumor and the other is 67% tumor, making breathing extremely difficult. He is having a very difficult day today and some people aren't expecting him to make it through the night. I am supposed to go see him tomorrow and I'm very very scared on what tonight and tomorrow might hold. I know it is even worse because my dad is having second thoughts on letting me go see Brad tomorrow. Brad is one of the most religious, kindhearted, giving, and god following men I know. He has an amazingly strong wife and two beautiful children. A girl who is 2 and a boy who turned 5 today. We are all very close and all struggling together.





I have been raised in a church my entire life and I know that god has a plan for everyone even though we cant always understand it, but i can not express how badly i want to know why god is letting all of this happen. Brad has had god first in his life, so why is god hurting him so much? Im begging god to heal Brad. His wife, children, and family all need him desperatly. There arent any other treatments avalible for Brad because he is too weak. This situation is all in god's hands.





If you have any words of advice, confort, scripture, ect. please tell me. As I am typing this tears are running down my face. I dont think im going to be able to sleep tonight considering the circumstances.





Thank You in advance and God BlessDo you have any words of advice, words of reassurance or scripture that can help me?
You know, peace doesn't always come in the form of eloquent words of wisdom and the thought ';everything happens for a reason';. Sometimes those cliches hurt more than what we would like to admit. What does help, I think, is just knowing that you're not alone. The Church is here to support each other in the good and the bad. This just happens to be the bad. I want you to know how sorry I am that your friend is in the situation, but my hope is that you will find some sort of comfort in knowing that you and your friend and all involved are being lifted up in prayer by someone who doesn't even know you. That is exactly what the Church is for. You wrote your question with tears streaming down your face, and I'm responding with a prayer in my heart. My prayer is that God will bring peace to your hearts, that he wil provide just the right people to bring comfort, and that his strength will be yours in this time.Do you have any words of advice, words of reassurance or scripture that can help me?
A very difficult situation.


Trust in the Lord with all your might, and lean not on your own understanding.


God DOES have a plan.


Jeremiah 29:11
Read the book of Job. This will clarify you situation.
You should go see him, he might want to see you.





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Should anything happen, just remember that you two were close.
I'm sorry to hear this. God knows best for everyone. God is bigger than cancer of the bones. God can change all this for ';good'; for those who love Him.


Romans 8:28


28 And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.





Also read the book of Job...


See how the Lord blessed him twice as much...





The Lord bless you %26amp; your family.


May the Lord heal Brad in the name of Jesus! Amen.





Keep thanking the Lord for Brad's healing. Even though it hasn't happened yet.
Following God does not make you immune to trials. In fact I would say that it is the opposite you become more prone to have trials come into your life. The real blessings that come from following God is being able to endure through those trials.


We need our trails they provide us an opportunity to grow that we would not have otherwise.


Look at this from God's perspective. Thanks to the sacrifice of His son Jesus Christ every single person who has ever or will ever be born, including those children who died before they were able to be born, will be resurrected. Their body and spirit will be reunited never again to be separated. They will also be restored to their perfect frame. Their bodies will be free from any handicaps, or similar thing, they suffered with in this life.


Brad, no matter what happens to him during his ordeal with this terrible cancer will be made whole again and when the time comes that his spirit and body part he will go to that God that he has so faithfully served, and will greet you upon your entry into the next life with the warmest of greetings, because of the love and friendship that you have for him.


When you do talk to Brad next ask him how he stays as strong as he does and also as God to help you learn that as well.


My prayers go out to you my young friend.
I am so sorry for this terrible situation... I recommend you watch this video... it might help you understand God's purpose in physical and emotional suffering:





http://www.godtube.com/view_video.php?vi鈥?/a>





As for a Scripture, see what God told Paul when he faced physical suffering:





But he said to me, ';My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.'; Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.





2 Corinthians 12:9
During these times we must lean on and rely on our faith in God.


Remember that God knows best. Brad knows this too. It's okay to pray for yourself too during these times. I pray for you all. May God show you all the way
I have not much to say but before I begin my prayers are with you and God Bless you.





I will not complain about my life. I went through hard times as many people would say but I don't. I consider them a blessing by God. My grandmother was a wise woman that died 94 years old and wasn't taking any medication. Her mind was clear as it was in her 30's. She went through 2 World Wars in Greece and had 4 children. After her 63-64 year she began to have problems walking. But when ever I saw her she would say Glory to God. She lost her husband before she reached 55 and she didn't complain to God that there was no one to take care of her. Glory to God she said. My mother took care of her till her death. Not in no institution but home. Glory to God. Little children she saw died by leukemia, cancer....but God knew she said.


She was poor but Glory to God she said. She had faith in Him.


I lost her last year. She was a great woman and I owe most of my spirituality to her. I love her and always will.


Have faith in God because He knows what are trials are! I tell you I hope to meet the Lord in my next life because near Him I will find the peace she found.


My friend do not fear death because it is only the beginning of life. Trust in Him and He will reward you. Pray for only this...


Strength.Wisdom and Peace (the Peace that Jesus had)
Shortly after my husband and I got married, one of his uncles died of a heart attack. Uncle D had taken his family to Disney World (FL) on vacation, and as they were leaving the park one evening, D collapsed and died right at the entrance. Thankfully, he went quickly and didn't suffer.





Much like Brad, D was a very good man, believer all his life, went to church and loved God.... So why'd he have to die?





Honestly, this is one of those times when faith has to be what we lean on, because there is nothing else. The family has suspicions as to why Uncle D had to die- we feel that Father needed him for something important.





I don't know much else to tell you, but I know that there is a reason that Brad has to suffer like this. I know it hurts to see him like this, and your heart is simply breaking. Maybe Father is using his suffering to help you and your family grow in some way. Maybe there is one last thing Brad needs to learn before he goes home. Maybe there's a little of both.





Pray for understanding, increased faith, and an ability to accept Father's will. He loves you, your family, and even Brad. Father has orchestrated all things that happen to be for our good.





*hug, handing you a kleenex, too*
I am very sorry to hear that. I too have felt abandoned by God recently. It just seems like no matter how much I try to do right, evil is able to trick me, steal from me, and falsely accuse me. Jesus had the same problem, evil people threatened him and harassed him and the Devil tested him after his baptism. My sister is also falling apart from cancer and I know it isn't God that does it but evil. I don't think you should blame God, there are evil forces out there and they are the type to do things like this, not God.
You are worrying over the matter unnecessarily. Submit your issues in the hands of God and be free. Let things happen as God wishes. Maybe, God gave this situation for all you people to come closer to him. If he gets cured, your people will forget God and will go back to your normal life. God does not want it; he knows that Brad will be taken to live with Him in his hereafter. He also wants all of you there with him, where nothing shall harm you and your life will be forever. Why should you bother about the life on earth which will surely come to an end? Think of the life with God, which will never end. We don't really recognize the preciousness of that life and are very much attached to this temporary life.
I am so sorry for your pain. My advice is simply this. Hand your struggles over to God. God is the only one who knows Brad's plan. He knows where Brad will be tomorrow morning. God has a bigger plan for Brad though. Brad has made himself a disciple. Brad has given his life, his heart, his family and his spirit over to the Lord and God knows how precious and wonderful he is. How much happier could Brad be then he will be in Heaven? Brad has been living his life as a disciple to one day be with the Lord in Heaven and so maybe it happens sooner then Brad or you or his family expected but whenever happens you must trust that it was already known and planned since before Brad was born. God is not hurting him. I know you know that. God is not hurting you and I know you know that too. God is a loving a nurturing God so turn to Him. Hold up your hands and grasp on to Gods. Wrap yourself in His warm embrace and know that He will always protect you. This world is not of Him and we must know that the pains and sicknesses and troubles of this world will not follow us to Heaven. Do not turn from God RUN TO HIM! Let Him love you and hold you through this pain.





My heart goes out to you and all those suffering around you.


God bless
You don't mention your age and that may be a legitimate reason for your dad's concern although there are always exceptions and I assume both you and your dad are praying about this.


Reasons for going - difficult as some may seem:


1. Its all about Brad's needs - not yours. It would be hard for me to believe that he would reject you at this point and is probably waiting for you to come


2. Think about all you can be thankful for in Brad's contributions to your life and focus less on the inevitable loss his death might bring.


3. Trust in God's timing and thank him for sending Brad to you and the reasons why.


4. Trust more in where Brad is going than your loss and be joyful for him.


5. Don't be afraid to grieve and ask God to reveal his reasons as He comforts you adn trust in his response - which may take years.





Isaiah 57:1 The righteous perish, and no one ponders it in his heart;


devout men are taken away, and no one understands that the righteous are taken away to be spared from evil. 2 Those who walk uprightly enter into peace; they find rest as they lie in death.


God keep you.
Lord , I pray for brad right now, I ask that you will comfort him and loved ones through this painful process. Cover him in the blood of Jesus. Forgive him for any sins. Cause the healing of every internal organ in his body to manifest. according to 1 Peter 2:24 Thank you Jesus for you getting all the glory in Jesus name Amen.








For the director of music. Of David.


1 In the LORD I take refuge.


How then can you say to me:


';Flee like a bird to your mountain.


2 For look, the wicked bend their bows;


they set their arrows against the strings


to shoot from the shadows


at the upright in heart.





3 When the foundations are being destroyed,


what can the righteous do [a] ?';





4 The LORD is in his holy temple;


the LORD is on his heavenly throne.


He observes the sons of men;


his eyes examine them.





5 The LORD examines the righteous,


but the wicked [b] and those who love violence


his soul hates.





6 On the wicked he will rain


fiery coals and burning sulfur;


a scorching wind will be their lot.





7 For the LORD is righteous,


he loves justice;


upright men will see his face.
I'm sorry to hear about Brad, and your broken heart . First, I pray for you sweet sleep ( Prov 3 : 24 %26lt;-- please read ) .


The two people from the Bible that come to my mind when i hear of something like this is , King Hezekiah and Job . Job had boils from head to foot and King Hezekiah had one boil. Of Job God said ( to Satan) you can't take his life, and of Hezekiah He said '; get your house in order,you are going to die . This says to me that it has little to do with the health problem and everything to do with Gods will .


Go see him and talk to him . Tell him his ' online ' brothers and sisters are praying for him too . ( and for everyone concerned )


God bless you .
';...and with his stripes we are healed.'; Isaiah 53:5


';Behold, I have graven thee upon the palms of my hands; thy walls are continually before me.';Isaiah 49:16





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You're all in my prayers.
Spend some time praying and meditating on the scriptures before going but you need to have some composure and not break down when you see him. Since he is so close to the Lord he will go to heaven and get rewards, right? Are you sure he is born again? Being religious won't get us to heaven unless we are truly born from above. Get a word from the Lord about this if you can before talking to him so that you can minister to him in a meaningful way.
Take heart and know that your dear friend is in the very loving hands of his Lord and Savior. Know also that God is not doing this to your friend.


God allowed man choice and that brought sin into the world.


Sin brought disease and suffering and death. Your friend will soon have a real and perfect body in heaven. Paul said in Philippians 1 :21


To live is Christ, but to die is gain.


That means the time your friend spent here was spent being Jesus to other people. He is about to recieve his eternal reward for that. Please do not mourn in the same way a pagan mourns a lost loved one.


Dont take that the wrong way, I mean if you follow Jesus too you have an assured promise to see Brad again!


I miss my Dad too, I lost him 11 years ago December 17th. I miss him a lot... But I take joy in the fact he recieved Christ a few weeks before he died in my arms from pneumonia brought on by cancer.


My heart breaks for you and I am crying now too.


Your friend has run a most excellent race. Please do not turn your anger on God, but lean on His trustworthy arms to get you through this time of sorrow. Perhaps his life will influence someone to put their trust in God because of your testimony about him.


Peace


Jesus gives us 3 kinds of peace.


Peace from God- We are no longer God's enemy


we are free from God's judgement


Peace with God- He calls us his son/daughter. Heirs to all that is His!


Peace of God- Peace that passes all understanding. Peace thru all circumstances. Philippians 4:11





Love in Christ


I am praying for you tonight
I don't think that there can be anything I could say to console you.


Many people have said before this, that there is a reaosn that things happen, even the bad things and that it could be his wife will meet someone after his death that will greatly influence you in a positive way that otherwise would not have been a part of your life. I know it hurts to have someone you love dying and you should spend your time comforting them, being with them, talking with them so you can live on and carry them within you. :)
God isn't hurting Brad. God didn't give Brad cancer. Who knows why these things happen. Sometimes God doesn't stop the natural processes in this life because He has a greater good in mind. And remember this: if Brad has put God first all his life - then he'll be happy to be going home. Think, maybe Heavenly Father is ready to have Brad back home with Him? I know you'll miss Brad - but Heavenly Father missed him too.





I'm so sorry for the pain and loss you're experiencing. But don't be afraid - the Lord is with you.