Words of Advice! Words of Advice!?

So my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 and a half years. We are both 19 and 20 years old. We've had some really rough problems and arguments. This past weekend we had a big blowup and we finally talked to eachother about it. My mom knows all about the arguments and stuff and she says I should cut it loose. I really don't want to and I really want to be with him. I'm really trying hard this time to change and become a better person for everyone and especially for myself. Is my mother right? Should we try one more time? I'm really confused. She says we're just going to be fighting 3 weeks from now because that's what kind of a relationship we built. I really want this but should I just cut it? Some advice and personal stories would help. Thanks!Words of Advice! Words of Advice!?
Why is this under the marriage %26amp; divorce section?Words of Advice! Words of Advice!?
Sounds as if you're doing all the changing for HIM rather than being yourself. That isn't going to make a relationship with him any better, in fact you will only begin resenting him because you can't be yourself with him. Your mother is right.
Unless you know what the problem is in your relationship your mother is right....it's just going to keep happening.





Maybe you can take a few hours and talk about what you each think is the problem......and then talk about how you can fix it.





You shouldn't change who you are for anyone else except yourself.....that never works.
You are way to young to be committed to anyone. You need to live your life and do what you want to do. Your life should not be filled with all these problems. You should be having the time of your life. I agree with your mom!
Honestly, without more information on what your problems and arguments are... I don't know how to answer this. IAll relationships hit rough patches, as we are all made with our own personalities and beliefs. It's a question as to if you and your boyfriend can respect those differences enough or at least find compromise to continue your relationship. If not... well... then even without knowing the problems, I'd say I agree with your mother.
short term relationship isnt enough to understand each other better but to fall in love with someone is just like a snap of your finger though you did not plan it just come.it took me several years to cope this up and it turned different since it wont work out one sided relationship.finally respect, commitment and lovin is the best ways to give!!!
You might want to change...but does he? It has to be the both of you working it out. Your Mom may see something you don't....since you are too close to be objective. Listen to what she has to say, and work on the valid points she makes. You have to make up your own mind if you want to make it work, or dump him, nobody can coerce you into doing something you don't want to do.
Your mother is probably right.





None of us know what the problems are, but I am betting that they are not all your fault. It's always good when someone wants to improve themselves, but you should only change if you really want to, for the right reasons. Otherwise, it won't last. Changing to make your partner happy wont make you happy and you will resent him for forcing the change. You will be bitter if your partner does not put in the same effort as you to improve your relationship.





The two of you are both young, so that might be your problems. A relationship that is volatile is not heathy or satisfying. So, unless you and your partner both want to improve your relationship, then give it another go. Try talking to a minister or go to some couples therapy to get some ideas on effective way to communicate/disagree. You may find that you are too different and a marriage would never work, so it would be better to find that out now rather than later.

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