First time dilema,words of advice please guys?

Here's the dilema


Im 17 and like some blokes my age im really craving having sex for the first time.


My dilema is that I came really close a fortnight ago with a random girl id hooked up with at a party,we'd both drunk a bit,so we werent thinking straight.


We ended up in the bathroom and i was going to go for it,but she said no.I understand no means no,so i didnt persuade her.However i know if tried she would have given in,i wouldnt have seen her again as she lives out of town. I feel really frustrated as i knew i could have scored if i ignored her initial demand.Her friends were also egging her on,which didnt make it any better for her either.


To make it worse it was on the evening before i turned 17.


I know i did the right thing by not forcing her or continue pestering her,but i know if i had i would have had a green light. :/


I posted this in mens health as i know id cop **** from the girls if i posted it in their section haha





Just need some manly words of advice n how would you have gone about this situation? cheers guysFirst time dilema,words of advice please guys?
You did the right thing, just because she would have been keen if you pushed doesn't mean either of you would have felt good about it later.


You'll lose it eventually and you will never forget it.First time dilema,words of advice please guys?
I think you did the right thing! While your hormones are raging it is hard to be a ';gentleman'; but you arose to the challenge. You should be proud! I know you feel disappointed on the sex end of it, but your time will come, and it is much better to be with a partner who is also 100% sure of doing it, not one who is apprehensive and may regret it afterward.
dude thats not the way to do it have sex with a girl u love and a girl that loves you it will be alot better...i promise! I had sex with a girlfriend after dating her for three weeks and didnt love her and i rele regret it.and so does she.so wait until u know u love the girl..well worth the wait..
Always, always, always if a girl says no it means no! You do not pursue it, particularly if she is drunk, to do anything then would be rape!


If you find a girl who is willing and does not say no, use a condom! Every time, for your own protection!
Yeah it's a good thing you didn't force her, and it's better having sex when you reach legal age and if you really love the person. Lucky for you you're only a year away, as for me I have to wait for three more years.
Girls come here too ya know , u lil perverted rapist





hahah no only messin wit u





Seriously ya did d right thing and ull be greatful in future, u dont want to lose it to a drunk stranger who doesnt want it either, with an audience waiting for yous outside ??





well done
Good job,


Might not have lost your virginity but you can lose that any time, but you also didn't lose your self respect, and that's something you don't want to lose.
I agree with 1st response, you did the right thing dude
Yes you are right , no does mean that so well done for recognising that even if you had a few drinks


To be honest that is not the way to lose your virginity as you want to make the first time memorable


There is no shame in still being a virgin at 17 , and I accept that you are under peer pressure to lose it , but you should lose it to someone you really like and in a place where you will have plenty of time and be comfortable , not behind a closed bathroom door for a quick bang


make sure you carry some condoms around , especially at parties and be patient as it will happen sooner rather than later
Get her number... That way you would not be where you are today. Also -- use protection. A friend of mine did just that and caught a very permanent case of Herpes from just this sort of encounter. He then gave it to his girlfriend.





I never caught anything but then I always used a condom. Its like you never touch the girl in a way. Be careful there is more bad stuff out there then you can imagine.





For instance just in Washington DC 3 percent of the public is infected with HIV. This is a high number ! Proof that circumcision does nothing to prevent this disease.





Its not publicized much but its true. The United States ranks right up there with Africa and we never even admit this or the fact that cutting off foreskins does nothing to stop or even reduce the spread of Aids. Its propaganda. And here its the lack of it that is hurting the young people who are at greatest risk.





The activity you just mentioned will get you sick eventually. The odds favor it. Masturbation is on the other hand free from any STD, and you can do it anytime you want. As far as the body is concerned it cannot tell the difference. A climax is a climax.





Good luck to you.