Just got dumped via e-mail. Feel like $hit. Feel like a total loser. Anyone have any words of advice?

I had only been seeing him for 2 months. He told me 1 month ago he really liked me %26amp; he came on pretty strong at 1st. I don't think I am particularly needy or demanding, but I felt distance between us, so I called him last week %26amp; spilled my guts. I told him that I really liked him %26amp; needed to know how he felt about me b/c I felt that things were different between us %26amp; that he wasn't calling and texting like he had in the past. He gave me some BS line about being really busy. Today he emailed me %26amp; said he wanted to be honest with me. He told me my feelings were stronger than his feelings %26amp; that he wanted to just be friends. What hurts my feelings is that he couldn't even tell me in person or over the phone. I feel like everything he told me was a lie. I am so mad at myself for getting sucked into this mess. I feel like I should have never told him how I felt in the first place. Should I have done anything differently? Was I out of line by telling how I felt after only 2 months?Just got dumped via e-mail. Feel like $hit. Feel like a total loser. Anyone have any words of advice?
Two months is pretty early but not desperate. I've told a girl I was falling in love with her in 3-4 months. Email is pretty lousy. I don't think you should blame yourself. You were honest, and he didn't feel the same. Email wasn't ideal, but I wouldn't hate him for it. He has no obligations really. Don't feel like a sucker or looser. You sound really nice and honest. Someone better will come along. Maximum respect to ya!Just got dumped via e-mail. Feel like $hit. Feel like a total loser. Anyone have any words of advice?
All you did was tell him how you felt. You were honest with him. You shouldn't be mad at yourself, You expressed your feelings and you should ALWAYS express your feelings. Even though he doesn't have the same feelings, don't be mad at yourself, You did nothing wrong. It just wasn't right and I am sure you will find someone who is right for you. Just be happy you expressed your feelings, Many people can't.
I am sorry you are going through this, i know it is tough. You are who you are but you can learn from this. Maybe next time it would be best to not spill your guts after only two months. Start going out with a bunch of people and spend time and money on yourself and that will help you to move on. Best Wishes Emerald
No, he just can no handle a real woman that know what she want out of life keep pushing on and he will know soon or later what a real woman look/act like he still have a boyish mind and when he become a man he will put away boyish way that was a child move to dump someone over a email a man would have sat you down and told you face to face how he feel
no you did the right thing . He was the one who messed up. He is not being serious and playing around with your feelings. I have met a few guys like that.... at first they are all into you making you believe they really wanna be with you then they start to ';change';. Those kinds of guys are the worst to meet. Stay and play the game by doing the same thing or move on and forget about him.
You poor thing. Guys tell girls anything to get in their pants and then when girls fall for them they disappear. I only hope that you aren't pregnant or have a STD. At least he came clean with you though. It's hard to say to someones face what he had to say to you. Just carry on with your life. If he really cares for you, he'll come back and if he doesn't, it's better for it to happen now than when you are even more entangled.
You did the right thing. The chance we take by putting our feelings out there is that we could be rejected. He on the other hand was not worth your time or heart. He couldn't even tell you face to face with repect for your feelings how he felt. Move on. You are better off with out that loser.
i wouldn't say you were out of line, but i would never spill my


guts until he did it first and then i still would never completely


let him know exactly how i feel. your not a loser, he is for not


being able to face you and tell you exactly whats going on.
hey i was dumped over text messaging. I felt really important. If they dont have the guts to tell you in person and doesnt care much about using their time and talk to you, then theyre not worth yours.
Don't regret anything, you did what you thought was right. It was his loss. Some...most guys are jerks, but not all and you'll meet a guy that truly appreciates your feelings. There's always a new day to live and a new guy to meet.
Expressing your feelings happens to be natural human behavior... and if he didn't feel the same... then you shouldn't have been with him.... Also... he is a huge immature brat.... breaking up over email... is really sad
Maybe he told you via email because it was really hard for him too. that really sucks but at least he was honest at the end.
Don't say another word to him. That's pretty pathetic; sending an email instead of manning up and telling u staight up. What an ***.
OWEND!!!!
wanna feel better? dumping you by email is a total loser. be thankful. he did you a favor.
yes you were out of line and seriousily..... email?? grow up.
it seems kinda weird how he would tell u this through an email dont u think
no you weren't way out of line. you were being honest with your expressions at that time, and i'm sure you'd appreciate the same honesty to be given to you, only that you can't take the honesty that this person has now given you because you would want it otherwise. your ego is bruised, it hurts, but it's just the way it is sometimes. you win some, you lose some. he wasn't able to tell it to you personally because he was avoiding an ugly confrontation so he felt it safer and less painful to do it by e-mail. it's quickly done over with. Truth change for all people. what was true yesterday may not be true today. it just so happens that you're the one hurting now. just accept it that you can't have everything happening to you the way you want it all the time. you will have your time dropping the same bomb on another, then you'd understand that life is a continuous living and growing and growing up on things and then leaving... until such time you'd get settled for something more permanent. you're young, just enjoy it loving and having some pains and then loving again because that is the sign that you are human and fully living a life of a normal person.
it's okay. this guy is such an *** for dumping you over email instead of being a man and standing up to your face. just forget him. and no, you shouldn't have done ANYTHING differently. it was all his fault for making you feel like such a total loser. trust me, he's just trying to make you feel bad. and heck no, you're NOT out of line. it's good to spill your feelings, because then the other person really knows how you feel and then will take that into consideration. well, if they're a good and warm-hearted person. if they're cold and evil, then they'll just lock your feelings away and throw away the key. xD just forget him, and move on. (:
Oh no way, you did everything you could do...In my opinion you should never regret anything you do especially something like telling someone how you feel. Doing that takes a lot of guts its too bad he didn't have the guts to tell you in person. Don't feel bad at all, he truly did do you the favor. Do your best to get away from it and move on with your life. You did nothing wrong to let him know how you felt after two months. I've gotten that pathetic excuse as well ...'; i was really busy';...indeed it IS bullshit. He's a loser, I'm sure you'll find someone else who will treat you the way you should be treated and show you the same love you show them. Good Luck
well, i'm sorry that happened. i think you shouldn't be thinking about it. just go on with your life and try to get over it which might be very hard. remember that the relationship didn't work out for a reason and that there are going to come many more. so don't feel bad or anything. that sort of stuff happens almost all the time so just go with yourself and forget about it.


DON'T BE MAD AT YOURSELF!! you deserve a BETTER guy who TRULY cares about you. and if that wasn't the right guy for you, just forget about him. don't suffer for someone that DOEN't desrve it!!


well, i have to go.. although i don't know you, i wish you feel better and i hope my advice helps.


take care %26amp; good luck.. BYE!!
...You called him, he emailed you, etc... sounds a bit virtual. But yes, you were probably over extended by ';spilling your guts'; and came across needy, if not smothering for a commitment of sorts.





...Men are not attracted long term by what is readily available, but by what appears to be a scarcity, something rare; which includes sex.





...Nevertheless, you told him that you ';needed to know how he felt'; and now you have your answer. Most everyone has been through this and it is time to regroup your self esteem and move on; you can get over this in two ways... time, or a replacement.