**** jealousy ***** Someone give me some advice/words of wisdom please!?

I met my boyfriend a year ago and he is the absolute greatest thing that has ever happened to me. Treats me like a princess, makes me feel so special, and is absolutely the man i want to marry.





However, when we met, he was still living with his ex (coldnt break the lease). There was alot of baggage and the first couple months in our relationship they still had drama. Who knows... he could have even cheated at the beginning (i have no proof or anything.. i just know guys) It was the hardest thing in the world to watch the man you love go home to another women at night (slept in differnt rooms.. but sitll)





Anyways... he eventually gained my trust (and moved out!) and weve been great. Lately.. jealousy has been rearing its ugly head again.





I try not to be one of those ';crazy girls'; and check his phone and stuff.. i believe you have to just trust someone. But i broke the rule and ';glanced'; the other night. I got scared and put it down before i saw anything.**** jealousy ***** Someone give me some advice/words of wisdom please!?
I don't think you have self-esteem issues at all...never did. What you are suffering from is perfect boyfriend syndrome. He is just too perfect to have come from such a messy background. Jealousy is NORMAL in that situation....but trusting someone is an all-in...all-out proposition. You obviously don't trust him, and only YOU know the reason why. Is it the past...or the present? Two completely different things. If he is doing shady things in the present...that's NOT the same as listening to stories about his past or basing your fear on his past relationship. Once you answer that question, then you decide whether to throw in with this guy and take your chances or move on...but the WORST thing you can do is be wishy-washy about it. Next thing you know, five years is gone and he is sleeping on the couch waiting for the lease to expire.


To be honest, I am happy for the first time in my life because everything is open book...and there is PLENTY to read. But my girl knows all...including PC passwords. I know hers too. No mystery, no worry, just trust...always. Maybe not the way to go for most, but what exactly do people have to hide? You know you are already damaged goods...you've admitted as much. So maybe YOU sit down and spill...then tell him why you worry. One of two things happen: 1. He opens up to you as well and your relationship moves on. 2. He gets shaky and panics and you have your answer. Either way...get busy living or get busy dying...5 years at a time. Lots of Luck...Kes





Reread my post...what I'm really trying to say is that you can spend forever trying to fix your own insecurities...or you can take ANOTHER chance on a guy and see where it takes you. But you will spend the rest of your time with him wondering if you should have looked at the phone. Every strange call. Every time you can't figure out where he is. So either open the phone and fix the trust issue, or tell him how you feel and work through it together. I guarantee if he is one of the good ones, he will hand you his phone. Either way, you need to put this to rest...because where you're going isn't healthy for you or the relationship.**** jealousy ***** Someone give me some advice/words of wisdom please!?
You don't say why you've been getting jealous. Has anything happened to make you feel jealous lately? Sometimes our intuition may be telling us something. But, then on the other hand, I do think that the relationship began badly and trust wasn't there from the beginning and it could be that you're just revisiting it. It's sort of like starting a new job. If you don't start off well from the beginning, the first impressions haunt you for the rest of your time there.
it is when you are looking for something wrong with someone that you will find things you don't want to see. if you say things are great over the past, then let love be what it is; blind. you know that you love him and do all that you can do and deal with what you can to keep him. don't worry about the unknown and face anything that happens as it occurs.