I'm crushed, need a few words of advice.?

Long story short-





I messed around with this girl for over a year; got a place together, took her and her daughter in. Her having issues (mainly trust) of the past, she couldn't.. or rather wouldn't trust anything I do or say [no, not because I personally did something, i sitting in the hot chair for a previous man did]. And it's only so much a innocent man can prove before he gets fed up with it all.





Anyways, we broke up this past Easter; it got to be too much, and I realize I deserve better. The same exact day we broke up, she called me with her childs father on the phone saying they are together- but, since then she's been e-mailing talking about i'll always love you, i miss you, you have my heart. etc. -- all of which I ignored.





We're co-workers, also, and now all of a sudden she's walking around with a new office beau. Which is oddly killing me every time I see it/them. But today, it hit harder than before.





I'm walking through the hallway, and this new guy/her office beau is standing there holding - ';my daughter';; not technically mines- but, for the past year while her father was out the picture; I've been there, as ';daddy';. So- when I seen this, I quickly turned the corner before the little girl can see me -- but, I'm hurt %26amp; feel crushed.





Feelings still linger for my ex- but not to the point where I want to make it work. ADVICE?I'm crushed, need a few words of advice.?
Try to find a new job, if you can. You were right to split with this woman, but that doesn't make the break any easier. The sooner you can get her completely out of your life the better.I'm crushed, need a few words of advice.?
I think the only reason why she had trust issues is because of herself. Maybe she is the type of person that could not trust herself. Her insecurities had nothing to do with you or your fidelity. Sometimes, we have to buckle down and keep moving forward. Never stay at a stand still because you are hurt for the moment.
Well, first see why she broke up with you. If you know why she, try to resolve the problem. Also remind her, that you took in her daughter and helped take care of her. And, if that doesn't work, then move on, because that is telling you she was a dirty whore to begin with. P.S. NO WEED!
She's playing games, trying to make you jealous. You did the right thing avoiding the little girl. That would only hurt %26amp; confuse her. Just remember you KNOW there's someone right for you out there. Be patient. It'll happen. So, she has her daughter's father and some guy at work too? Stupid, sleazy girl.
omg that sucks! esp for the kid because she prob sees you as her dad =[ maybe you should try to talk to the girl and resolve it? at least so her little girl can have a dad figure in her life. i didnt grow up witha dad and trust me, it sucks. sounds like the girl you love is trying to get your attention tho...
your are right you do deserve better !!!!! don't forget now that she is with a man (if you could call him that) who deserted his daughter . this couple are welcome to each other you don't need people like them but i kinda feel sorry for the little girl..
That definitely does sound like you deserve better. Try to move on.


The fact that you are hurting only means that you are a really good guy and the fact that you felt like a Daddy to a little girl who is not really yours proves it even more.
Do your best to think positive thoughts, and try to keep your mind off of the situation. It's hard to do. But most of all, time is the key. It takes time to get over it completely.
Let her find what she thinks she's looking for. Give yourself time. She may come back to you, but live your life as though she won't. You must move on. I'm so sorry for how you feel about this.
Here's a quick way out of it;





Move. And possibly change your name.
I know that HURTS!!! time heals all wounds. You sound like a good man taking on someones else responsibility you will be rewarded at the end. I hope the best for you and your love life. I'll take you (lol).
yup weed always helps wit everything.
click click BOOM BOOM BOOM BOOM!
to the person who said smoke weed you r a f u c k i n g d i c k head no you should actually try to make it better with her
Keep moving foward.


Dont resent things if its too late to change them.
get over it.


things come and things go.
Beat her with a bat.
Im gonna have to go with the smoke weed bit..It numbs your feelings.
FBGM?
get a new job.
Damn dude... that's deep
ohhh soo saddd
smoke weed
looks like thers more to it than u cared to divulge..if there aint..sorry man..try to get that girl out of sight forever
damn this is a tough situation to be in...i feel your pain for real. all u can do is move along and hope things get better. they will. they always do...its just a matter of time...just try to find a new gurl to get caught up with or just stay close to your friends and family and hopefully they make u feel better...im truely sorry. oh and also smoking weed is always a good option..
I feel bad for the little girl involved in all of this musical daddys. Your ex sounds as though she is doing all of this to get to you so dont give her the satisfaction. You are above all of this and yes you do deserve better. I mean seriously why would she seek an office beau in the first place if not to rub it all in front of you. Perhaps a little flirtatious behavior on your part will let her know you are onto her game and are not interested in playing.
I think that, even though it may be hard, you should move on. Once trust has gone in a relationship you never really get it back and you will never really be happy in the relationship knowing your partner is always douting you. Seeing other men with the kids will get easier as time goes on and maybe you could come to some sort of aragment to see them every now and again.





well i hope whatever you decide to do works out for you xx
Hi ,





Well when you live with someone during a year , you get used to the person you start liking their presence liking them around and all that. And you like the baby . So its ok to have feelings , but you have to decide if you want to move on or go back to her.


Things will be harder because you guys are co-workers.


About the little girl , you can always treat her niece and care about her , coz she has nothing to do between you and her mom.
I am not an expert, but what I can see is that you do deserve more in life. This event is clearly not the worst thing that could have happen to you. This will be forgoten as time passes. Not to encourage you I believe that by taking her husband back it could be that she needs to replace that gap you left with a substitue such as her husband. Of course she is saying all those things out of a year of living together.





My friend my best advice is please let time heal the wound and dedicate your time to something. Learn to fly! literally go and take flying lessons that will get your mind out of it. I am almost a Pilot and the reason I did it is to get my ex back because she is worth fighting.





Best of luck and remember this is not the end of the world realize that we are all humans that need answers to all our questions but not all question could be understood it takes time to understand the answers. Look forward chin up and you made the right choice.
Honestly, there's really no ';good'; advice to give you. It's gonna be tough. And even YOU know that only time can fix this. The bottom line is you don't want to make it work with her, so it's simply NOT gonna happen. I don't even think she's worth your time for trying to rub it in your face that she's back with her previous. After ALL you've done for her. But then again, you know her better than I do. She may have been trying to make you jealous and end up coming back to her because really, she wanted you back (without confessing to it.) Don't depend on what others tell you. Sometimes, it manipulates what you really should do or how you feel about the situation. If you want to go through the trouble of making it happen again, then go for it. It's not fair that she treats you the way she does because of her past BUT does your heart tell you it'll change in the future? If you want to walk away, there's no immediate cure. ';Your'; daughter will always be a part of you but you take the good with the bad and move forward with your life. There's always a reason for everything that happens. Keep your head up. :)
I feel so bad for you. I know how this feels. Im so glad you have decided not to go back to her. At least you have your head on straight. All you can really do is hope shes happy and that that baby is being taken care of. Get out and get on with your life. Spend time with your friends and family. Surround yourself with people that love you and know that you are blessed. Good Luck