Thursday, May 13, 2010

Help! I need some advice, words of hope maybe?

I fell in love..and was in a relationship for 3 years.





And now, it might be done.





It's hard, and sad but I'll be ok everyone says...





But it's not so easy. Everything reminds me of my boyfriend, and I am so sad.





Please some advice as to how to move forward?





No rude comments please.Help! I need some advice, words of hope maybe?
it hurts... there might always be a spot for him in your heart. but the best thing you can do is forget. I'm sure you enjoyed it... and learned a lot about relationships. and moving on can be hard. it can be depressing. but the best thing to rely on is something stronger than you are. something that won't give up on you. pour your passion onto a canvas. or into guitar strings. write it all down in a journal. chronicle it with your old photos... then bury it somewhere in your back yard where you will never find it, or do something to where you will never see it again. this will help you disassociate things with him. and talk. talk to friends. to your family. talk to a counselor if things get too rough (and you should never be ashamed of that.) And lastly, always look forward to the future. you never know who fate may bring you.Help! I need some advice, words of hope maybe?
Well if the relation ship fell apart then that means he wasnt the one for you. You deserve better than some guy thats going to dump you after all the years youve been with him. Your going through a hard time, but is he? if he is then let him suffer so he can realize what hes loosing and if hes not he'll figure out by himself. Just think about it this way... If it was really meant to be with him then you guys would have stayed together. and maybe you guys are meant to be together but just got in a little fight but later yu guys will back together. Those are some choices that is not up to you or him to decide. You just cant do anything about it. I know how you feel, ive been through it too but what happens, happens and thats is
You need to be independent and love yourself again. Focus on yourself for awhile- your interests, your dreams, your happiness.





Make a list of all the positive things about the relationship and negative things. See which side beats the other. That can put somethings in perspective.





Most people would tell you to find someone else immediately, but rebounding is a quick fix that bandages the wound for awhile..





And when you find someone else (and you will, there are 6 billion people in the world) after healing yourself you can learn to love again.
Do everythin u use to do before he came in the pic. Go hang out w/ friends do the things u always wanted to do but u couldn't cuz u were w/ him. in no time u will get over everythin n u will be fine u might even meet some1 else life is not over bcuz a relationship ended yes 3yrs is a long time n it will not be easy but ur gonna be fine :) thts just a part of life n u have to go thru things like 1s in a while good luck n go have fun :)
Yes, you will hurt for a while and you might think of him, but you wont die. You have got to be strong-minded and find strength in yourself to move on. Nobody is going to live your life, but you and that's who you have to look out for. The reality is that people in life suck and we still let them in our lives. Try to move forward by focusing your attention on something else or meeting new people. I wouldn't recommend getting into any relationship right now.
if it does end, although not positive, just saying, maybe all the things that remind you of him, throw it out. Afterward, have time to grieve the loss of your relationship. be willing to experience it all, other wise you'll only hold it in and have to experience it some other time. Its all apart of the process and everyone moves at their own pace.
alright heres how it goes.


it is going to get worse before it gets better and if you want to speed the process up a little more you need to start meeting new guys and start to date more. if things start to get worse then just vent your feelings out to some one else. keeping those feelings in and not telling anyone about it will only make it worse:/ im sorry for what happened but it happened to me too but i was only dating the girl for a year and now im with some one better and couldnt be happier:)


youll be fine just hang in there!
maybe spend some time volunteering, like at an animal shelter or homeless shelter? i always feel better when i can make someone else feel better. it helps me focus on something more constructive.





then, when you get home, start a project. get a new hobby. anything to keep busy, and something that you wouldn't have done with that guy. everything will be alright, just give it a little time and a little effort. good luck!
im sorry, you must feel awful, deep pain. but remember how nice it was?? well u can feel that way again! just try to get through it and it will work out. maybe you can get a hobby or join a club. it might make you feel better. and this is what friends are for right?! and if you're really desperate there's always match.com lol good luck xoxo: me!
u just got to think of the better things in life.


because life is to short to waste it mourning an old relationship.


spend alot more time with the people you love most.


your friends or family.


have a singles night.


u should let loose alittle.


party!
love yourself.


eat ice cream.


have plenty of girls nights out.


realize that love it out there.





get ready.





get set.





%26amp; make yourself available and ready for love!
Try to get back into a normal schedule. That can often distract you, and gradually, you'll heal without you even noticing it.
well if is might be done try to find the spark in the relationship again............. if u cant everyone is right u will be alright but u hav to find out ur way choose ur path
Life goes on. Ppl have survived way worse. Honestly it truly is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.
time heals all... this one is PERFECT for every situation. no matter if it takes YEARS ur heart IS STILL GONA HEAL. theres nothing u can do to stop urself from healing =]]





have faith in god... prey that the pain gets better =]]
go for sum meditation or go for sum kinda activities which helps u to chillax..
Uh,what the first person said.


(:
Go for music
theres many differnt fish in the sea

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